Getting Remarried After Divorce

Merika · 01-11-2005, 05:55 PM

I like to pride myself on staying single because I have a good memory.

I'm amazed at people who get out of one marrige....just to remarry again shortly thereafter.

How does everyone else feel about that?

Star · 01-11-2005, 06:24 PM

I agree with you. I don't think i'd get married twice unless the guy was really extra special and we'd be together for years and years first. I always said that if hubby and i ended up not being together for whatever reason, i would stay alone with my kids and just date.

Notice that these people who remarry right away also get divorced not too long after?

twinkle · 01-11-2005, 06:25 PM

They like the lifestyle and feel secure and protected when "married".

It's very frightening out there all alone. When I left my bf of 4 years I was totally lost. Out of the dating market, I felt incomfortable, vulnerable... I didn't like it much. I hated it. I liked the sharing...

Anyway time passed and I got the hand of it. But still needed the "shield": a relationship. And although we didn't see eachother much (we still don't), I had the mental support.

Relationship ain't marriage, I know. I'm afraid to get married. I hope to, one day, but that day is quite far away, to be honest.

Duke · 01-11-2005, 07:30 PM

I don't even think I'll get married once by the looks of things. I seem to attract fricken nutcases.

Merika · 01-11-2005, 09:22 PM

I guess that's the difference. My relationships are never the 'shield' ....they are always the 'dagger' portion of the scenario.

darkangelism · 01-11-2005, 09:53 PM

i know people that got divorced and remarried, it seems to have t do with what caused the divorce, some can get remarried. The more issues with the first marriage the less likely that are to get remarried.

Duke · 01-11-2005, 10:42 PM

After this last joke of a relationship I'll likely remain single for a while. At least until I can make some sense out of what actually happened. So far, it looks like I may be single from now till eternity.

Star · 01-11-2005, 11:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Duke

After this last joke of a relationship I'll likely remain single for a while. At least until I can make some sense out of what actually happened. So far, it looks like I may be single from now till eternity.

did she ever get a hold of you?

twinkle · 01-12-2005, 03:29 AM

Yeah, Duke you know, if that's your end in life, I hava some suggestions: staying indoor all the time, not seeing your friends, rerunning in your head over and over again all the things you did wrong, convincing yourself that women bring bad luck, not shaving etc etc.

But since you don't strike me a this type of a person... I advize you to do the contrary!!! 8) .

I may have a decent person on my side, but professionally I kinda ruined things for me too last year. But I'm fighting back!

twinkle · 01-12-2005, 06:40 AM

Sorry, Duke, sometimes Miss Inconsiderate B*tch takes over and does the posting!!!!

Samson · 01-12-2005, 08:07 AM

Ouch, Twinkie! :P

(Actually, this is one of the things I love about Twinkle: her comments can make mine sound like I'm quoting Leo Buscaglia)

I think you've the Right Idea, Duke. It is typically "Martian" (from Gray's, Men are from Mars, we must have time in our "caves" alone, to sort of collect our thoughts and re-establish our self-images.)

Once this is done, you'll be much more attractive, as long as staying in the cave doesn't involve daily binges including 2 lb bags of cheetos and a few 6 packs, and showering on a monthly basis, etc..

Instead I'd perscribe a new workout routine, daily meditation, and ..................lots of porn.

twinkle · 01-12-2005, 08:18 AM

You mean you're not? I'm surprised, I always find this hidden melody inside them, a bitter sweet touch yet soft, also everso hidden under the mask of cynisism...

(Never thought it was Buscaglia though)

Samson · 01-12-2005, 12:45 PM

Quote:

(Never thought it was Buscaglia though)

<<<<<sniffle>>>>>

<<<<sob>>>>

You've injured my inner child, and my self image!

So delicately yours,
Samson

Merika · 01-12-2005, 12:53 PM

Duke,
We've had a thread or two touching on the subject of sabotaging our own relationships. Is it possible that some people gravitate to people who are unsuitable....so they unconsciously know they are safe in it failing....therefore it won't require a life long committment?

Samson · 01-12-2005, 01:05 PM

Bah Humbug! Psychobabble.....

There aren't stupid people anymore, only those that cannot support their stupidity with the latest "syndrome" featured on the Oprah show, or foolish behavior with some moral relativism.

IMHO, Duke is fully conscious of the decisions he makes, and takes full responsibility for them.

BTW, Duke, that's a compliment.

Meanon · 01-12-2005, 01:28 PM

I don't think people choose to fail, but many are unaware of factors that play a part in their behaviour, particularly if it is repetitive.

It's not so much that it's subconscious, mysterious or hidden. More that it feels so comfortable they hardly notice it.