Divorce Sources

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While surfing the net looking for news to add to the site, I run into sites that offer a wealth of information for topics we try to cover here at Lifesupporters.com. Following is once such resource that may be of service if you and your family are currently going through a divorce.


Divorceabc.com is a great resource that provides information for those of us who are separating or going through a divorce. They provide a plethora of links to get you the information you need at a time where confusion is the likely the mainstay of your mindset.

I've copied one article that you may find interesting about how your children may be dealing, or hiding, from the issue:

Can Your Child Benefit from Counseling?
Guidelines for Parents on Children’s Therapy

COSD’s Children’s Programs are beneficial for every childâ€â€�even those who appear to be handling their feelings of loss in a healthy and healing way. However, counseling is especially important for those children who may not appear to be suffering in any significant way, but whose behavior, attitude or outlook seems to have changed even slightly.

The telltale signs are related to:
- Behavioral changes
- Feelings of emptiness, or a lack of support, direction, motivation, or trust in others
- Excessive worry or
- An inability to express feelings in an appropriate way

To help you identify whether or not your child may benefit from counseling, look over the following lists. If you answer affirmatively to any of these questions, you may want to consider some of the counseling for your child.

It is important for your children to seek help if:

Their moods or behaviors change significantly and are exhibiting any of the following:

- They feel sad for long periods of time and nothing seems to help them to feel better.
- They think more about the past than the present.
- They cry over both little and big things and can’t seem to stop.
- They can’t stop thinking about their parents’ divorce.
- They have little or no interest in playing or being with friends.
- They act out in inappropriate ways.
- They cannot concentrate in school.

They exhibit any of the behaviors below that indicate they lack goals or feel like they have no family and friends for support and help:
- They wake up, but don’t want to get up.
- They don’t eat, or they eat a lot when they’re not hungry.
- They don’t laugh, joke, or enjoy anything they are doing.
- They want to stay alone all the time.

They indicate that they feel as though they don’t have family and friends they can trust:
- They believe their parent(s) haven’t been honest with them.
- They don’t think their friends can keep their confidences.
- They don’t want to burden friends by talking about their feelings.

They appear to be “stuckâ€Â� as indicated by any of the following behaviors or voiced beliefs:
- They believe that they are responsible for the well-being for a parent or younger sibling.
- They feel caught in the middle of their parents’ arguing.
- They have difficulty communicating with a parent.
- They feel responsible for the separation or divorce.

They exhibit any of the signs that indicate that they do not know how to appropriately process or express anger:
- They take out their anger on innocent people.
- They act out with teachers and other people in authority.
- They fight with brothers, sisters, or friendsâ€â€�more than the usual spats associated with sibling rivalry.

They ask questions or make statements that indicate that they worry a lot about:
- Their parents’ physically hurting each other or the children.
- Either or both of their parents’ safety, happiness, or well-being.
- Their parent not being physically with them.
- Their own physical and psychological well-being.
- Money.

It's a good resource and full of good information and links. I'll also post any other resources I find in this topic.