Parenting through divorce

[Duke]

Divorce is one of the roughest events that many of us will go through within our lifetime. Divorce can bring with it a plethora of emotion and it's not uncommon for us to get lost in our own world of emotion.

Unfortunately being lost in our emotional state can sometimes result in losing site of how divorce is affecting our children. Regardless of how bad things may get we cannot forget we are supposed to be parenting while trying to deal with our own emotional baggage.

Parenting through divorce is by far one of the toughest challenges anyone can face and we believe there's no need to face it alone.

This forums purpose is to discuss parenting through divorce and all parenting related issues arising from a splitting or split family unit. The common goal here is to support one another in this time of need and share ideas on how to ensure divorce does not negatively influence your children.

[newstart]

One book I found to be very helpful is "Divorce Poison" by Dr. Richard A. Warshak. It talks about how to preserve your relationship with your children when your ex tries to turn them against you. It also points out behavior that some parents might not even realize is hurtful to their children.

Newstart

[Duke]

Unfortunately, many divorced couples use their children as pawns in some sick game to get back at each other for the hurt they feel. What these people don't realize is this is not parenting, it's teaching vindictiveness, spite, and a host of irrational behavioral patterns.

It's not uncommon either for the older children to become marriage counselors or relationship therapists during this time.