Childrens Confidence/ Self Esteem

Stone · 03-06-2005, 05:43 PM

Noah got the new DELUX EXTREME Slip & Slide so of course all the neighbor kids came over this afternoon. So I spent my day with about 6 boys from the age 4-7.

The child across the street that plays with Noah quite often but he sat with me for about 3 hours he refused to go on the slip and slide I asked him why several times and he just said he didn't feel like it. but I caught him going on the side of the house doing push ups and sit ups... ( yep he's the neighborhood fat kid

) I told him he could still play with his shirt on and finally he did but I could tell he was soooo uncomfortable. Poor little boy I feel bad for him he has no self esteem.

My son however is the King of Confidence

even with his disibility ( plus he has a pretty cocky mother he inherited that from LOL) I think it is EXTREAMLY IMPORTANT to teach children to be confident and have positive self esteem but this one has none, His mother is a very depressed woman. I feel like I should try to help him gain confidence but I don't really think it is my place.

darkangelism · 03-06-2005, 05:51 PM

He is still young, i wouldnt worry about it too much, more then likely the weight will come off when he gets older....then you become the hot mom across the street.

Star · 03-06-2005, 07:26 PM

actually, it's not a good thing for that little boy to have no confidence and to feel inataquate already. that could get worse as he gets older if he doesn't receive any counselling. especially if he always has that weight problem and his mother is is depressed herself. that's really sad.

It breaks my heart when I see kids like this. It breaks their self-esteem. I would probably have him over a lot more so he could have some fun if he were my child's friend. I feel bad for kids that feel this way.

Samson · 03-06-2005, 07:47 PM

Couple of your comments remids us that the "seed doesn't fall far from the tree:"

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His mother is a very depressed woman.

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he has a pretty cocky mother he inherited that from

But most interesting is what else Noah seems to have "inherited" or learned, empathy:

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child across the street that plays with Noah quite often

It is interesting that one boy should exhibit the opposite character traits, yet willingly associates with the other.

Vautrin · 03-06-2005, 07:51 PM

Heather of course you are not the first person to address his self-esteem issues. But there are many small ways in which you and your son could possibly contribute to him gaining some self-esteem.

Be appreciative if he does something good, when you are supervising Noah and him. You don't have to become a mother to him, but small gestures can do wonders.

Stone · 03-07-2005, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Samson

Couple of your comments remids us that the "seed

It is interesting that one boy should exhibit the opposite character traits, yet willingly associates with the other.

The only reason they play togeather so much is because myself and his mother are really the only one's on the block that supervise our children so as Parents we feel more comfortable letting them go back and forth to our homes. The other kids kind of roam free so Noah and This other boy are not allowed to go to there houses. :?

Merika · 03-07-2005, 08:53 AM

Kids who are chunky get picked on a lot. The best thing is just accepting him for what he is and assuring him he can wear the T-shirt while engaging in any water sports around your house.

Both boys can learn to accept the differences in the other.....and will probably go on to be great friends.

alkali · 03-07-2005, 08:33 PM

You can't be his mom but you certainly can be a positive influence on the boy. Be careful not to make it a "personal project" or you and his mom will soon be at odd's with one another.

Stone · 03-07-2005, 08:42 PM

Good Point Dude!

Duke · 03-08-2005, 02:14 AM

It's sad to see a kid with low self-esteem at such a young age. In fact, it's sad to see any negativity in a childs feelings at any age.

Other kids can be cruel to chunkier kids but that's usually only if the kid is paranoid about it. I knew a few fat kids in school, one of them was one of the most popular guys in school simply because he was at peace with who he was. He also managed to have a bevy of beauties all around him, I must admit to being envious.

Merika · 03-08-2005, 11:58 AM

You are right Duke....it depends on the personality of the kid to begin with.

My oldest son is tall and thin now....but he was chunkier in high school and was by far one of the most popular kids in the whole school. I don't know if it bothered him...he never mentioned it.

03-06-2005, 05:43 PM	#1
Stone Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 2,862 Chats: 0	Childrens Confidence/ Self Esteem Noah got the new DELUX EXTREME Slip & Slide so of course all the neighbor kids came over this afternoon. So I spent my day with about 6 boys from the age 4-7. The child across the street that plays with Noah quite often but he sat with me for about 3 hours he refused to go on the slip and slide I asked him why several times and he just said he didn't feel like it. but I caught him going on the side of the house doing push ups and sit ups... ( yep he's the neighborhood fat kid ) I told him he could still play with his shirt on and finally he did but I could tell he was soooo uncomfortable. Poor little boy I feel bad for him he has no self esteem. My son however is the King of Confidence even with his disibility ( plus he has a pretty cocky mother he inherited that from LOL) I think it is EXTREAMLY IMPORTANT to teach children to be confident and have positive self esteem but this one has none, His mother is a very depressed woman. I feel like I should try to help him gain confidence but I don't really think it is my place.

03-06-2005, 05:51 PM	#2
darkangelism Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: oklahoma Posts: 5,894 Chats: 1	He is still young, i wouldnt worry about it too much, more then likely the weight will come off when he gets older....then you become the hot mom across the street. __________________

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Star Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Canada My Communication Style: Honest, Supportive Posts: 5,637 Chats: 2	actually, it's not a good thing for that little boy to have no confidence and to feel inataquate already. that could get worse as he gets older if he doesn't receive any counselling. especially if he always has that weight problem and his mother is is depressed herself. that's really sad. It breaks my heart when I see kids like this. It breaks their self-esteem. I would probably have him over a lot more so he could have some fun if he were my child's friend. I feel bad for kids that feel this way. __________________ *Life is what you make of it. Make it happen.*

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Duke Founder Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Under your bed. My Communication Style: Honest, Supportive Posts: 25,563 Chats: 272	It's sad to see a kid with low self-esteem at such a young age. In fact, it's sad to see any negativity in a childs feelings at any age. Other kids can be cruel to chunkier kids but that's usually only if the kid is paranoid about it. I knew a few fat kids in school, one of them was one of the most popular guys in school simply because he was at peace with who he was. He also managed to have a bevy of beauties all around him, I must admit to being envious. __________________ My Daughter Rules! "Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. Then, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes."

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Vautrin Administrator Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Between thought and expression My Communication Style: Experience, Supportive Posts: 10,690 Chats: 25	Heather of course you are not the first person to address his self-esteem issues. But there are many small ways in which you and your son could possibly contribute to him gaining some self-esteem. Be appreciative if he does something good, when you are supervising Noah and him. You don't have to become a mother to him, but small gestures can do wonders.

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Merika Retired Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 13,207 Chats: 0	Kids who are chunky get picked on a lot. The best thing is just accepting him for what he is and assuring him he can wear the T-shirt while engaging in any water sports around your house. Both boys can learn to accept the differences in the other.....and will probably go on to be great friends.

03-07-2005, 08:33 PM	#8
alkali Contributing Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 56 Chats: 0	You can't be his mom but you certainly can be a positive influence on the boy. Be careful not to make it a "personal project" or you and his mom will soon be at odd's with one another.

03-07-2005, 08:42 PM	#9
Stone Veteran Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 2,862 Chats: 0	Good Point Dude!

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Merika Retired Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Florida, USA Posts: 13,207 Chats: 0	You are right Duke....it depends on the personality of the kid to begin with. My oldest son is tall and thin now....but he was chunkier in high school and was by far one of the most popular kids in the whole school. I don't know if it bothered him...he never mentioned it.

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