Living together before marriage - Page 2

Paul · 10-28-2004, 12:56 AM

I don't mean being overwhelmed, it only takes a bit to spoil the whole bunch. Negative people and thier attitudes have a wierd effect on people but it'll never take over, not worried about that, to many cool positive people here!

Duke · 10-28-2004, 12:59 AM

I think if I were to see a member who was always down I'd likely inquire as to why. I care too much about the people here and the visitors as well to have us all completely bummed all the time.

This place isn't about bumming people out. It's about facing the problems head on and dealing with them in ways that may have not ocurred to us but have worked for others. It will be interesting to see how things go as the site grows.

Paul · 10-28-2004, 01:02 AM

exactly my point, great idea and it will be interesting!

Merika · 10-28-2004, 09:23 AM

I read all that and felt like I was listening in on a telephone conversation! HAHA!

Duke · 10-28-2004, 09:32 PM

Time for a new hash pipe. :roll:

Paul · 10-29-2004, 12:14 AM

Back on topic!!

Duke · 10-30-2004, 02:33 AM

Anyway, a lovely young lady that I've been conversing with over the net will be coming to stay with me over the holidays and likely for a great deal longer. In fact, the plan is for her to not leave at all.

There's no way to determine whether or not we'll make it a lifetime without living together for a while.

Merika · 10-31-2004, 08:35 AM

Oh Wow Duke....that's great! I'm glad you are finally getting a chance to get together. You are gonna be one nervous puppy! I'm excited for both of you!!!!!

Duke · 10-31-2004, 10:20 AM

We're already both getting nervous.

Mine stems from the fact that I've never been single for any length of time since the age of 18. After the breakup from my daughters mom, I took a lot of time off, stayed single and tried to figure out who I was as a person. No better time than after your life turns upside down.

She had a similar experience minus the child and took hiatus as well. We met by chance in a chatroom and joked around. I only went into this room for a few laughs with some buddies and she was there. There was a gal in there along with others getting on my case because I wouldn't click on the link she provided to see her nude pictures (I've seen my share of naked women). They all thought I was an idiot and it was feeding my insults left, right and center. I don't think any of them actually knew how hard I was laughing except for my gal.

I left the chatroom because their whining was getting old and my gal followed me out. Good thing she did or there would be no need for this post. She IM'd me before I signed off (which is still a miracle because I usually leave a room by signing off). We added each other to our buddy lists and have spoken every day since. That was just over 2 years ago.

Here we are, two years and a bit later and now looking way off into the future. I know more about her than all the women of my previous relationships combined.

Should be interesting.

Merika · 11-01-2004, 08:25 PM

Did you ever look at the nude pics?

Duke · 11-01-2004, 09:29 PM

nope, thats what was bugging this woman so much. I was the only guy in the room that wouldn't look at them, not to get her worked up, but simply because I wasn't interested.

They all thought I was an idiot but so what.

11-24-2004, 01:59 PM

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Originally Posted by star_64

I lived with a guy for 4 years, slept in the same bed and did nothing sexually so I know it can be done and it's not that hard when you have your mind set on it.

No freaking way.....I'm with Duke. Almost nobody has that kinda restraint.

And Duke - if it's somebody you could meet why didn't you look?

(I'm not sure if this is gonna post....but I know Duke from another forum.)

Merika · 11-25-2004, 08:51 AM

Im glad you posted Yoyo!

I think it just depends on the two people invoved.

Ayla · 11-27-2004, 05:29 AM

I was raised to believe living together was "improper" as well. I think it's a decision you should make on an individual case.

However I will say this...

I'm married, it's my second and final marraige. We lived together for over a year before deciding to get married. I know this one is for good. If I had lived with my first husband before walking down the isle I would have realized he was gay before making that commitment and saved both of us a lot of hassle later on.

And Duke, I met my current husband in a Yahoo chat room. I wish you lot's of luck with this! :OD