Cry babies

[twinkle]

Please,please please enlighten me!

I just hate it, I cannot stand it, I'm going out of my minds that every time I go shopping, whether it's food or clothes there's atleast one mother with her toddlers, and on of them is ALWAYS pourring his heart out. Screaming his loungs out!

What does the mom usually do? NOTHING. Absolutely nothing. I feel like spanking the mom for not doing something about it. I know that if a baby wants to cry he'll cry and basta!

But not all the time.

Here it's like Dante's Inferno from this point of vue. Kids with their bellies uncovered, running noses and half a fist in their mouth..... Crying!

Jeeeeeeezzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

And I'm talking malls as well as downtown shops too. They're everywhere. I think France has an explosive birth rate these days.

[Stone]

HAHA This used to bother me untill I had kids... now I feel sorry for the mothers, there really is nothing you can do but polietly remove your chidren from the enviorment. Witch I usually do :?

[Duke]

Crybabies still bother me even though I'm a father. A lot of times its mainly a breakdown in the childs senses and their inability to properly deal with it which causes the behaviour and that's acceptable to me.

What I can't accept is parents who coddle their baby everytime they whine or cry. These are the kids that seem to whine and cry all the time because they receive attention for it. Good or bad attention is still attention. The worst thing a parent can do is always baby their child, sometimes it's just best to let them deal with it.

Of course this is all an IMO.

[Star]

I'd rather hear them cry then see the mother or father hit the kid in the store. I've witnessed that way too many times. Tht's sickening.

Usually the kid is having a hissy fit because he/she can't get something they want (usually candy). Ever notice that all the candies are near the cash registers? that's where most of the crying happens.

When my kids were little, I used to warn them that we're going shopping and not to ask for anything. If they behaved in the store, then I would reward them with one of those candies at the cash. If not, I left the store and they got nothing. It worked for me most times.

[Duke]

Originally Posted by star_64

I'd rather hear them cry then see the mother or father hit the kid in the store. I've witnessed that way too many times. Tht's sickening.

Very true :x

[calizza]

Im not sure if you guys are anti spanking period, but I know I'm not. I'm not saying beat the kid sensless, but I do know a spanking went a very long way with me when I was a child. I didn't get many at all because I was (seriously) a good kid. Mainly because I didnt want a spanking . I behaved in public mostly, if I didnt I got it when I got home, depending on how bad I acted of course. I know for sure I am not a time out kind of guy.
There is a difference between beating a kid and a spanking but unfortunatly people usually relate the two together.

If the kid cries, wants something tells something, you talk to him. Tell him "NO". But you are doing Something.

Not here. It's like they're holding the baby and they have this ability to not hear them cry.

Oh, I am pro-spanking too.

But here's not about babies, it's about moms. LikeI wanted to try on some fancy lingery from Etam and there was a Mom with her daughter who looked about 3 in a baby-carriage left outside the cabines. Of course the kid was crying, for crying out loud!

It's just beyond me. First: if htey cry, then something's might be wrong. even if it's not wrong, at least do something. Like LEAVE!!! Some of the kids are simply wining. I mean give them a reason to cry about. It is totally rude to act as if nothing's wrong.


Honestely.

I'm not even getting to babies who are like 4 or 5, in carriages, sucking their thumbs...


God, I'm so grateful for having been born in a normal family, who did take a special interest in me, my needs, MY EDUCATION!!!


All I want is simply enjoy the pure pleasure of spending money. The feeling guilty part sometimes arrises, I don't need the iritation caused by the indifference of moms when hearing their kids cry!

[twinkle]

Yeah, that was me... :oops: My laptop doesn't remember that I'm twinkle... sorry, guys!

[Merika]

Part of the public crying baby problem is due to mothers not using good sense and wisdom. You have to learn to plan your shopping activities around their nap time and feeding times. You don't drag them around all day while they are uncomfortable. Some mother's seem to forget that all the noises and lights are tough on a little baby and make them irritable and cranky.

Same is true for toddlers. Feed them, give them a nap....THEN take them for a SHORT shopping excursion. Not take them out for hours where they are strapped down in a car seat...then a shopping buggy. It's just stupid.

Beyond that....I'm with Calizza. If it's a behavior problem....take them to the car and swat their butts. They will pick up real quick what their expected behavior is.

PS: My kids are teens....they both whine when they don't get what they want in a store too! HAHAHA!

[Adonaicole]

Oh, I am pro-spanking too.

Merika, I've been really bad and am in need of a good spanking... :oops:

I also have a problem with children crying because of neglect. Sometimes children do cry for no reason and I don't have a problem with that but when the parent is obviously ignoring the child, I just want to take that baby home.

[Duke]

I'm not pro nor against spanking, every situation is different as is every child. I only spanked my daughter once and it hurt me more than it did her. Spanking is not for me and did nothing to curb my behavior as a child, that doesn't mean that I hold anything against you if you spank your child. That said though, some parents hit their children unnecessarily because it's easier than actually dealing with the problem. I've seen this happen plenty and think it's just wrong.

[Star]

I've seen mothers dragging their kids on the floors by the arm in public places and that makes me sick. I've spanked my kids when they were little so I do believe in a spanking if the kid needs one and if it sorks for the kid. Some kids, it doesn't work at all. What I don't believe in is spanking your kids in public places or in front of anyone else. This just degrades the child tremendously and will only make the child behave worse because of embarassement. I say remove the child from the public place then discipline them at home in private. Worked for me.

[twinkle]

The mere gesture of a mom being preocupated with the situation would calm my nerves. As in acknowledging that at the end of their arm there's someone else screaming.


I wonder if this is a cultural difference. I'm from Eastern Europe and when I went home last summer, I saw NO baby in the capital, dragged by the mom in huge supermarkets, no carriage in shops. I literally heard no baby cry. Or if they started fussing, it would end, either because they were remove or because their parents did something.


Anyway, I'm not gonna start with who does this, class, age, education or colour of skin. I'll just say that in this case, the heritage of communism plays for my cause ( as a society, we cared a lot about image, education... even in front of strangers. Maybe because we had nothing else to be preocupated with, like money, since no one had any)

[twinkle]

This time I don't know if it's my puter or the site. Sorry, it was an accident!

[Merika]

Originally Posted by twinkle

This time I don't know if it's my puter or the site. Sorry, it was an accident!

I deleted the double post.....not a prob. On here, unlike LS, you can also edit your own posts at any time....even after the first 20 minutes. Duke is SWEET like that....LOL!

Every child is different. Some respond to one sort of punishment....while others require something different. It's hard to judge a parent. Some kids are not as docile and easy going as others!

My kids were both head strong and spoiled as crap. I let them get by with everything. My mother never did. Guess what? To THIS day....they know good and well not to cross her. They NEVER would speak to her or act towards her like they do me.

Needed discipline and abuse aren't the same thing.

ADONAI!!!! You BAD boy you!!!

[calizza]