Love Yourself?

[Star]

yes it is which is why i thought i'd bring it back to life. I found it very interesting.

[Duke]

I'm very glad you brought it back to life star, I did find it to be one of the more thought provoking threads we had and one of the few that actually seemed not to stray too far from topic.

I can only hope that the bumped status of this topic adds some new life to it and we get a few other POV's on it.

Great job star!

[Merika]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

this thread is really old.

Much like myself...and I TOO need recycling every now and then.

[Paul]

Great post Star! This is actually the first thread I started here and it was within the first couple days of the site going live, if not the first day.

It's really important for me to understand love, I'm very analytical but at the same time, the more that I've become in love, the more I've begun to understand just how unpredictable and changing it is.

Since I started writing this, I've discovered that I do know what true love is, even as much as I thought I knew about it before, I've now lived the defenition. I've been hurt by this girl is a couple ways and I've hurt her by the things I've said but when it comes right down to it, we love eachother despite our faults. What has changed is that I'm not as naive about things as before and I realize that true love is unchanging, as much as it might hurt, even if you're not with the person anymore, you still love them. I also don't think so much about how things will be and instead enjoy how things are right now, take it day by day and quit putting so much pressure on myself and the relationship to succeed.

All I know is that I'm very grateful to be able to love and be loved the way I do, it's amazing to come to the realization that you love this person no matter how they've hurt you, as stupid as it may seem and for that person to stop hurting you because they realize that they actually feel the same way too.

Anyway point is, be aware of your feelings, what is true and not, but cherish true love when you've got it.

[Star]

I think this is an excellent thread to keep alive. I read through the whole thing and decided I wanted to add my two cents worth. :wink:

Love is like a sentimental piece of jewelry that you hold dear to your heart. You take care of it and keep it from harms way. Love is special and once you have love, you should cherish it and take extra good care of it because it is extremely fragile.

If you have loved once in your life, you're a very lucky person. If you've loved twice, you're extremely lucky. I got married when I was 30. I had tons of old boyfriends who wanted to marry me but I just couldn't take that step back then and I'm so happy that I didn't. I've returned many diamond rings. I would've married the wrong guy and who knows what my life would've been like. Don't even want to know. :?

True love is an amaizing gift. when you find it, you should work to keep it because you just don't know when or if it'll happen again.

[Duke]

Originally Posted by Star

I think this is an excellent thread to keep alive. I read through the whole thing and decided I wanted to add my two cents worth. :wink:

How did you even find this thread, it must have been on the back pages?

[Star]

it was in the back pages. I was sifting through some threads that were posted before I joined and found this one to be interesting.

[Luba]

Originally Posted by Star

it was in the back pages. I was sifting through some threads that were posted before I joined and found this one to be interesting.

I, too, found this posting very thought-provoking!
What I found in my life is that just when I thought I was where I want to be and had all the answers for my life, more challenges came up that brought up painful memories that I thought I had dealt with!
I met this new friend that is teaching me about dealing with pain, she is going through some severe challenges. She is going 'from one end to the other with it". I am trying that, for I was one to try and put a "positive" spin on everything, I find now that it doesn't always work, for what I thought I had figured out is coming back to bite me again.
Even though I do love the person I am now, I know I've just put a bandaid on some heavy pain.
Now when a difficult situation arises and some old feeling of pain returns, I just let it come, invite it in and feel it through! I've tried it with people who push my buttons, and I've been told they are our greatest teachers, and I believe they are. They are the ones that bring some unresolved issue that hasn't been dealt with!
It's still a new process, but it's working for me. For the longest time I couldn't cry, and I didn't know why. Since I've been allowing myself to really "feel" the pain, my tears are flowing again, the dam has burst!
I am finding a peace I have truthfully never known before!

[CCC]

I was going to post the different types of love, but since it's included here, I decided instead to bump this discussion.

[Star]

this thread was found twice. i'm looking forward to what the other members have to say about this topic.