Growing to Love your baby

Duke · 01-23-2006, 04:19 AM

From the news page.

I never considered that this was even possible.

Thoughts?

Star · 01-23-2006, 06:00 AM

I loved my babies fromt he time i found out i was pregnant and when they were born, it was amaizing the love that i felt for them. the bond was instant for me.

I do however know some women that didn't feel that way from the start. it's almost like the bond isn't there until later. It must be a horrible feeling to feel taht way about your new little baby.

hezekiah · 01-23-2006, 07:02 AM

I'm surrounded by unwed mothers-I've seen the absolute best and worst...It's amazing...

Merika · 01-23-2006, 08:49 AM

AFTER a mother gives birth....she can be in a total funk depression and have negative thoughts about her motherly instincts. I think that's what Brooke Shield's book was about. It isn't uncommon at all. It's caused from a harmone imbalance. Post partum depression......

I think also....some younger first time moms can go thru feeling a little overwhelmed with a newborn. Women used to get more help from mothers, family members and friends...than they do now.

Fayebelle · 02-17-2006, 07:41 AM

I was REALLY worried I'd never REALLY "just love" my kid "just because" it was my kid I've always love grow from like and how do you like something that's sooooo needy and dependant and it FREAKED ME OUT

Now it's soooo weird to me b/c I just love him I worry SO much that I'll be undeserving of HIM instead of the other way around

It's very hard to explain and sometimes the guilt rolled up in those begining feelings really bothered me and made it even harder I think it would be rough for a lot of mothers to come to grips w/those feelings

Stone · 02-18-2006, 09:15 AM

I had an instant love for noah but Ally was not as strong we're getting there quickly, maby it is due to my depression when I was pregnant or maby it just is not the same with your 2nd child :?

Samson · 02-19-2006, 12:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Stone

I had an instant love for noah but Ally was not as strong we're getting there quickly, maby it is due to my depression when I was pregnant or maby it just is not the same with your 2nd child :?

My guess is that you're just more attracted to anything male.

Perhaps its just wishful thinking.

Merika · 02-19-2006, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Stone

I had an instant love for noah but Ally was not as strong we're getting there quickly, maby it is due to my depression when I was pregnant or maby it just is not the same with your 2nd child :?

I think stress, depression and circumstances can really be a factor in how long it takes to bond with a new baby. Each person and pregnancy is different. I was fine AFTER Jackson was born....but the whole time I was pregnant....I just didn't want another baby.

Fayebelle · 02-20-2006, 07:45 AM

I had a friend who was really upset w/the 2nd kid b/c he didn't think he had enough love for another kid He was shocked w/the 1st one that he had that much love in him and he said there was no chance the 2nd kid could measure up Of course he came around too

Merika · 02-20-2006, 07:50 AM

I used to think the same thing. After my first son was born....I thought people must not love their first one as much as I did or they wouldn't have another one. LOL. I DID wait over a decade before having another baby.

Stone · 02-20-2006, 09:57 AM

I've been thinking about this alot and come to a conclusion.

I will be taking care of Noah for the rest of his life, I have planned his funeral, watched him fight for his life, watch him survive a terible illness and I am EXTREAMLY overprotective of him.. I worry about him like crazy.
We have been thru hell togeather and the bond will never be broken because it was just us to alone.

Ally is fine, Healthy and I just don't worry about her, I trust the people who care for her when I am working, I know she is the Apple of her Daddy's eye, she is a good easy baby I DO love her Noah is just a very special boy and we have a special bond due to the circumstances.I guess

I do feel bad for her, because I never want her to see any favoritism but Noah gets really jellous of her so I tend to be with him more and let her Dad and her hang out.... I'm a horrible mother huh :?

Merika · 02-20-2006, 10:16 AM

Not at all Stone. Since they have different Dads....you are probably just concerned that Noah doesn't feel left out. Greg may very well end up giving Ally more attention than Noah....and you are going to try to make up for it. Actually, it makes you a GOOD mom. Some women go the other way and the older child gets left out.