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Old 07-12-2005, 03:25 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Ok, I just joined these forums and before things get lively, I'm very glad to be here... I thought I'd post this as my first thread seen as I haven't seen another thread about this yet.

it's a very hot family topic here in Spain right now, with huge demonstrations for and against and politicans and bishops shouting at each other. Even the Pope has has his two pennies worth (and i guess that last phrase identiifes me as English. I don't know where you're all from yet but I'd sure like to know what you think about this one. If you need me to explain anything else, just say so.

Last week, people here in Spain were either excited or angry ( or not bothered and having a beer to escape from the heat): The parliament just approved a bill allowing homosexual marriage. The Right is obviously very shocked and upset (as is the Catholic church), the socialists are exceedingly happy, as are homosexual couples all over the country. The BBC even dedicated a long report to the subject to, Spain being the 4th country I think to approve homosexual marriage.

The fact that it is being called 'marriage' seems to be the main sticking point for the anti- crowd. They think 'marriage' as a word should be reserved for heterosexual couples. There have even bee some mayors (supported by the church) who have already declared they will refuse to marry gay couples..

Adoption of children by homosexual couples is another cat amongst the pigeons, although apparently SINGLE gay people are already within their rights to adopt children..everybody's wondering what effect it might have on the children, shouting that there are no studies yet to prove the point either way (which is a supporting argument for both sides, of course). China has already refused to alolow ANYONE in Spain to adopt anymore Chinese babies because of the new law.

There was even a right wing psychologist in parliament last week arguing vehemently that homosexuality was anyway an illness...hmmmmm have to wait and see if the president of the official homosexual sub-group of the Popular Party holds true on his promise to 'out' all of the right wing top politicians for being hypocritical..that would at least give us normal (non-political) mortals a bit of fun to watch as we sit with cold beers in the heat...
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Old 07-12-2005, 04:58 PM   #2 (permalink)
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First of all, welcome to lifesupporters!! Very happy that you decided to join us!

WOW! This is a very touchy topic as the opinions on this one defers from many types of people in different religions.

I think they've passed the law here in Canada too that homosexuals can marry. I do have a bit of a problem with that myself being raised a Catholic.

I don't have a problem with homosexuals persay. How people choose to live their lives is their business not anyone else's. I have a problem with the marriage thing.

I don't want to go too deep into this issue because I don't want to offend anyone so I prefer to keep my deep opinions to myself about this topic.
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Old 07-12-2005, 05:49 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I think the controversy will continue...much for the reasons that Star pointed out....it's a religious call. If someone follows a Bible....they can't very well throw out the baby with the bath water. They have to believe what it says...is what it means.

From personal experience, I can truly say that it's been a subject which I've kicked around for several years. I can see both sides....but can't give myself to the understanding that THAT many people are genetically pre-disposed to being gay and the whole 'bi' thing nauseates me. I've tried with all that is within me...and I can't consolidate it in my heart.

Then again, I knew a lesbian couple as neighbors once...and they were WONDERFUL people. They did the invetro thing....had a baby...and as far as I can tell...that child is as loved and secure as any heterosexual home...if not more so.

So...dumping the judgement call....maybe for a child...which is what this thread is about....whether they have a Daddy/Daddy, Mommy/Mommy, Daddy/ Mommy or only one parent....as long as they are totally loved and taken care of......maybe that's all that counts.
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Old 07-12-2005, 05:49 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I am from the Netherlands, where gay marriage is already allowed. Even here we have some problems, as there are officials who refuse to execute the laws - which is in violation of the oaths they took.

Marriage is first and foremost a legal declaration. You have to marry first before the state before you can marry in church. So I can't see the problem there - of course if gay people want to marry in a church that does not allow for gay marriages, I can see why that would be an issue.
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Old 07-12-2005, 06:00 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I'm glad you brought up that particular point Vautrin....it's that fine line between church and state which seems to cloud this issue. I'm not sure that anyone has a problem with a legal gay marriage...or perhaps calling it a 'legal union'....but when the church stuff gets pushed....then it becomes a major problem.

As for me, if I were gay, I'd bump the church...get my legal union....and call it a day. I wish I could consolidate the two...but I can't. And I'm not sure if trying to force the issue is the correct way for the gay community to go.
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Old 07-12-2005, 06:21 PM   #6 (permalink)
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In My opinion as long as a child has a loving parent or ( parent's) that's all that matters. Sexuality should have nothing to do with the way a child is raised. I know a gay male couple who would be wonderful parents to a child but they can't adopt here in the United States.

