i almost got a girl

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 01:03 AM

I was hanging out with my friend and her ex roomate and her ex roomate was all over me, got my number, i got hers, we held hands, we smiled at me all night. Now i feel all bad for not doing anything(i felt i was wrong she was drunk) i feel like this is gonna hurt when she doesnt like me sober.

Weiser · 09-09-2005, 07:07 AM

How drunk was she? When I met the girl I'm with right now, we were at a bar and both feeling pretty good.

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 09:04 AM

she could walk,lol. She was pretty drunk, but we were flirting when she wasnt that drunk, so im not sure how it will turn out. Im really bad at figuring out if a girl likes me. Well actually im bad at the whole girl thing in general.

Merika · 09-09-2005, 09:32 AM

I don't know DA....only time will tell. Just make sure that if you hang out while you are sober....that you remain as fun as you were when you were drunk. For shy people....this often becomes a problem. They are all fun and outgoing while in a bar or party.... then when they are sober they get all quiet and boring.

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 10:22 AM

yeah, i hope im not boring,lol. I am quieter sober, but not that much. I am a lot less hands on, drunk i was all about the arm around her, but i wouldnt do that sober with someone i didnt know well, even though i knew her before yesterday we hadnt really talked.

Right now im trying to make sure i dont wait too long to call her.

Merika · 09-09-2005, 10:51 AM

A few hours until a couple of days later before calling is all within the dating rules. This evening would be just fine.

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 11:06 AM

ok, thats helpful.

The good thing is because i had a job, i have money to spend on dating, im debating on if i should just hang out with her or go to dinner...dinner is more complicated because she is a vegatarian.

im trying to figure out if her saying im a nice guy is a good thing or bad.

Merika · 09-09-2005, 11:27 AM

HAHA....my brother is newly in the date scene after being married for 16 years and he asks me the same questions.

You can never tell what a person really means because you can't read their mind. Different people say things which can be taken in a variety of ways. Chances are she said 'you are a nice guy' because you were being nice at the time. It doesn't make it a love match....but it doesn't rule out that she wouldn't want to spend more time with you in the future.

Again, only time will tell.

Weiser · 09-09-2005, 11:35 AM

Flirting before she got wasted is a good sign. Calling her tonight is also a good thing. Do it.

Ask her out for dinner (vegitarian? hmm...don't know where to take her) and then try and swing in a movie, or a walk somewhere nice where you can talk some more.

Just be confident and it will work out. It's all about the confidence (read: not cockyness).

Good luck to you.

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 11:52 AM

yeah the confidence part is hard for me, Im a lot better then i used to be... a few months ago i wouldnt have even asked for her number, i would have convinced myself that she doesnt like me. But i think im ok this time, i didnt say anything stupid, cocky or bad. Usually i do, i shoot myself in the foot with most girls.

Maybe i should take her to a vegetarian place, i can deal with no meat for a meal.

Weiser · 09-09-2005, 12:59 PM

Dude, I had the worst confidence in myself when I was younger. You saw the pic I posted of me. Back in the day I had ugly glasses (like, right ugly - alot of glasses are nice, I just didn't have em), nasty hockey hair, no game at all and a really REALLY BAD wardrobe. Not to mention I was a toothpick.

It was like I got slapped in the face. One day I woke up, ditched the glasses, got contacts, cut my hair, started workin out and bam, I got noticed

Now I have no problems at all. They way I looked at it was that if you didn't ask, nothing would ever happen. Better to get a No than nothing at all. Besides, with each no, you get better and better.

I know back in my old town there was a restaurant called the Aurora Bar & Grill. It was really nice, kind of dressy, but they had great food. They even had vegetarian dishes that were actually pretty good. They have anything like that where you are?

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 01:15 PM

i wouldnt have expected that you were like that. I started to get afraid of No's so i stopped asking.

Yeah there are plenty of vegetarian places around, im in new york city, so its not so hard to find, i just have to look. Ill worry about that after she says she will go out with me.

Stone · 09-09-2005, 03:37 PM

Good Luck Dude!! If she says yes bring flowers

darkangelism · 09-09-2005, 03:56 PM

flowers are evil,lol. Every date i have been on where i got flowers was bad(well worse then my others) I know flowers are a good idea, but not practical because i cant walk to her room cause she lives in a different building and she has to come down and get me.

im getting nervous about calling her, the girl i went out with over the summer, it took me 45 mins of sitting there with the phone in my hand to call her. I have class at 6 and i plan on calling her after.

My parents embarassed me when i was calling a girl when i was first liking girls and since then i dont like calling, id rather use email or IM...but those are not the best ways to set up dates.

Stone · 09-09-2005, 05:27 PM

OK bring her a nice card then but you should bring something