Your hardest breakup

Duke · 09-10-2004, 08:59 PM

For me it was when the mother of my child felt we were no longer meant to be together. I literally cried myself to sleep for half a year because of it and had never experienced hurt on that level before.

I realized after time, that she was right and I wasn't crying for her, but for our baby girl. The funny part is, the breakup pales in comparison to the heartbreak I feel every time I say goodbye to my daughter.

You?

BattleaxE · 09-10-2004, 09:26 PM

I think mine was finding out my fiance was cheating on me really close to our wedding date. I thought I would never get over the pain i felt but looking back on things now I'm actually thankful that things turned out the way they did because I wouldn't have found my true soul mate and known how love is really suppose to feel. I hope that makes sense

Duke · 09-10-2004, 09:32 PM

It makes a lot of sense. It still gives me chills when I think of what you what you went through when he did this. You're a great woman and don't deserve that type of pain.

Before any of you say it though, I'm an entirely different kind of pain. :?

BattleaxE · 09-10-2004, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Duke

It makes a lot of sense. It still gives me chills when I think of what you what you went through when he did this. You're a great woman and don't deserve that type of pain.

Before any of you say it though, I'm an entirely different kind of pain. :?

you said that i didnt hehe you are a pain in the _ _ _ fill in the blanks if you will lol

Duke · 09-11-2004, 02:16 AM

Just thought I'd beat you all to the punch :roll:

Paul · 09-11-2004, 06:25 AM

Nope, been very fortunate, none of my very few relationships have been worth a darn until now. I dumped a girl once and I know it hurt her but I'm glad I did because it would have just led to trouble.

Roserman · 09-11-2004, 09:19 AM

Pretty much in the same boat as Pent, had some, but nothing too serious to really break any hearts, well mine at least.

Duke · 09-11-2004, 09:20 AM

You guys are lucky, but that may be because you have youth on your side. It will likely happen one day and boy does it suck.

BattleaxE · 09-11-2004, 08:54 PM

hopefully you youngsters never have to go through the heartache but, unfortunately I don't think that will be the case.

Duke · 09-11-2004, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by BattleaxE

hopefully you youngsters never have to go through the heartache but, unfortunately I don't think that will be the case.

The only positive I can draw from it is it's a character building experience. Unfortunately, the most annoying thing about break ups is you seldom learn anything and it's not uncommon to come out of a breakup more confused about the opposite sex than before you entered into the relationship.

Merika · 09-21-2004, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by BattleaxE

hopefully you youngsters never have to go through the heartache but, unfortunately I don't think that will be the case.

No SH*T Battleaxe!!!

I totally agree! Life wouldn't be life unless you run into at least one or two AssClowns along the way!!!

I had someone tell me from another forum that the opposite of love isn't hate....it's indifference. I suppose that's what people should strive for. Then, maybe you can patch it back up.....or maybe you realize it was doomed from the beginning.

I've had mine and certainly have no intention of going that route again. I feel sorry for anyone who still has their '15 months of pain' (as opposed to 15 mins of fame) ahead of them.

Duke · 09-21-2004, 11:54 AM

I also think that the sooner you can think objectively rather than emotionally then the sooner you'll actually heal from the heartbreak. Once I cleared my head of emotion, the healing process actually took very little time.

Merika · 09-22-2004, 10:51 AM

I think it can all depend on the cirumstances. When I got divorced....I pretty well knew in advance it was on a downhill coast. By the time we were divorced I was actually very relieved.

When you get hit blindsighted though...that can be really tough to accept. I was in a relationship where I felt I needed to walk away and I can truly say it about killed me. It took over a year to get on the other side of it.

I agree with getting rid of the emotion. That can be hard to do though.

Duke · 09-22-2004, 06:39 PM

Well I was dumped and didn't see it coming although I should have. It was the biggest hurt of my life and I'll never completely forget it.

However, the positive side of it is that I would never do that to another person. I know for a fact that I really hurt someone when I was much younger and it sometimes creeps up on me. If I ever run into that gal again, I'll give her my deepest apologies. I'm sure it won't matter in the slightest to her but it will bring me some peace.