I have a date - Page 2

darkangelism · 09-02-2007, 12:36 PM

yeah i do expect to get hurt, it happens everytime that i like somebody. It only feeds my negative self image.

Luba · 09-02-2007, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

yeah i do expect to get hurt, it happens everytime that i like somebody. It only feeds my negative self image.

I've heard somewhere that we are comfortable with what we know so it's difficult to change that....so acknowledging it is HUGE and the positive thing is we can change it...we humans have that ability...isn't that great?

Somewhere along life's path someone has said or done something to us that may have been so traumatic at the time that we chose to believe it; the hard part is putting your finger on that and then disbelieving it and then changing it...I'm STILL working on an aspect of that.

Why do we really believe people when they say something bad or negative about us anyway? Why do we care so much to please other people? We're in our own skin 24/7 so why don't we listen to our inner selves instead of anyone/someone else including parents who put us down one time/many times or other people we respect and love? No matter who it is, I think people could inadvertently hurt us very deeply with the pain carrying us through a lifetime. I ask you, what for? Why do we choose to believe what they say...it's easier to believe when they say a negative thing as opposed to something beautiful about us that's real?

I think we should excavate the beauty within ourselves and how very special we are...I could go on and on and on about that... We are really magical and beautiful, caring, loving, exceptional humans with the ability to love each other and ourselves. I feel if everyone of us nurtured ourselves like we nurture others, maybe there wouldn't be so much bad stuff happening in this world...

Boy, I sure got off on a tangent there! What I'm saying, DA, is look deeply into yourself and find your beauty; even write it down so you could see it when you are down on yourself...that is not an arrogant thing to do, it is just an honest appraisal; you will find things changing for you immediately. It takes continual work, though, like everything else that matters and I know you could do it....

darkangelism · 09-02-2007, 08:52 PM

im feeling better now, i talked to a different girl and i might meet her tomorrow and help her move, i hadnt talked to her in a week, so i had pretty much not expected much from her, i have been talking to her for 3 months and havnt met her, the other girl i have been talking to for 2 weeks and i already have, but basically ill date both, until one wants exclusivity and whoever that is they get me.

Luba · 09-02-2007, 09:23 PM

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im feeling better now, i talked to a different girl and i might meet her tomorrow and help her move, i hadnt talked to her in a week, so i had pretty much not expected much from her, i have been talking to her for 3 months and havnt met her, the other girl i have been talking to for 2 weeks and i already have, but basically ill date both, until one wants exclusivity and whoever that is they get me.

Good for you, DA, playing the field! I'm glad you are feeling better, too! Just have a good time, show them your sense of humour and what a nice guy you are, and before you know it, you'll be snapped right up!

darkangelism · 09-02-2007, 10:57 PM

yeah at least one of them likes me a lot, probably both, and i havnt messed up.

Duke · 09-03-2007, 03:50 AM

I know there's a nasty flu going around work which I found odd since it is still summertime. It is quite possible that she is sick and if she is, she will require additional attention, not less IMHO. If you put up a wall every time you face adversity da, you'll be visible from space before you're 30 da.

BTW, women are like jobs da, there's always a better one out there.

...of course the same can be said for men lol.

TKDLady · 09-03-2007, 08:33 AM

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BTW, women are like jobs da, there's always a better one out there.

...of course the same can be said for men lol.

Good thing you added that last line. I was about to blast you!!

Luba · 09-03-2007, 10:05 AM

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yeah at least one of them likes me a lot, probably both, and i havnt messed up.

DA, I don't know if you actually do this but I used to in my poor self-esteem days. I wanted so much to be liked that when I knew I was going out with someone, I would play so many scenarios in my head of things that could/might happen and I tried to prepare for every one so I would be ready with just the right thing to say. Well, when I actually went out with friends, the scenarios I played in my head didn't actually work out the way I planned them so precisely, they turned out way better when I just sat and relaxed instead of waiting for someone to say just what I had imagined. So as the years went by and I found I was just worrying over nothing, found, quite surprisingly that people didn't mind having me around even though I didn't understand why because I had such a poor self-image.

As always happens in life, there is a one-time happening that suddenly one wakes up and life becomes totally different. You (I) find/found I was worthy and a good person and now life is good because I'm more relaxed and true to myself...if someone doesn't like me (trust me, that no matter how much you try, some people just won't) I say, 'oh, well' and spend time with those that do.

We all mess up from time to time but it's worrying about it before it happens that is a waste of time IMHO. None of us are perfect and striving for perfection is just a waste, ain't going to happen...so I wish you fun with whichever girl you go with and have a great time! Remember, your LS family is in your corner!

darkangelism · 09-03-2007, 11:41 AM

yeah i do go through situations in my head and it never helps.

Luba · 09-03-2007, 11:57 AM

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yeah i do go through situations in my head and it never helps.

It really just makes it harder, I think.

darkangelism · 09-03-2007, 01:38 PM

yeah probably, i try not to do it, but its hard

Luba · 09-03-2007, 01:58 PM

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yeah probably, i try not to do it, but its hard

Well, you know what, DA? As you get older it WILL get easier, please believe that!

darkangelism · 09-04-2007, 01:46 AM

well i met one of the girls tonight, i had been talking to her for 3 months online and she was always too busy with work and school to meet me. Well this weekend she was moving, and so yesterday she said she just needed to clean, so i said that i would help her, so at 10pm she calls me and is like can you help me, so im like ok, so i quickly get dressed and go over there and the place still needs a lot of work, so i meet we hug, then get to work, she lives on the 4th floor, so i end up having to carry and bunch of stuff down to her car and then i help her vacuum, then more carrying and then she is like i got it from here, and so hug and i kiss her on the cheek. Now im like wow, we have never met, then we do and we spend most of the time not talking cause we are carrying stuff or vacuuming. so im not sure what kind of impression i left on her, however i did go out there in the middle of the night so that has to be good, though i hope she doesnt feel l ike she owes me anything, but i hope my impression was good enough for her to want to spend more time with me.