Getting Remarried After Divorce

[Merika]

It was WORSE when I was working. There were days I thought I would go insane....just for a lack of quiet time.

[Fayebelle]

I think this would be harder when you have kids. If the first marriage was an obvious mistake with a quick exit- then maybe with maturity you could try again.

Very few divorces fit that bill though.

[Vautrin]

First marriages have the highest chance of working, if I am not mistaken.

3 years, 7 months, and 18 days. New record Faye?

[Fayebelle]

Is that a marriage length?



I also read that high school sweethearts have an above average success rate. That was a bit ago so I'm not sure if it's still true or not.

[Vautrin]

No, that was time since last post, before you decided the thread needed a bump.

I really would not know if the highschool sweetheart thing is true or not.

[Fayebelle]

I chase lurkers- the Who's Online button is my best pal during slow post sessions


Will have to see what I can find on the HS thing.....


Of course arranged marriages tend to do best of all

[PepsiChic]

its really strange because ive seen a lot of people date in senior school get married as soon as they turn 18 have a kid then split up just a couple of years later.

mainly because someone hasnt been faithful, or because someone cant cope with being a parent. this can happen on both sides, woman or man.

my answer to the original question tho...no i wouldnt remarry.

[Fayebelle]

You know- in most divorces there is a person leaving and a person left behind.


It would seem logical to me that the person leaving would be more likely to remarry then the person that was left.

[PepsiChic]

thats a logical thought.

but what about this: the person leaving has left for what was an affair and leaves to find the person s/he was having an affair with refuses to leave his/her partner and ends up with nothing.

maybe the person left behind will have determination to carry on with life and lead a good strong second marriage.

[Fayebelle]

^True but a person willing to have an affair to begin with is less likely to take marriage seriously enough to be concerned with the repercussions of another failed marriage.

[PepsiChic]

i guess so, its a shame when a marriage doesnt work out, but we cant force love and commitment upon those who arent willing.

[Fayebelle]

I've been searching and searching and I can't find anything on HS sweethearts marriage statistics


There are a lot of personal stories that tend to lean favorably towards HS matches and I know a lot of people I went to school with married their HS sweethearts and most of them are still together. (mind you we are in a very rural setting so there are a lot of old fashioned people even in my generation)

[Vautrin]

My family lives in a rural area as well.

Of all the marriages in the family only 1 (!) broke up, and that was after almost 25 years of marriage. None of these marriages were to high school sweethearts. I think the rural factor is probably a better predictor than the high school factor.