Waiting until marriage for sex

darkangelism · 05-09-2005, 04:23 PM

Random made a statement that he believes that people should wait until marriage for sex. I respect that stance a lot if he does what he preaches. Did you want to wait for marriage and then didnt? I know that I wont wait, even though its still possible for me to.

Duke · 05-09-2005, 04:34 PM

No I wouldn't wait myself. It's a noble idea but you may have several relationships till the time you marry. I'm 36 and still unmarried, if I waited till I did wed I'd likely explode :?

Stone · 05-09-2005, 08:42 PM

It's a honerable thing to believe and I think people who do are waiting are great religious people.

However I have 2 kids that are "out of wedlock" and I don't regret them, I still think God accepts all children and all people

twinkle · 05-10-2005, 04:19 AM

That's what I thought when I was 16, and I don't come from a religious family. That's what I thought when I was 17, and when I was 18, and when I was 19.

Then I met someone I sincerely thought I'd spend my life with and a few months before my 20's anniversary changed that.

I think sexual compatibility is a HUGE issue. Putting it out is being plainly insane. Good sex life can keep a relationship ogether, even when things aren't at its best. And spending the rest of your life with a man/woman whom does not satisfy you physically is just like you were signing the divorce papers directly. Society does not constraint people to stay married anymore. People are free to chose as they see fit, as it makes them happiest.

I believe that on the contrary, not having sex with someone before marriage, not knowing the other person totally and completely is not doing your job. Is being a dogmatic, a puritan, a pretend, a joke. IT's like playing the Russian Roulettewith your marriage. God does not approve of gambling, and even less when you're putting the marriage unit at stake.

Just my 2 cents,

Diana

Star · 05-10-2005, 05:17 AM

I'm not religious but I did plan on waiting until marriage when I was younger. I waited until I was 21 and I am proud that I did wait that long.

I don't regret not waiting. I waited until I was old enough for the responsibilities that come with sex. I had both my kids before marriage and there are no regrets. I married at the age of 30, had my first child at 24.

I think most people have that first thought of waiting until marriage but most end up not doing that. You fall in love and things happen.

My parents generation waited until marriage but they also married very young. My mother was 18 when she married and that was the norm back then. Nowadays, people are waiting a lot longer to marry.

Merika · 05-10-2005, 08:33 AM

If someone places their life on the principles of the Word of God...then Random is correct.

The original 'sexual design of things' was that in the exchange of blood in the mucus....two people who were married became one. (Much like the old thought of cutting wrists or fingers to merge a blood covenant between two people.)

Biblically speaking... the explotion of unwanted pregnancies, people all screwed up over relationships and high divorce rate....is due to people not taking their blood covenant seriously. As a matter of fact...the Bible states once you sleep with someone you ARE one with them....whether you think you are or not. So...now you've got all YOUR emotional baggage...plus theirs. This is why the Bible is strictly against sex outside of marriage.

If someone doesn't believe it....they don't have to live by that. I'm not judging....I'm only backing up what Ramdom believes and why the church teaches it the way they do.

Stone · 05-10-2005, 08:38 AM

I back up what Random believes 110% but unfrotunatly I didn't follow the words of the bible when it comes to sexuality

I do however wish that my children wouldn't have sex untill marriage... I guess it's do as I say not what I do syndrome

Merika · 05-10-2005, 09:52 AM

Since my kids post on here sometimes...I won't go into it.....but their Dad and I waited and for those of you who know me well....you see how THAT turned out!! I don't blame God though because it was strong in my heaert not to go thru with the marriage. I just really didn't know how to walk away with so many people in the church who were excited about it. It was MY mistake.

You are right Heather....few of us follow the principles that we know are correct. I don't know why....because we always pay for it in the end.

twinkle · 05-10-2005, 10:02 AM

Listen, you can believe in God and try to respect His word, but you also need to protect yourself and your future marriage.

And yes, sex is a very big issue in a marriage. You can trust your man when it comes to a lot of things, but I don't know too many men who'd tell their virgin wives: "Darling, I'm a smoker, I'm a drunk and I love jerking myself so much that I'm not interested in you sexually".

You need to know your partner, otherwise you're not inlove with him, but with an idea, with a phantom. I do believe that it's impetuous to live with your guy before getting married, so that you know what to expect later on.

I'm all for knowing. Because i want to protect myself. It's my job and I'm doing it for my future children. God shall forgive me for sinning before marriage with one man, the man I love, my future husband!

And if it's not working out, I do preffer to be a sinner and not a young divorcee with one or two kids in her arms.

It's not His words per se, but living in the Spirit of His word!

Merika · 05-10-2005, 10:15 AM

HAHA...I wasn't a virgin. I just had never slept with THAT one. Since we were the youth ministers of the church, GAWD...that seems like a lifetime ago, we thought we should set a good example.

darkangelism · 05-10-2005, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by twinkle

I love jerking myself so much that I'm not interested in you sexually".

What!?! Sorry out of that whole post thats all i got.

twinkle · 05-10-2005, 10:31 AM

The things we do for love ...

I think it's great to have conviction, just... you run your life by them, it's not them that run your life - I think I have a severe case of hate towards any type of rule :oops: or thing telling me how to think.

Merika · 05-10-2005, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

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Originally Posted by twinkle

I love jerking myself so much that I'm not interested in you sexually".

What!?! Sorry out of that whole post thats all i got.

I can see you reading along and only that part was hi-lighted in your brain of brains. LMAO!

Vautrin · 05-10-2005, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Duke

No I wouldn't wait myself. It's a noble idea but you may have several relationships till the time you marry. I'm 36 and still unmarried, if I waited till I did wed I'd likely explode :?

Perhaps you would have been married Duke. That is the thing, it does have a great impact on your life. Just as becoming a vegetarian will have an impact on the places you will frequent, and the people you are attracted to, or avoiding.

darkangelism · 05-10-2005, 11:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Merika

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

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Originally Posted by twinkle

I love jerking myself so much that I'm not interested in you sexually".

What!?! Sorry out of that whole post thats all i got.

I can see you reading along and only that part was hi-lighted in your brain of brains. LMAO!

lol, yeah i was reading read that, and thats all i could focus on.