Divorcing an entire faimly???

[Stone]

Noah's Dad is a moron that is now in prision for up to 5 years. Noah's Grandparents have had VERY VERY little to with him since I broke up with there son 4 years ago.

Today they called, they want to see him, I guess the holidays & There son not being around now all of the sudden they have the urge to be grandparents :roll:

With Noah's condition I WILL NOT!! drop him off but they invited my faimly over for dinner, I will go and bring Noah and Ally and I think Greg should go.

Greg feels we've bent over backwards for these people and he refuses to go!! Fo you think he should? It would mean alot to Noah and I.

Plus I used to be close to these people but they supported there junkie son and blew off mine and I will let it go but don't really want to have a close realationship again.. I am sure noah will wonder where his Dad is and I don't know WTF to say, I want to forewarn them and ask the what I should tell Noah because I still havent fuigured that one out yet.

[Vautrin]

It is his choice. But I would remind him of the importance of him going for Noah. That is all you can do.

[Star]

I can see why greg wouldn't want to go. i don't think i would want to go to my boyfriend's x-girlfriend's parents place either. i would feel out of place in a huge way.

would he object to you going without him? just you and noah? maybe not for dinner but just a couple hours visit maybe?

I wouldn't give them too much since they haven't really been in noah's life a whole lot. they haven't earned it IMO.

you know, about telling noah. i am a firm believer in telling kids the truth when they ask a question, no matter what it is. i feel if they're old enough to ask these questions, they're old enough to know the true answer. the outcome is always a surprise though. he might flip out learning that his dad is in jail or he might feel better knowing that he's at least alive and okay. that's only something that you as a mother can decide though stone. you know your son the best. you know what he can handle and waht he can't. at the end of it all, it's up to you.

[Duke]

I'd hate to go as well but as your hubby he's pretty much obligated to go IMHO, especially if its what Noah wants.

[Stone]

Greg decided to go but stated he is not going to like it LOL and that if anyone disrespects me he is going to punch them in the face :? 8O I'm just quoting him but I am sure he'd do it :x :!:

I am almost positive Jeremy's Mom will have plenty of smart arse remarks for me she always does, I will just try to keep my mouth shut. There are so many things I want to say like

Where have you been for 3 friggen years?

Why do you want to see him NOw?? Is it because Jeremy is in Jail and using Noah as a "supplement'??

Why no B-Day & Christmas cards?

And WTF do they make me out to be some Evil Beyotch?? I just protected my son from a junkie I never kept them away!!

Moah was in the hospital last week and I told the grandfather when he called and he asked ME why I didn't call???? Are you kidding me they deserve a call??? Why?

ERRRRRGGGGGG!! it should be intresting, I will definatly have a story to share tomarrow night

[Star]

good luck!

[Luba]

Actually, Stone, you do have the upper hand here...if they are treating you so badly you can just tell them you will not be visiting them..and they should get the hint really quick-like that "No Stone, no Noah"!

I realize that is like using wonderful little Noah as a "pawn" and I hate that when children are used that way. But kids are bright, they pick up on the negativity really quickly and if you aren't happy there, neither will he be! Trust me...I know all about the negative infuence of in-laws and the price kids pay..

You do not deserve disrespect and keeping quiet to them will just keep them playing their games...I kept quiet for so long I thought I would burst and I did, big time and all kinds of sh*t happened! But you know what...I felt so strong and proud of myself for the first time in my whole life! JMHO

[Merika]

Well....as you know Stone.....my kids have another half which I wish would go away too. Truth is....it's a part of their heart whether I want it to be or not. He's dissed them, lied to them, failed to support them, missed Christmas and Birthdays...but at the end of the day....he's their dad and they love him.

Trying to block that love....and wierd blood tie...won't work. Just let it be what it is.....and bite your tongue. It's not about you....it's about the child. And even though you wish you could whip their A$$.....there's nothing you can do about it but let your child make his own decisions without your imput.

