Marriage and YL

[Duke]

My bum is itchy.

[Merika]

Originally Posted by Duke

My bum is itchy.

[Duke]

That might do some damage.

[YellowLioness]

LOL!
I read somewhere online (maybe where Merika is from :roll: ) that people who elope (in some wedding poll on MSN) don't wish that they had done the whole huge white wedding deal.

However, lots of those that had a big wedding wished that they had eloped instead!

This is for me and Beanie. We just wouldn't enjoy it as much if we had to share it with other people who have their own agendas. This way, we'll be able to go where ever we want to go, do what ever we want to do, and we won't have to worry about pleasing every one else! :-)

Oh, we're excited. I love my bean!

[Merika]

I think it's also the expense of a traditional wedding which has caused lots of people to find alternate ideas. To spend thousands of dollars on one day...when you could be exploring Europe or some other destination together....seems foolish.


A pic for you to make you smile YL!

[Star]

hubby and I eloped and we wouldn't of done it any other way. Why spend all that money just to please everyone else? We also had a reception for everyone to come to a month after we were married. That was a disaster and we do wish we didn't even do that for everyone else. :roll:

I wish you and your fiance the best YL with your upcoming wedding! Have fun and get married the way you and your beanie wants to get married. It's your special day!

[YellowLioness]

Exactly, Star!

Merika, you are a good cheer-er upper! Thanks!

My mom's not cool with me going to Europe. She think that I should just go to Kentucky and get married, and not go to Europe because, "it's so expensive. Why can't you just go to Kentucky and do it?"

I was like, "Mom, it's my life, and I'll go to Scotland if I want to. I'm almost 24, and when I'm married I'll be 25. I'm an adult now. This is how I want to do it."

She said, "Well, sure dear."

I'm not sure what's going on with that. She doesn't seem to really want to go to my wedding in the first place- she acts like she doesn't care about that. I'm not sure why it means anything to her that I get married in KY. Not that KY isn't a pretty state- it is- but it holds no emotional value for anyone in our family.

Maybe she's just jealous that I'm going over seas. I don't know. She always acts with derision any time I make a decision for myself that goes against what she feels is best. When I told her I was going to get a dog, she said, "Why do you need a dog? They're so expensive, and they're worse then children. You'll never be able to go anywhere."

And yeah, that is true. But, I knew all of these things beforehand. It's just strange to me how she behaves. She also wants me to leave Bean and come and live with her,"Think of all the money you'll save! You could do anything you wanted to do," but when I'm home she's VERY difficult to deal with, to the point that she drives me away with her, "Nothing you say or do is good enough" attitude. Then she says, "Oh, I thought you were staying longer!"

Beanie and I are considering moving out of WV. It's a box- people come here and get trapped by the poor economy. Mum is all for the move, but whenver I mention a place to her, like South Carolina, California, etc. she always has huge objections. "South Carolina- too many hurricanes! California- too liberal! Besides, all of those earthquakes!"

Then, she blamed me for messing up her computer when all I did was defrag it. Turns out her keyboard wasn't working properly. It's like everything has to be my fault, and nothing I can do will ever make me a worthwhile person in her eyes.

It sucks that she can't even be happy for me a)finding someone that I'm happy with and b) deciding to marry him.

Whatever I've done, I wish that she could put it behind her and just wish me well.

*sigh*
I don't get her! Maybe I'm not supposed to.

[Stone]

Originally Posted by Duke

Whoa, guess some fat ladies a little hormonal today

Want me to rub your feet dear?

MEN ERGGG they call you fat THEN want to rub your feet

YL-

Will you guys have a weddig shower or bachlor/ bachlorette parties?

[Merika]

Well...you said a mouthful there YL! My Mom was overbearing also....but she only did it to try to guide me and protect me. I didn't understand it until I got older and had kids of my own. As a parent....you just want to keep them from making mistakes and screwing up their lives. The motive is usually good.....it just gets mixed up in all the words.

I was in my 30's before I told my Mom "I'm an adult now and I need to be respected for my own decisions and mistakes." My Mom was shocked and said she didn't realize she was in my business all the time. She really thought she was being helpful. HAHA! Every now and then, she will still give me her two cents worth....but she'll catch herself and apologize.

See YOURSELF as a decision making adult, get your confidence up....and just confront her in love. Remind her she did a great job as a Mom and you are going to make it through life just fine with all the foundations she has given you. Then, just go out and be who you are.

[YellowLioness]

For some reason, my post didn't take.

Merika, thank you for your sage advice. You are like the string that keeps the kite tethered, LOL!

I didnt' realize that I even felt that way until I started writing, and it all poured out! Wow, the wonders of LS!

SH- my whole life prior to Beanie was a bachelorette party! I once was a wild child...not so much now, LOL! College was a good time for me.

I'll prolly just get together with some old friends and talk about the past, and how much things have changed.

Beanie will prolly get drunk at a strip bar, and I'm OK with that 'cause strippers here are nasty.

Meat curtains, anyone?

(that's an old joke from another forum in another time/place. ;-) )

[Stone]

I don't believe in having bachlorette/ bachlor parties unless it's like golfing with the guys or brunch with some girlfriends. I've been to TO MANY of both parties and each of them we're pretty risky.

Don't worry about your mom, MOm's will be moms' sounds like your an olny chid???

And what do you know about a meat curtin my love???? Kidding LMAO

[Merika]

Originally Posted by Stoneheather

I don't believe in having bachlorette/ bachlor parties unless it's like golfing with the guys or brunch with some girlfriends.

WOW...that's real exciting....GOLFING with the guys! HAHAHA! I wouldn't care if he had a party with porn or a lap dance.....it's just one night and just one party. Ofcourse....if I were married....I wouldn't care if my husband did either of those things anyway. I just wouldn't care.

[Stone]

A lap dance would be oK to, but no private parties with priviate dancers
( escorts). Plus I would rather give my guy his own personal lap dance.. I'd probably do a better job anyway.. LMAO

Plus for the chick POV I HATE HATE HATE Male strippers, they are slimey and greasy and gay.

[Merika]

I personally don't think I would enjoy a gay stripper...I wouldn't even find it a turn on if I had a hottie date which stripped to music. I can understand I guy with his buddies liking it though.

And you are right. If you can do the job well enough yourself.....the paid competition seems silly. I would want a man to prefer my own lap dance....but if he got one elsewhere....I wouldn't take it personal. Sometimes in the middle of a great steak meal.....a guy likes a cheap burger. HAHA!

[Star]

I feel different about it. I would mind it a lot if hubby got a lap dance from another woman in a strip joint. I find it to be very personal and I would feel like he betrayed and cheated on me. I know he feels the same if it were me getting the lap dance (from a male stripper of course). We're that loyal to eachother.

I went to a male strip club once way back when I was young and single and I didn't enjoy it at all. It left nothing to the imagination and I think that's what spoiled it for me. I went there with a few of my friends. we had 1 drink and left and ended up in a dance club instead. we had more fun there dancing with cute guys that had their clothes on.