my ex may want me back

darkangelism · 03-08-2008, 12:56 AM

My ex told me that she had been thinking about asking me to get back together but she got depressed after fighting with her other ex and didnt want to anymore right now, so more then likely she will end up happy in a week and want to, but im not sure if i should, i want to be with her, but i dont want to get hurt, it sucks enough that she wants me but wont date me now.

IR_Efrem · 03-08-2008, 01:56 AM

Sounds like a woman who, "wants to keep her options open"

which is Garble speak for, well I am hurt and confused and I don't know what I really want, So I'll tell every significant person in my life that I still have feelings for them. In your case I honestly don't see anything good happening for you in this situation. If you TRULY want a relationship with her just tell her NO GAMES! Never approach a situation where either of you is emotionally screwed up, it never ends well.

I've been divorced for almost 9 years from my first ex-wife, every once in a while when my feelings are frayed and I'm not feeling emotionally right, some old feelings re-surface, in regards to her. Its been 9 years!! The shorter the time has been since the break-up the stronger those feelings are. I have recognized these patterns over the course of my life and I ignore them because they are nothing but harmful to me.

And in your case, what happens when she is no longer emotionally confused, well she realizes that you aren't what she really wanted...

darkangelism · 03-08-2008, 10:34 AM

Yeah, yuor right, the only thing is that she was fine cause she hadnt been talking to her other ex and thats when she wanted me back, but as soon as he popped back up she didnt.

Zil · 03-08-2008, 10:46 AM

Man, the hell with all this (as my mom would say) wishy-washy nonsense from the girls you know... they need to grow up and mature and figure out exactly what the hell they want in life and if they're not at that point yet, you're better off just forgetting about them entirely.

Trust me.

Luba · 03-08-2008, 11:10 AM

DA, I'm sorry that the girls in your current life have so many problems and putting you in the middle of them! You don't have to wait to be wanted back, you are a GOOD person who deserves better! Don't waste your valuable time! You don't need girls who play 'mind games' with you. Move on, have fun, there all lots of girls out there who are looking for the same!

darkangelism · 03-08-2008, 01:17 PM

im not waiting around for her, but there isnt anybody else yet, so no harm in letting it play out, im not upset or anything, it was just shocking.

Duke · 03-08-2008, 01:31 PM

She's a bbd (bigger better deal) gal da so she's most comfortable structuring her life in a manner where she has a main squeeze that she's really into and a fall guy to take her guff when things are lousy.

Not only is she not a girlfriend, she's not a friend because you'll only be important to her when things are lousy, when she's happy you'll be a memory.

TKDLady · 03-08-2008, 01:34 PM

Move on DA. You will be better off.

Weiser · 03-08-2008, 03:10 PM

(cop voice) step away from the ex.

darkangelism · 03-25-2008, 12:50 AM

well i didnt listen to you all and me and my ex are back together and have been for longer then the first time we were together. I dont know what will happen, but so far its been good, though her being away for a week for spring break helped cause we didnt see each other.

IvyRose · 03-25-2008, 02:11 AM

I hope it works out for you, DA. If not, you know my number.

(Yes, it's a joke. DA knows I'm joking.)

Sincerely, good luck.

darkangelism · 03-25-2008, 01:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by IvyRose

I hope it works out for you, DA. If not, you know my number.

(Yes, it's a joke. DA knows I'm joking.)

Sincerely, good luck.

unfortunately, you know how i like mature women,lol. Yeah i hope it works out there is already noticeable difference in the way she treats me, like she actually wants to be around me this time,lol.