not knowing what to say

[darkangelism]

I find that when i talk to girls that i like i have a hard time finding stuff to say. Like with the girl i met at the bar i havnt been able to bring myself to call her, i saw her on the street on sunday, so waiting longer didnt seem to bad.

[Star]

sometimes saying less is better then saying too much DA. A simple "hi, how are ya?" starts off a conversation pretty good. it breaks the ice. Let the girl lead you into a conversation. all girls like to talk. :wink:

[Duke]

Ask open ended questions, it forces them to talk. If you get only one or two word answers then it's likely she's not too interested but if she yacks like women most often d then she's into it.

Don't get into any deep conversations of point of view type stuff, keep it short and simple and you should be golden. Personally I talk about the time we had when we met and ask if she's intersted in seeing a movie or something.

[darkangelism]

we had a decent conersation at the bar, but i had been drinking so i wasnt nervous.

[twinkle]

Be nice and caring. Ask her if she's had a few good couple of daysand actually listen. The reason men think women talk so much on the phone is that we then ask thew "how you've been", women actually think they're interested in what they have been doing :roll: .

Otherwise, Duke's right, if she's talking, she's interested.

Just be yourself, she cannot help it but really like you! And since it seems you've found your mojo ... you're on the right way!

[Duke]

Just pretend to care da, women really like that

[Merika]

Each girl is different DA. If I went out with a guy and he wanted to discuss is 'movies' or something I consider trivial...I'd think he was dumber than a turnip. So...you'll have to play it by ear and figure out what she likes talking about thru trial and error.

Drink a couple of beers and give her a call. Pretend you are calling one of us and just be yourself. If you need to....make a few notes as to some things you'd like to know about her and follow your notes if the conversation slows down too much.

OR....just call and say you are going to be at whatever bar you guys met in on Friday night. Tell her if she would like to join you for awhile....you would love to buy her a couple of drinks. That way...you avoid the 'yes - no' pressure of asking her for a regular date.

[Vautrin]

The first few topics of conversation are the most telling.

About each other's personality and about the interest levels.

Added: And about Duke's advice, remove "pretend to." Makes it a lot easier.

[darkangelism]

i saw her at school, and she said she has been really busy and that we can hang out next week or after spring break.

[Meanon]

it forces them to talk

Don't feel you have to entertain her. The nerves are a form of self preoccupation, wondering and being anxious about how you are coming across. Tackle them by concentrating on her, her interests and making her feel comfortable with you. That leaves less opportunity for worrying about yourself. Every time your attention shifts to yourself, make a conscious effort to move it to her. This will work much better in building a reciprocal relationship than replying on a specific technique or topic, which may come across as forced or boring.

[Stone]

Be confident, caring, and intrested.

[darkangelism]

the confident one is the hardest one, the caring and interested is easy cause i am caring and i am interested in what she has to say.

[Stone]

Try Mirror talk before you go out...

[darkangelism]

yeah, if i get past being nervous then im fine.

[Merika]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

yeah, if i get past being nervous then im fine.

You can always call on Dr. Icehouse to soothe your nerves before the main event. You are now 21....so I can SAY THAT! LOL!