When To Become Intimate

[Merika]

Even though life has progressed and people have changed......how long....AND BE HONEST....do you think a couple should date before getting intimate?

The male answers here are important. FEMALES, even young ones, read answers to these questions.

Not a judgement call...just your honest opinion.

[darkangelism]

are you saying intercourse or less then that but more then kissing?


i think it depends on age, but a month at the least, more the younger they are and if they are too young not at all.


But id prolly be a hypocrite and be like first date.

[Merika]

I think sleeping with someone on the first date...can be fatal...regardless of age. Guys want to go there....but will generally stick around longer if the female doesn't. I'm no prude and don't pretend to be (even with my children)......but I am known to do the HOLD OUT....for the longest time.

[twinkle]

I put my first bf out for 6 months. He sticked around 4 years after that, LOOL.

Current bf: around 3 months. I had the hots for him :oops: . Looks like he sticked around for only 9 monhs prior to that, hihihihi.


I think it depends on a lot of things. If they have a good chemistry, if they knew eachother prior to dating, how much they see eachother during a week, how well they get to know one another... I think that lust being taken off the list, trust is really important also. In my book, at least.

So I think that there's no common denominator... just people, you know?

[Meanon]

For me, when it feels right. No set time.

My men friends tell me that most women will not consider it before date 3 and that many men think less of women who sleep with them sooner than this. If true it is rather depressing, that an arbitrary number is seen as a better indicator of a person's morality than what you know of them.

[Stone]

Unfortunatly I am the one night stand queen but my last few guys I dated I learned my lesson. I waited 3 dates with Greg but he was hanging around for 2 years prior so I guess it was approiprate.

[Samson]

The male answers here are important.

Jeez, Merika, thought you knew us better!

How about 30 seconds? (depending, more or less, on how many Icehouse longnecks we've consumed prior to meeting you)

[alkali]

You ask a question that has so many variables it’s impossible to answer…each to their own. In most cases a guy can try but it won’t happen until the woman is good and ready, and probably plans it. For a guy “just use your headâ€ÂÂ� and you’ll know when its time to move on, there’s not much point in hanging around where you’re not wanted. If in doubt just ask, there's no point in playing silly games and you probably aren't a mind reader.

[Star]

interesting question. Prior to my husband, I would wait until maybe the 4th or 5th date. With hubby though, it was the first night. He brought over a case of beer and that was the end of that. I don't know why it happened that way because I really am not that kind of a girl but it did and he's still here after 15 years. go figure!

[Duke]

I usually am intimate with women before I even really know them. I'm not sure that there's a set time that will apply to all relationships anyway.

[Merika]

Originally Posted by Meanon

If true it is rather depressing, that an arbitrary number is seen as a better indicator of a person's morality than what you know of them.

AGREED! However, as my daughter has asked me this question....as honest as I can possibly be is.....MOST of the time immediate intimacy, without fist acquiring a relationship, doesn't work.

Now, if you are an adult woman and aren't out to build a relationship...well THERE YA GO. Then we are back to Samson's Icehouse analysis. Truth is....if I sleep with someone on the first date or well...meeting....then I'm not the least bit interested.

[Duke]

I've found no correlation between immediate intimacy and lasting relationships. All of mine have been all over the map and I have yet to see a pattern.