Online Dating

[Merika]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

(when i used online dating i emailed every pretty girl on there,

HAHA DA. A woman could weigh 300 pounds and have a horn growing out of her forehead and get dates on some of those sites! About 4 years ago...I posted on some date site with a female friend of mine. We both got close to 35 emails a piece in 2 hours. We ran into a sailor who was stationed in Georgia (over an hour away) and he actually drove down with a buddy just to buy us beer in a bar we agreed to meet at that afternoon.

[Vautrin]

DA: How did you do that? With a general message, or going indepth on the points they raised in their profiles?

If you do the last, you increase your chances dramatically. And if you are sensitive about the points they raised, and not writing verbatim what they wrote, further increases may be expected.

Don't write too much about their photographs / beauty, if at all. It makes women think you are after them for the "benefits."

[Stone]

Originally Posted by Vautrin

SH: I don't think it's an addiction problem. After all, the addiction would still exist once in a relationship. If it really was a sexual addiction, and your bfs could not perform for one reason or another, you would have sought for gratification outside the relationship, at these times.

:? I did

[Stone]

Originally Posted by Merika

SH...I guess the question would be...do you really WANT to sleep with everyone you date (which is fine if that's a person's choice) or do you just end up getting in that position (no pun intended) because you don't feel you have anything else to offer?

I know I have alot to offer that isn't the problem. I think I am just a sex feen it's some type of power trip I think that's why I loved dancing at the club. Some wacked out power trip that give's me some weird satisfaction.... I'm just friggin nuts :?

[darkangelism]

at least you admit its a problem.


vaturin, i used a generic message, copy and paste for dozens of girls a day.

[Vautrin]

DA. Instead of emailing dozens of girls a day, it is better to write to two or three, and use the information in their profiles. Share a bit of you, tell a bit of them, and what you think of the information they entered in a profile.

Even though they won't respond all, you improve your chances a lot. Give them something to think about, and make them known you are interested in them SPECIFICALLY. If a girl has an exotic interest which you also have, share that information. Use words to suggest a bond between you 2.

[darkangelism]

i have pretty much given up on online dating.

[Stone]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

i have pretty much given up on online dating.

WHY I would assume that most people lie. or thats what I've heard.. but I have meet some great friends online that I am sure don't lie. so this is where I am confused.

[Vautrin]

Sadly because most people online, lie about themselves. I have been lucky, and have met a few great friends online, who live on different ends of the world. Sometimes it is hard, because of cultural differences.

Given my interests, if you share them with me, I am always interested. In the city where I live (200,000 people) I haven't found a soul who shares these interests.

Most often I do get to know them at first, before forming friendships. Also, and this may seem strange, I am very picky in who I give my attention to.

SH, a lot of people can lie, and get away with it. The same is true in real life. A lot of people depend on body language. Which is lacking on internet forums.
It might also be a problem when you are dating. You might date a confident guy "body language-wise", but a not so healthy guy judging by his words.

[Stone]

Aint that the truth!

[Vautrin]

SH: Take a psychologist with you, on your next dates

[darkangelism]

Originally Posted by Stoneheather

WHY I would assume that most people lie. or thats what I've heard.. but I have meet some great friends online that I am sure don't lie. so this is where I am confused.

That isnt why i gave up, i gave up because it wasnt working, very few would respond. I got discouraged.

[Merika]

On those dating sites.....they can be a very shallow arena. Most females get tons and tons of replies....so they sort thru them without great thought.

[Vautrin]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

Vautrin, i used a generic message, copy and paste for dozens of girls a day.

Originally Posted by Merika

On those dating sites.....they can be a very shallow arena. Most females get tons and tons of replies....so they sort thru them without great thought.

I think the problem is simply the generic message DA uses.

You are simply not after a few dozen girls to date. And certainly not after a few dozen girls to start a relationship with. One will suffice. So the focus should be on quality of message to the intended receivers.

Of course the women weed out the standard messages. They will look for guys with something more. Who can talk about her interests, who can be sensitive if needed, et cetera. Depends a bit on the woman, true. You must appear as a serious guy, and not as just a guy(who is after some action), if the women are looking for relationships.

True, dating sites can be very shallow. But so can meeting in the real world be. For instance, I was rejected once for a relationship, because the girl was maybe an inch taller than I was. Somehow all my qualities did not matter anymore; qualities she greatly admired.

[Samson]

Online dating seems to be the next-to-last-act of desperation just before an individual immerses himself in learning how to speak fluent Klingon.

However, I'm certain that as with almost everything some have managed to master the technique enough to target, and be targeted, with normally satisfactory results.

[Vautrin]

The thing is Samson, if you are in specific group, and look for a specific type of person, it works great. Earlier in the thread I gave an example of a female friend, who tried it, because her intelligence scared the men away from her. It was a success for her.

If you don't know what you look for, it will be a complete disaster. The same as normal dating. An average Joe/Jane will not get his feet in the door.

[Merika]

See...I don't date men unless they are in uniform which includes a gun of some sort. They need to be conservative Republican...and find pleasure in killing the enemy.

Can't find that at every local bar. Well...in my case I can...but I also have the 3-state rule...in that I only date men located 3 states away...so they won't bug me the rest of the week.

I either belong in a looney bin or I have to utilize internet specific dating.

[darkangelism]

Originally Posted by Merika

See...I don't date men unless they are in uniform which includes a gun of some sort. They need to be conservative Republican...and find pleasure in killing the enemy.

Does that include inmates...jk

[Merika]

Oh Gawd No...they aren't allowed guns. I have dated a guard or two...LOL! Not my preferred uniform....but in a pinch........

[darkangelism]

i wish private military's were legal, id so start one.

[Merika]

You could get yourself a Texas Ranger uniform to go with your hot black hat!!!

[Weiser]

Kicking a dead horse just enough to bring it back to life for a bit.

I've never online dated, BUT, I did have a profile on Ratemyface.com where people can send emails, post comments, rate your face, etc. I guess it's sort of like online dating services, where you can contact people and stuff - but it's free and a bit more shallow.

Anyways, long story short, hot girl gives me a 10, yadda yadda, run into her at the bar by accident when I was looking for my friends, danced, got number, went out the next day and dated for almost a year. It was pretty fun for just meeting her from the net.

[Stone]

See ya never know. Months ago V didn't date online either and from what I remember that is the only way him and his new love thing communicate and they both lived happily ever after

[Alex22]

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[cupidmarket]

Of course i've tried it so many times i've meeting a lot of people on online dating. Getting more friends and some are with relationship by now im enjoying it.