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Stone · 11-08-2004, 06:57 AM

Merika You cursed me!!!

I took a pregnancy test this morning and it was positive, I am not sure if I am happy or not I just thought I would share.

Duke · 11-08-2004, 07:49 AM

Congradulations, or dammit.

Whichever is more appropriate.

Stone · 11-08-2004, 08:57 AM

It's more of a dammit right now, ( not that I won't be happy next week :wink: ) but everything was going so well for me, I just started my own business, I just bought a new car that isn't a faimly car by any means, I just applied for health insurance and being pregnant is a pre existing condition so it won't be covered, and Greg and my relationship is VERRY VERRY rocky AND I PLANNED ON GOING ON MY CRUISE FRIDAY AND GETTING SLAMED DRUNK!!!!! ( I will deffinatly get a biniki picture because I will be as big as Jabba the Hut soon

)

Merika · 11-08-2004, 09:29 AM

awwwwww.....

Well CONGRATULATIONS! Just because it isn't planned, nor the timing is perfect, somehow it all works out. It will be wonderful for Noah and also for you and Greg. How is Greg feeling about it?

You'll have to keep up a pregnancy diary on here....so as we get other young pregnant women.....they can read yours and know what to expect.

Stone · 11-08-2004, 09:34 AM

We are both very shocked, he is happy he didn't think he could have kids... I am fertal mertel :? He already is a good daddy to Noah but he is already talking about marriage and we just foudn out 3 hours ago..... i just wanted things to be diffrent. I wanted to be married first, and have a house, but we'll manage.

I am consirned because we have had alot of relationship problems latley and I have been really mean to him.... i guess now I know why

Star · 11-08-2004, 02:53 PM

well, congratulations!!! A baby can do wonders to a family. Things happen for a reason and God doesn't hand you anything you can't handle so I know you'll do great! I bet Noah is thrilled to know he'll have a little brother or sister in the near future.

Stone · 11-08-2004, 02:57 PM

I wish I could tell Noah now he would be so happy, but I am going to wait untill I am in my 3rd trimestor, he will lose his patience and heaven forbid anything we're to happen to the baby i wouldn't know how to tell him. but as the day progresses I am excited, I already looked at baby names

Oh speaking of witch have you guys looked in to baby names for your grandson?

Duke · 11-08-2004, 06:16 PM

Well I guess I'll go with the congradulations.

Too bad though, I was looking forward to partying it up with you on that cruiseship ;-)

Meanon · 11-09-2004, 07:44 PM

OMG! Congratulations Stoneheather. I see why you have concerns and the timing may not be great but you know that when that baby arrives, all that will get swept away. Noah will be thrilled too.

Duke · 11-09-2004, 09:42 PM

The timing is never really right for having a child. If we all waited for it to be the right time then there wouldn't be overpopulation.

twinkle · 11-10-2004, 04:55 AM

Congrats, Heather!
Think a lot about your baby and about the place it will take in your life... I'm very happy for you, I'm 24 and the thought of having a baby did cros my mind! But it'll be extremely bad timing for me.I have everything planned out for the next two years, that makes me a pro-choice person, I guess.

One of teachers is pregnant and will soon leave us. She's so funny and cute with her big belly. Thanks Lord, she doesn't look as if she were sick or uncomfortable. She's just... really big right now, LOOL!!!!

Hon, don't hate me for saying this, but try to take it easy on the liquor... You (already) have someone else to think about. I'm sure you'll be cautios

(send me one naughy pic, too!!! I won't share)

Stone · 11-10-2004, 06:32 AM

I won't be drinking at all anymore, or smoking but that's o.k.

For some reason I just am not happy and can't get excited about it. I told my father last night and he won't talk to me, He told my mother that he was just begining to be so proud of me and I have come such along way with my career and everything and now he thiks I am ruining everything I worked so hard for

as much as I hate to say it I would have to agree.

I have never thought of abortion as a choice for me, but I do not discriminate it, I can't help to think how much eaiser my life would be if I just got one, but I think the guilt would haunt me for the rest of my life, that being said Greg has brought it up several times witch doesn't make me feel so great about the situation.

One minute he says we need to terminate the pregnancy and the next he says a baby will be a nice addition to our faimly and we should get married asap. This will be my 2nd child as an unwed mother at a very young age, but before I got pregnant I was entertaining that fact of having another one soon, I don't know what to do.

Stone · 11-10-2004, 06:34 AM

Sorry as I read thru this post I am noticing what a rollercoaster I have been on in the past couple days

Meanon · 11-10-2004, 08:02 AM

It's not surprising you are concerned, Stone heather, given that you and Greg have had your ups and downs. Don't let other people's expectations get to you. You are the best judge of what's best for you, not your Dad.

It's quite normal to have mixed feelings, there's all those pesky hormones for a start without all the additional pressures that you have had recently.

You have a lot on your plate with the needs of your family as it is, you have to know you could cope alone with your responsibilities if you need to. Hopefully that won't be necessary, but feeling secure and settled is all about knowing you can cope with whatever comes. Noah would love a sibling, but his welfare is also a priority.

The only way to explore all of this is to carefully weigh up all the options for and against and think about what the consequences would be. You will live with whatever you decide for the rest of your life, you need to know it's the right choice for you. It's best to do this in counselling, as there are fewer vested interests and the focus is more on you and your family. We're here for you to talk to as well, do PM me if you want to.

You are a strong woman, stoneheather, you'll be fine.

twinkle · 11-10-2004, 08:35 AM

Hi, Heather

I read your post,and Meanon is right. You have to live with this decision or situation (meaning "persons"

) for the rest of your life.

You can have children whenever you want. Prefferably when you can provide food on their table also. If you can have enough money to send them to a good school, that's even better.

The main point, Heather,is that you have to want this baby.For you.Not for Greg or for Noah.

Not so long ago,you were ready to leave your bf.Did he pay you back? Let's assume he disapears. Can you financially afford to raise 2 kids by yourself? Raise them when they'll be 16,two cars, 2 college funds,etc,etc.

Think and se what it is that you want and what it is you can handle. I pray for you to find in your heart the courage to make the decision you feel is best.

Love,

Twinkle

Stone · 11-10-2004, 09:15 AM

This morning I decided to do some reasurch on abortion and educate myself about the proced