liking more then one person at a time

darkangelism · 04-13-2005, 01:19 PM

I like two girls a lot right now, one im practically in love with, the other is a big crush, it shouldnt be a problem because im not with either and so i will persue both. I just fel like if i do end up getting one then ill feel bad about the other and they are friends.

The girl i like more (named P in my previous posts) wants to hang out this weekend just to watch tv with me, i think that now that im being myself more and not activily chasing her she is starting to like me.

The other girl(R) is also seemingly interested and wants to hang out too, she is on and off with her bf.

At some point i have to choose, i want to think it will be more then just who i end up kissing first.

Star · 04-13-2005, 01:59 PM

I think it's a little dangerous to be chasing 2 girls at one time that are friends. both will know that you're chasing them. chances are you might end up with neither one.

if one has a boyfriend then why not leave her be and pursue the one who has no boyfriend?

Stone · 04-13-2005, 02:05 PM

Friends talk they will know you are flirting with both make your choice and stick to it

Vautrin · 04-13-2005, 02:55 PM

Stick to P.

If R is on and off with her bf / ex-bf / limbo-bf, it will probably be a mentally draining relationship, and once R's relationship is definitely over, she will have to take the time to collect the pieces and restore the damage. If it were otherwise, her heart would not be in the relationship.
If her heart is not in the relationship, she would probably not be good relationship material in the first place.

Friends talk, and that can backfire on you, as Star warned.

Duke · 04-13-2005, 03:07 PM

I think that two's not enough. The more jobs you apply for, the better chance you have of finding the one you want.

I think you do tend to fall a little too far way too fast though.

darkangelism · 04-13-2005, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Duke

I think you do tend to fall a little too far way too fast though.

I try not to, with P it took about 6 months for me to feel this strongly, so im getting better.

The reason why i dont go after the single one is that i have asked her out and she said no, but i still get the feeling that she likes me and doesnt know me well enough, she says she likes to be friends first.

Paul · 04-13-2005, 04:48 PM

Ya stick with P, I've had R (not literally!) and she may have a bit to much baggage right now.

darkangelism · 04-13-2005, 08:26 PM

ok now each of the girls wants me to go after the other, i have a feeling im gonna end up with neither.

Star · 04-13-2005, 09:00 PM

I'm sorry to say it but I think you're right.

darkangelism · 04-13-2005, 09:08 PM

this is pretty much how my life goes, im still gonna see what happens and im not gonna change the direction of what im doing, im just gonna be more careful.

I mean R told me that she thinks me and P should be together and it sorta sounded like she knew something that i didnt, so im not totally ruling anything out.

Duke · 04-14-2005, 02:23 AM

:roll:

Paul · 04-14-2005, 04:03 AM

twinkle · 04-14-2005, 07:24 AM

Soo? Go for her, DA!!! And stop being so picky!

You'll do great together, you'll see!

twinkle · 04-14-2005, 07:25 AM

I meant "after", of course!!!

darkangelism · 04-14-2005, 10:38 AM

I think duke's eye rolling might be right, that im just being delusional.

Anyway, i will probably mess it up, i started closing myself off emotionally to protect from getting hurt. That usually causes problems.

If something did happen i think it would be great, our personalities are good compliments and we have similar values, plus she meets my super high physical, mental and athletic requirements. She is the closest thing to my prefect girl that i have found.

Duke · 04-14-2005, 03:18 PM

da I'm going to come across as an ass here so I'll apologize in advance. I don't want to offend, badger or belittle but I know my message will likely come across a bit harsh. Sorry if I do so.

We've got literally hundreds of posts here about how you can't seem to hook up with a gal. You touch on confidence issues, communication problems, lack of self-esteem, etc. I thought the whole time this is what we've been dealing with and I think most of us have been trying to help you with it, and I thought our advice on the matter was pretty good. You have to remember we've all been there at one time or another (everyone has a first time).

Just recently, within the past day or so, you've thrown in this cocky, arrogant side of you stating your too picky and you're looking for 00ber gal. YouÃ¢â¬â¢re also citing how haut you are and should have the ability to land whatever you troll for. If you don't read it that way then I apologize, I certainly did. I have to say that these latest posts make you sound much less like the quirky, confused, slightly self-conscious guy I've gotten to know. Now you come across as an arrogant prick with a chip on his shoulder (again sorry for the bluntness).

I really hope I'm wrong here but if I'm not I'd suggest you dump the cockiness and do it immediately. I know your confidence is on an upswing and I couldn't be h