Trust me on this one....cause I had to accept it the hard way. To this day I wish the SOB would get smacked by a friggin truck and leave them alone. But it's not my call to make.

[Stone]

:? Well Well I knew I would have a story to tell after this and I was right.. plus I truley know the meaning of the word REDNECK!! my poor poor child for sharing the same blood line :? LMAO

Let me give you an example!!

You might be a redneck if!! You decide to reunite with your faimly at the local Walmart and then stop by the picture studio take the 9.88 special!! 8O :roll:

I am totally disquisted and appaled, They invited US to there house and when we walked in they acted like we just unexpectaly pooped in!! They didn't even clean there house and it was a train reck!! Ol grandma couldn't change her bleech colored shirt and hasn't combed her hair in atleast 8 days. Greg and I atlest took the time to make ourselvs presentable along with the children!! and they didn't even talk to Greg no "nice to meet you" have a seat, "can I get you a drink" NOTHING!! so after about 30 minutes Greg's had it, they kept talking about getting Noah's picture taken because there other grandchild was there and insted that we just drop 1/2 the after noon and go to walmart WITHOUT AN APPOINTMENT and get there pic taken!!

SO Greg decided he isn't going so I dropped him off at the bar :? I couldn't blame him it was more uncomfortable than I expected and these people didn't even say HI!! While they should be thanking him for raising him!!

WE get to wally world, me and 10 other friggen faimly members!! and they we're just gross poorly dressed and one grandchild had no shoes on!!
I saw the Grandmother wispering things in Noah's ear and just walked away, then I find the Grandfather outside smoking so I lit one up and was semi social.. the entire time he was staring at my breasts!!

I decided I"ve had it and said we had to leave because Noah needed his med's soon. The grandmother stated that Noah was a cuter baby then ally witch was rude and stupid!! I am an idot for having him in an ESE class becase god know's why or how the frig she would even know his situation because she DOESN"T KNOW HIM!! and that I am crazy if I have to supervise the visitations with her and Noah.

I stated that Noah JUST GOT OUT OF THE HOSITAL!! they don't know sign language, or how to deal with a seizure and I will not drop him off untill they attempt to try to learn. I left telling her that they used my son for a stupid picture and it's BS!! and that they can be grandparents I will always let Noah see them BUT I will not tolerate them calling every 3 years and want to play grand parents for the day!!

They we're disipointed that we couldn't join them for Burger King and we wen't on our marry way... sorry but that's the last I will ever see of those people!!

Wow what a novel

[Star]

you know, i seriously feel that sometimes the child is better off without some of the biological members in their lives.

They are rude people! poor greg. he swallows his pride and goes there for noah and you just so he can get crapped on and for them to say that one kid is cuter then the other is just dowright ignorant.

When krystal's father died, his family started their crap. speading rumors that krystal wasn't his kid to begin with, blah, blah, blah...which was a total lie BTW! I KNOW who my children's daddy's are!! not only that, they were throwing bricks through my wondows and ripping up everything i was putting on vern's gravestone (which they NEVER paid for, it got reposessed!!) and harassing phone calls. pure hell!

so, at that point in time, i made the decision that they weren't going to have the luxury of knowing krystal. when she turned 1 was the last time they laid eyes on her and i'm happy i did!

now that she's older, she seeked them out herself and came to her own conclusions that they're all idiots and low lives and understands why i stopped them from coming around her.

sometimes things have to be this way. it's just better for the child if it gets to be that bad. I always told krystal that when she's older, if she wants to meet that side of her family, then i wouldn't stop her and i didn't. I'm her mother and it was my job to protect her. I wouldn't of let her go to a neighbour's house that were like that, why let her just because it's family? I feel it's the same thing.

those people are just plain ignorant and only want noah when it's convenient for them. their loss.

[Weiser]

Oie vey...I think I would have snapped.

[Merika]

Doesn't matter....at the end of the day...blood is thicker than water. The very thing you find DISGUSTING....is the one thing your kid may relate to. I hate to say it.....but I know that it's true.