How Much Do You Share?

Merika · 10-20-2004, 10:04 PM

I thought about this while answering another post which was about my daughter screening my date calls.....which she happens to enjoy.

I wanted to add to that scenario that my children have never woke up to some guy in the kitchen in his boxers. I can't think of anything WORSE than the kids in our neighborhood who's moms and dads have the 'pick up of the week' at their house the next morning after partying.

It shows a total disregard of respect to a child's feelings. I'm not always the best mom in the world....but my children have NEVER had to wake up wondering who the hell was in my bedroom.

Now, if I were in a long term relationship or lived with someone...ofcourse it would be different.

Other than that....this issue is one of my pet peeves!

Duke · 10-20-2004, 10:08 PM

I share everything with my daughter if it affects her. If it doesn't then I usually don't think to mention it.

Merika · 10-20-2004, 10:12 PM

If she were spending the weekend with you....you wouldn't bring home some girl from a bar would you?

Again, I'm not talking about a regular girlfriend or relationship...I'm talking about bringing home a pick up or a casual date to sleep with while your children are in the house.

Isis has a girlfriend who lived in our neighborhood when they were both around 12. This little girl would come over early Saturday morning to keep from 'hearing' her Mom and her dates. I found that to be disgusting.

Duke · 10-20-2004, 11:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Merika

If she were spending the weekend with you....you wouldn't bring home some girl from a bar would you?

Never have, never will. In fact, I wouldn't be wasting time at a bar with my child at home. I don't have the luxury of living with her so I treasure every moment I can.

Merika · 10-21-2004, 10:39 AM

Awwww Duke.... for a complete joker....you sure are a great Daddy!

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Duke · 10-21-2004, 09:08 PM

I don't know how good I am but I do love my child and make sure she knows it as much as humanly possible.

Paul · 10-21-2004, 09:49 PM

My gf and I were talking about this and how her mother has done this. Not only that but a couple of the guys were wearing just an open robe with nothing underneath when she walked into the kitchen. I'm constantly amazed at how this girl turned out as awesome as she did and I'm completely disgusted with her mother.

Merika · 10-22-2004, 12:07 PM

Paul C....your girlfriend is the typical example of a life which had the potential of going terribly bad until God came along and put a heart back together again. It seems like no matter how many broken peices, how much disappointment or heart ache....only God seems to be able to fix it.

I wish she would consider posting on here! Teens like Isis could learn so much from someone who found a better path than drugs and sex to try to cover the crap life has to offer sometimes.

My kids have a number one Dead Beat Dad from hell. He is wonderful to their face...then disappears without a card or phone call for years at a time. It's very mean and cruel. It's not about money either....he doesn't pay a dime in child support!

Because of this....I've always thought bringing someone new into their life would only add to the confusion. They can see me leave or come back from a date....but no 'love sleep over fests' occur! That's just WRONG!

Paul · 10-22-2004, 05:21 PM

You're so right! She does want to post here but it's just a matter of her having a computer. I'm building one for her right now, it's on the floor beside me, then I'm going to send it to her so she can join us and share her thoughts!

I couldn't imaging going through that as a child, I think it would have very adverse effects on someone.

Star · 10-24-2004, 02:14 PM

I always found that disgusting also how some parents can have a different person sleeping over and kids have to wake up to that. I couldn't imagine how that would've made me feel as a child, I could never do that to my own children or anyone else's for that matter.

That to me is extremely selfish on the parent's part if they do that to their children. In order to have respect from your kids, you need to respect them as well and set a good example as an adult.

Duke · 10-24-2004, 03:00 PM

I agree, exposing your children to different lovers is a great way to not only confuse them but to also undermine your credibility in exercising good judgment.

It's no wonder that many kids that grow up in this environment have little to no respect for their parents and usually seem to struggle in relationships themselves.

Luba · 12-03-2006, 05:32 PM

I think a parent is very selfish who do this kind of thing. How is that supposed to make a child feel? Very insecure, for starters...