Spanking

[Stone]

What's your opinion on spanking children?

Do you think it is approiprate up untill a certian age?

[Duke]

I don't spank or even hit the hand. I have friends whose children actually hit back and it's pathetic. I even see them taking it out on their pets, brothers, sisters, friends, etc. I don't agree with it but it may be necessary on the odd occasion.

I believe spanking teaches kids that hitting is a good way to get your message across. For the same reason, I don't yell unless I'm extemely upset. My daughter recognizes the fact I rarely yell so if I do she knows she messed up.

[Star]

I do believe in spankings if all else fails. I tapped my kids on the hand and said "no touch" at the same time to teach them not to touch everything. It worked for me. I also would spank their bottoms if they kept doing something they knew was wrong and the other punishments wouldn't work. I don't however believe that pants should be brought down for spankings or anything like a wooded spoon or belt should be used. I have a sister in law who uses a wooden spoon and it makes my blood boil. IMO, that's abuse, not spanking.

My kids don't hit others so I don't think that the spankings they got taught them hitting is OK. I have a nephew who was never spanked (and I think he needs to be once in awhile) and he's hitting kids at school all the time. I think the kids learn in the way the spankings are done. My kids always knew that they were getting a spanking and why. Afterwards, I'd hug them tight and talk to them some more about why they got the spanking and how they can learn from it. It did work for me but not all kids are the same. Not all will react the same where spankings are concerned.

[Merika]

I agree with Star.....each child is different in what it takes to control their unruly side. Some you can talk to....and with others... if you give an inch they will take a mile.

[Duke]

Agreed, I was just saying what worked for my child.