Relationship update

Stone · 02-16-2005, 10:40 AM

Greg and I are stil "seperated" but on really good terms, We had a really nice day yesterday, we went to the doctors togeather to find out the sex of the baby and went to lunch and talked about our daughter, Noah ect. and decided we're not broken up but we're not togeather either... if that makes any sence.

Noah had his 1st T- Ball practice last night and he wanted his Daddy Greg to go with him, so we wen't togeather with my parents and Greg Volenteered to be the Assistant T ball coach!! :? Noah is so happy and I am happy, shocked, and touched. He is so wonderful to Noah and I am so greatful that he would do that for him. But I think that was a really good sign of things to come.

darkangelism · 02-16-2005, 10:57 AM

Sounds like you are working things out, and he will be around no matter what.

Star · 02-16-2005, 11:06 AM

that's great news SH. sometimes living apart for a little while to work things out is the best thing for the relationship. Sounds like you two are working hard to save your relationship.

Samson · 02-16-2005, 12:43 PM

This is good.

Sounds like he's begining to snap outofit, and the reality of being a father to HIS AND YOUR child may be sinking in.

But, I wouldn't expect this to be a straight line of progression....and still believe he needs to make a MUCH LARGER FREAKIN' committment TO YOU than becomming the freakin' assistant coach to your son's t-ball team!!! :x

Sorry to "shout" Heather, but I don't believe the guy deserves your glowing approval:

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Noah is so happy and I am happy, shocked, and touched.

I think you are happy more because your son is happy. Furthermore, IMHO Greg knows how to "get to you:" He has manipulated your son so that Noah's approval is more important to you than his timely firm committment that seems to remain illusive............why?

Merika · 02-16-2005, 12:59 PM

Would you say yes if he asked you to marry him?

Stone · 02-16-2005, 02:17 PM

I would say not at this time.

Samson · 02-16-2005, 02:41 PM

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talked about our daughter, Noah ect. and decided we're not broken up but we're not togeather either... if that makes any sence.

Whether it makes sense or not is relative I suppose, to how close you are to the situation. At any rate, it sounds much less than optimal, but I'm sort of glad to be removed from the situation, because if I went to lunch with you guys I'd probably have a brain anyourism or get arrested, or, most probably, both.

What is clear, Heather, is you got your hands full, and this guy is making some, albeit "a day late and a dollar short," effort which is better than nothing, I guess.

Soon, I hope he comes up with some bigger and better plans than helping supply the t-ball team with Gator Aid during practices.

Duke · 02-16-2005, 09:03 PM

I agree with Meanon and I'll be really suprised if it continues on in this course. I do hope the best for you, Greg and your family but I remain skeptical of his role and attitude.

Meanon · 02-17-2005, 06:41 AM

That's interesting Duke, seen as I haven't posted yet. Or maybe you are psychic?

I'm glad the relationship is improving again, heather. You need the support right now.

I know what Samson means. Greg has made you suffer for his lack of committment to this pregnancy, he really ought to have got over it when you decided you were keeping the baby and made it right for you then. I know Noah is the centre of your life and that he loves Greg but that's not a strong enough basis for the relationship with you. You deserve more.

On the other hand you've occasionally said things in the past that have made me think you're not sure enough of him yet to accept a greater level of committment. He may well know this. It's understandable, he's let you down and really needs to prove he can be a good father to his child before you may be able to trust him again. Things may well settle in time, heather. I'm not sure greg is the man for you long term but he's been a major force in your life and the ties that bind you are stronger than ever right now, despite the difficulties. Just make sure you ask yourself, is your life better or worse with him in it?

There's nothing wrong with being grateful for these signs of committment but keep your eye on what you want for your life and your family longer term. Expect more, you'll never get it if you don't.

Merika · 02-17-2005, 08:44 AM

I agree with Meanon IF and only IF....YOU aren't the one who really doesn't want to make this committment. Chances are, if you weren't pregnant, he would be history by now and you would be rocking in the police car.

I totally understand....because committment isn't MY high point either. I chose crappy relationships because they always allow me a way out. If they aren't crappy.....I'll make them crappy. Some of us are dysfuntional when it comes to using words like 'forever'. To me...'forever' is worse than a ball and chain. It just ain't gonna happen. I like men too much.... and preferably a variety of them at one time. :wink:

Duke · 02-21-2005, 06:27 PM

My bad :oops: