Another Loser thread

[Merika]

In a past relationship....were YOU ever the one who acted like a loser?

[Adonaicole]

Oh yes, but mostly when I was younger and didn't know any better. Now that I'm old and gray, I still act the fool but only in a good way.

[Weiser]

Um....not really. In one we were both the losers, so I guess that counts, but thats aobut it.

You know I have never been dumped? I just thought of that now...weird.

[Merika]

Originally Posted by Weiser

Um....not really. In one we were both the losers, so I guess that counts, but thats aobut it.

You know I have never been dumped? I just thought of that now...weird.

I never have been either. Sometimes it would be easier to be dumped than have to walk out of a relationship with someone you love because it's just a messed up situation.

[Meanon]

You think? I think getting dumped would be worse as you have no control. No matter what the situation, people who retain emotional control find it easier to manage in the short term than those that don't. There is some evidence, however, that in the long term those that walk out find it more difficult as they often question their decision. I'm trying to remember where I read the research, if I find it I'll post the link. I wonder if that means that if you do both (walk out by getting yourself dumped) you maximise both the short and long term costs?

[Star]

i was dumped only once and the guy eneded up regretting it. even now he says he regrets dumping me. he bumps into my brother once in awhile and tells him that. he did break my heart.

i dumped all the others and that was just as heartbreaking for me. you get used to spending time with one person then POOF! they're gone. that's what hurts.

i'm so happy that i'm happily married now and don't have to go through all that heartbreaking crap that goes with dating! what a rollercoaster ride that is!

[Meanon]

I'd hoped the roller coaster ride was over, star. If dating is as you describe, I'm heading for the exits! I've had enough thrills and spills already to last me a lifetime

[Duke]

I'm always a loser in the relationship and I admit it. I simply can't play the serious game all the time which is likely the reason that all of my relationships end.

[sweetbilly]

LOL, what past relationship? :roll:

[Star]

Originally Posted by Meanon

I'd hoped the roller coaster ride was over, star. If dating is as you describe, I'm heading for the exits! I've had enough thrills and spills already to last me a lifetime

the dating part is fun!! it's the breaking up that isn't so much fun to go through. you just might get lucky and find love the first time. stranger things have happened.

[twinkle]

Sure did!! And you allllll have read about it !!!

[Duke]

I'm not a big fan of dating anymore. I really think it's something thats more interesting when your young. I'd much rather be in a stable relationship than play the dating game.

[twinkle]

I don't know about dating, but there's something about flirting like a crazy woman and being free that makes being single quite alluring.

That is the only thing I have against stable relationships, which I most throughly appreciate, otherwise...

[BattleaxE]

Here's my loser story.....

My last relationship was headed to the alter. We had all the arrangements made. I caught him cheating on me with one of the wedding party. Needless to say I called everything off. To be quite honest at that time I felt like the biggest loser in the whole world. Lots of things transpired after the breakup including a restraining order keeping him away from me. When I look back now I realize he saved us both from a huge mistake. I no longer feel like a loser. I'm a winner at the game of life..........

[twinkle]

That took guts to do !

[Meanon]

I don't know about dating, but there's something about flirting like a crazy woman and being free that makes being single quite alluring.

That is the only thing I have against stable relationships, which I most throughly appreciate, otherwise...

Twinkle, I could have written that myself.... spooky!