There are so many children who need homes I am sure they don't care about the sex life of there adoptee's as long as they have a loving healthy home.

I don't believe that if a child comes from a gay home it will make that chid gay.
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Old 07-12-2005, 06:28 PM   #7 (permalink)
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We are first and foremost (at least from a legal point of view) inhabitants of the US, Canada, the Netherlands, wherever we are. Which means we have to abide our respective laws. Laws which allow for gay marriage in the Netherlands, in Belgium, in Spain and Canada.

If you believe that eating certain foods is a sin, you are entitled to your belief. But you are not allowed to harass people to make certain that they don't eat that certain food. Especially if these people don't share that belief of you.

Not every gay is Catholic. Why should a non-Catholic follow Catholic teachings, in a secular matter? Unless you live in a theocratic and Catholic State, I don't see the rationale behind that.
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Old 07-12-2005, 06:35 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I totally agee Vautrin. I don't think a gay person should at all feel they have to abide by or beg for the acceptance of the church. What I do think....is that they should leave the church alone....and quit trying to make people accept something they don't want to accept.

It's like if I was living within a Quaker community...but I chose to wear a red dress. That's my choice. I should be able to wear the red dress. BUT...I shouldn't make it my platform in life to make the Quakers ACCEPT my red dress and also wear red dresses.

I should wear my red and let them wear their black and gray. Now, everyone is legal and fine.
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Old 07-13-2005, 12:04 AM   #9 (permalink)
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I don't care personally, there's so many heterosexual couples that screw their children up, maybe same sex marriages have the edge here. I say live and let live. Yes their gay, yes they want to be married and no longer be ashamed of who they are. Makes no difference to me but I'm still gonna remain hetero.
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Old 07-13-2005, 08:34 AM   #10 (permalink)
 
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Wow, glad to see the topic worked!

Thanks for your replies. It's funny, I teach a lot of English classes over here and lately this has been one of those 'get a conversation going' type topics and the opinions that are expressed include the ones you've all outlined above.

The whole Catholic thing here in Spain is one which is still a big thing, even though the country has been administratively secular for a while now. It's more or less a right-left political split too, although in the last couple of years we've been treated to 'shock-horror' stories of homosexual priests ( a big no-no in traditional spanish society) homosexual politicians (more accepted :wink: and even a homosexual civil guard (national military police org, that one caused a real stir)

I personally think that as long as a child is loved, and not abused then it doesn't matter who brings him (or her) up. How many children have already been brought up by homosexual priests in religious boarding schools?

Also, thousands of children are messed up every year by heterosexual family couples that beat them and swear at them and abuse them in other ways, so I don't see homosexuals having the exclusive on bringing up children badly.

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Old 11-02-2005, 12:41 PM   #11 (permalink)
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It's not society's place to tell anyone they're wrong for being homosexual. When judgement day comes they have to stand before God and account for their life and their decisions and me for mine.

We all just go through life doing the best we can, trying to survive and find a bit of joy along the way. If they find love and acceptance in the arms of the same sex then that is their choice. If they are a emotionally stable couple and can provide a child with a good loving home...who cares if it's two men or two women? As far as marraige for homosexuals go...It's just a title, what's the harm? How is it any diffrent than saying "Civil Union"? If that's what the want to call it let them.

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mar·riage ( P ) Pronunciation Key (mrj)
n.

The legal union of a man and woman as husband and wife.
The state of being married; wedlock.
A common-law marriage.
A union between two persons having the customary but usually not the legal force of marriage: a same-sex marriage.
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Old 11-02-2005, 01:11 PM   #12 (permalink)
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marriage has a religious base.
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Old 11-02-2005, 02:24 PM   #13 (permalink)
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So then Atheist should be banned from being married also. Right?
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Old 11-02-2005, 02:41 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Here's what I think.

Who friggin cares? People are people, some like the same sex. Who cares? Is it harming you in any way? No. Why do you need to stick your nose in other people's business? What is the catholic church? It's nothing more than a cult that sticks it's nose into everyones business and it's leaders are nothing more than bitter old men in horrible costums. Get Laid.

Take your church, turn it sideways, stick it in your poop shoot and leave people alone.

(I'm not talking about anyone here, I'm referring to the catholic church as a whole and it's leaders).

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Old 11-02-2005, 03:18 PM   #15 (permalink)
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all government based unions should be civil unions, marriages should be church only.
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Old 11-02-2005, 03:51 PM   #16 (permalink)
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