cheap divorce

katie30 · 10-19-2006, 08:49 PM

We are married for 3 years and 2 months already. We agreed to end it. We just do not get along like we used to. He brought up the idea and I agreed. We have a 9 months old baby boy. We agreed to find the easy way to get a divorce. No hassles and cost effective. I found an article about having a lawyerless divorce in cheap divorce. Pretty much from the guidelines shown, we sort of qualified for it. But there is one thing that struck me...Better if we have no children. My Ex-husband has agreed to give us child support. And I also promised him that he could visit our child. Do you think having a lawyerless divorce is a good idea?

Duke · 10-19-2006, 10:25 PM

I think as long as you can keep neutral toward each other and not take out your frustrations on each other or on your child then lawyerless is the way to go.

I do believe that you both are off to a great start because the divorce seems amicable which to me means your both acting as adults and not being petty or vindictive.

I wish you the best of luck and thank you for sharing this part of yourself!

darkangelism · 10-19-2006, 11:46 PM

if you can work it out without a lawyer, then thats the best way, in my extened family there have been 6 divorces, so i have seen the negative side, but if you can do it without a messy legal battle thats better. Id say make the child custody and visitation righst in writing, that way nobody can sue he other later.

Star · 10-20-2006, 12:04 AM

I don't know much about divorce since there haven't been any in my family at all but, the lawyerless thing concerns me to great lengths because i'm wondering how "legal" everything will be in reference to child support and visitation rights. is this done in court? will there be legal papers drawn up for child support, custody of the child and visitation rights?

it might be amicable now but later on it might not be and without the legal papers, then that would be red tape to have to go through. Like i said, i don't know much about all this divorce stuff so perhaps my concerns are meaningless?

TKDLady · 10-22-2006, 11:38 PM

Go lawyerless if you can but I agree with Star about getting things in writing and having everything taken care of in court somehow to make it legally binding for both of you.