quick update....

godiva · 09-16-2005, 10:14 PM

well im still not divorced.... as for the relationship i was in we realized were better off as friends, and yeh the friendship is not as close as it was.... mostly my fault tho because of awkardness... i seem to sabatoge my relationships and i cant really understand why, i guess my thinking has always been its better to dump than be dumped which i could just wrap my head around for better understanding.... and the biggie i have come to realize is i use my "marriage" as a safety net 8O

darkangelism · 09-16-2005, 10:15 PM

so now you are just looking?

godiva · 09-16-2005, 10:37 PM

now im just sitting back and enjoying what i have with my kids and if mr right comes along he comes along.... ive never been one to search anyways it usually just happens.... i just wish it would be with "the" right one...

darkangelism · 09-16-2005, 10:43 PM

i think thats what everybody wants, and if this site is any represenation of the world, only a few people have found it.

godiva · 09-16-2005, 11:37 PM

my dream would be for him to walk in for a haircut tho.... :wink:

Luba · 09-16-2005, 11:44 PM

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my dream would be for him to walk in for a haircut tho.... :wink:

That could happen, especially when you least expect it...
That's a really nice romantic thought this great guy walking in...hmm..nice!

Merika · 09-18-2005, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by godiva

my dream would be for him to walk in for a haircut tho.... :wink:

That's a really nice romantic thought this great guy walking in...hmm..nice!

And you get to play with his hair!

Vautrin · 09-19-2005, 03:01 AM

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And you get to play with his hair!

:?

Duke · 09-19-2005, 01:38 PM

The best way to attract a better mate is to already be in a relationship, or so it seems. I can be on a dry spell with no chance for romance, start dating someone and then have other gals beating on my door.

I wonder why it happens this way?

Weiser · 09-19-2005, 02:17 PM

It's a fact. Women want men they can't have.

Meanon · 09-19-2005, 06:15 PM

That may be part of the reason, maybe they think you are less likely to possess the characteristics all single girls worry about (eg axe murdering) if someone else has vetted you first

. Duke, could it also be that you are just more relaxed around women than when you are single, so they tend to find you more attractive as a result?

Adonaicole · 09-19-2005, 06:23 PM

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The best way to attract a better mate is to already be in a relationship, or so it seems. I can be on a dry spell with no chance for romance, start dating someone and then have other gals beating on my door.

ha, ha, ha.... this is so true. My personal theory is that women just love driving us out of our minds.

Meanon · 09-19-2005, 06:24 PM

I'm sorry it didn't work out for you, godiva. I remember when you met this guy, how excited you were and what a big step it seemed.

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i seem to sabatoge my relationships and i cant really understand why, i guess my thinking has always been its better to dump than be dumped

No-one likes being dumped but ending a good relationship to avoid it seems a very heavy price to pay. Why is it so important to avoid it (being dumped)?

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My personal theory is that women just love driving us out of our minds.

Well, it's such fun!

godiva · 09-19-2005, 10:29 PM

well im thinking me not getting divorced yet has a tad to do with it.... sometimes my exhubby and i can be very good to eachother and then i start feeling guilty as all hell because perhaps, just perhaps my thinking is omg what am i doing.... i guess a part of me does want the ex hubby back.... ok... i think i know where im going with this... i think the frikkin light just came on.... 8O

as far as women wanting unavailable men.... ive seen it happen many times and for the most part when ive questioned girlfriends who do it they seem to fear the "alone for the rest of my life syndrome"???? or the devious part of trying to take him away as a sport more or less.... thats whne i could rtake them aside and b*tch slap the heck out of them....

Meanon: I love you.... you have this way of getting me to think of other "open doors" or other reasons i either have missed or didnt give a second thought about.... thank you so much....

Meanon · 09-20-2005, 11:43 AM

Thanks godiva, love you too.

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thats whne i could rtake them aside and b*tch slap the heck out of them....

... and I'm SO glad I'm in your good books

Adonaicole · 09-20-2005, 12:02 PM

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my dream would be for him to walk in for a haircut tho....

Sorry Godiva but this wouldn't work for me, the girl who cuts my hair is very jealous.

Actual conversation:

Her: So, I haven't seen you for awhile. (as she's massaging my hair)
Me: Just been busy with work and kid stuff.
Her: Looks like someone else was cutting your hair. She must be new, she made lots of mistakes.
Me: My sister just gave it a quick trim when she was in town.
Her: It better have just been your sister (as she grabs a fistful of hair) if I hear you've been to another hairdresser, I'll pull your hair out by the roots.

godiva · 09-20-2005, 08:12 PM