Passion vs. Stability

YellowLioness · 02-04-2005, 01:14 PM

In marriage, what would you prefer?

Would you prefer a husband/wife that you coudln't keep your hands off of or one you can count on to pick up the kids from soccer practice (this is only an example, of course)?

Stone · 02-04-2005, 01:17 PM

A husband that I couldn't keep my hands off. A "satisfied" husband will do whatever you want anyway :wink:

twinkle · 02-04-2005, 01:19 PM

I hate the word marriage!

I'm in a relationship and as you might see through my posts, I think I'm experimenting a sometimes blinding passion, Lool! Was in a very stable, rich, secure relationship before... I vowed I'd never settle for "stable" sex life again!! It could prevent me from getting married, but I'm only 24 for the moment, marriage and wrinkles are faaaar away!

Fayebelle · 02-04-2005, 01:21 PM

gee thanks YL :?

we've been discussing this all day- I'm having ex issues

twinkle · 02-04-2005, 01:30 PM

Everyone has doubts and issues Faye. You won't be normal if you didn't. Don't be afraid to doubt, because otherwise you'll never get to know the two sides and be able to make the BEST choice.

You have a good instinct, Faye! And a fighter too, I don't see why you'd be any different in your private life

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Star · 02-04-2005, 01:33 PM

I prefer a husband that I can count on and that's responsible. When you have kids running around and as they get older, sex becomes a pot on the back burner. Sex doesn't happen unless the kids are sleeping or gone. so what would be the point in having one that you couldn't keep your hands off if you can't put your hands on him until then anyhow?

Fayebelle · 02-04-2005, 01:36 PM

thanks guys- sometimes relationships feel like choosing between apples and oranges instead of apples and apples

Can you truly fairly compare?

that may sound confusing but I'm confused right now *sigh*

YellowLioness · 02-04-2005, 01:38 PM

Sorry Faye! :-(

I just was curious. Ive been discussing this at work with some girls and they all prefer stability to passion.

Fayebelle · 02-04-2005, 01:40 PM

I didn't mean I was upset- I'm glad you started the thread- now someone besides me can beat their head over the options :wink:

Stone · 02-04-2005, 01:42 PM

I say get a responsible husband and a boy toy on the side!!! LMAO
( kidding kidding)

twinkle · 02-04-2005, 01:47 PM

LOOL, Faye, that's not gonna be me. I for one KNOW stability is kinda non existant in my relationship. We've reached a certain equilibrium that we're both trying to preserve, but underneith...

I think it's wrong to call it "stability". It's more a matter of control. That's why I whine about. I cannot control him. And if I did, I think I'd dump him after a while 8O

Fayebelle · 02-04-2005, 01:54 PM

see- Sam is TOTALLY controllable

My ex used to be Totally out of control (some of you have heard stories)- he called last nt (we haven't talked in a few months) and he's really changed his life around- still silly but a bit more sensible

I started wondering what happens when your wild one calms down- he'll never be tame but at least you are more on the same team....

I know that's worded weird- I'm exhausted- forgive me...

darkangelism · 02-04-2005, 02:14 PM

stability, i mean from what i have heard sex is fun, but fun cant make a long term thing work.

Sparklenfade · 02-04-2005, 02:20 PM

As faye knows i'm in the same mind frame...

My ex and i were very passionate tried alot of things and what not.... But that kind of passion comes with other stuff outside the bedroom that takes definate tolls on the relationship... Granted I think the only reason he was that passionate for me was the drugs... If Mike hadn't come along i'ld probably still be in that relationship supporting the both of us and his drug habits... Mike at the time was a welcome change someone who at the time i thought was romantic and want nothing more than to make me happy... We live apart he religiously called me many times a day his cell phones were 3xs what they were when i moved to be with him... I'm not all overly physically turned on by him... its the stuff he does for me that turns me on... I know I couldn't have found a better man... He would do anything for me and tells me nightly he can't wait till we are married... But my ex is still in the back of my mind...

So I guess with the wedding coming up i'm going with Stability over Passion

Fayebelle · 02-04-2005, 02:21 PM

I should clarify- by passion we aren't just talking sex

Excitement, extreme displays of emotion and devotion, someone you are just desperate to be with