new girl

darkangelism · 02-03-2008, 12:24 PM

Well i met this new girl and she isnt crazy. I met her online and we are supposed to go on a date next week, but last night she invited me out to a club with her friends and it started off great we were all close and liking each other and then when we were leaving she said "well it was nice to meet you" which totally sounds like she doesnt like me, and now im confused because I dont think i did anything wrong.

Vautrin · 02-03-2008, 12:31 PM

Don't overread what she says. Just see what happens. Then you may have a better idea of whether she likes you or not.

Luba · 02-03-2008, 12:34 PM

I agree with Vautrin, DA, don't put too much into it! Just have fun, fun, fun! Women nowadays like to take things slower, to find out what a guy is really like, IMHO!

darkangelism · 02-03-2008, 04:05 PM

yeah everything is fine, she had fun last night and we talked a bit today. As for taking things slow, that didnt exactly happen, we were holding hands with 20 seconds of meeting each other, but there was an instant attraction between us that i have never had before.

StillWaiting99 · 02-04-2008, 09:11 AM

Good to hear that your prospects have turned, DA!

Vautrin · 02-04-2008, 09:57 AM

See? Just don't overanalyse. It works better.

darkangelism · 02-04-2008, 11:11 AM

im still insecure about the whole thing, at least until she says thats she likes me

Meanon · 02-04-2008, 05:01 PM

Doubts are natural in the early days, but remember all the other predictions you made (not being able to find a girlfriend, not being able to find a happy one) that you've proved wrong? Try and enjoy yourself despite the doubts - that way you haven't wasted your time, no matter what happens and you'll be your usual fun self to be with too.

darkangelism · 02-04-2008, 05:43 PM

yeah im trying, because me and her primarily talk through text messages she tends to ignore messages that she doesnt feel like answering, so getting her thoughts on anything are tough.

Duke · 02-04-2008, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

im still insecure about the whole thing, at least until she says thats she likes me

Actions speak louder than words, if she's spending time with you then obviously there's some interest there. Getting a girl to like you is the easy part, not screwing it up is where the difficulty lies.

...in other words, if you're a human b00ger she'll do all she can to shake you off her finger.

TKDLady · 02-04-2008, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Duke

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

im still insecure about the whole thing, at least until she says thats she likes me

Actions speak louder than words, if she's spending time with you then obviously there's some interest there. Getting a girl to like you is the easy part, not screwing it up is where the difficulty lies.

...in other words, if you're a human b00ger she'll do all she can to shake you off her finger.

What a gross analogy! Accurate but gross!!

darkangelism · 02-05-2008, 11:16 AM

yeah thats what i thought, she has kept talking to me and added me on myspace and facebook, so so far I havnt screwed up.

NoTargeT · 02-05-2008, 01:43 PM

When two people really like/fall in love with each other, stuff like 'not screwing up' and 'not doing anything wrong' really doesn't matter much.
It's things like 'there was an instant attraction between us that i have never had before' that are way more important.

Accepting each other as you are is much better then trying to 'act' the perfect date. If you're both at ease with eachother and butterflies roam freely for both, then things are looking good

A loving relationship is something you should be eager to build, not scared to break.
I hope this makes any sense. Love is easier to show then to translate

Duke · 02-05-2008, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by NoTargeT

When two people really like/fall in love with each other, stuff like 'not screwing up' and 'not doing anything wrong' really doesn't matter much.
It's things like 'there was an instant attraction between us that i have never had before' that are way more important.

Accepting each other as you are is much better then trying to 'act' the perfect date. If you're both at ease with eachother and butterflies roam freely for both, then things are looking good

A loving relationship is something you should be eager to build, not scared to break.
I hope this makes any sense. Love is easier to show then to translate

Agreed, but I do believe it takes time to get to this point.