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11-03-2004, 07:21 PM
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How To Turn Off A Guy
Turnoff Topics for Men
Turnoff Topic 1
All The Cute Things Your Pet Does.
We think of pets as noble beasts, as partners in adventure. Which makes it disturbing when you start talking baby talk to them. "Nipsy, wipsy. Your mommy loves you, oh, yes she does." Coddling a pet makes men suspect that your ideal companion is completely dependent upon you for food, lets you dress him up in colorful wool sweaters, and can be castrated if he starts acting too frisky.
Turnoff Topic 2
Your Belief In Alternative Medicine.
I was talking to a woman at a bar recently, and we were really connecting ... until she started telling me about visits to her vitaminologist. "He told me I had happiness stuck in my bladder." No matter how important you may feel it is to share your spiritual side, remember: When you tell us about your experiences with aromatherapy, reflexology, or crystals, all we hear is unstable, unstable, unstable.
Turnoff Topic 3
How Impressed You Are With What Others Make.
I was out with my best friend, Greg, who goes to law school. We met one girl who started assessing the crowd: "Oh, my God, there are so many law-school guys here tonight. You know, in their first year out of school they make $119,000!"
You don't have to convince us that you're oblivious to material possessions. But ogling a man's paycheck -- ours or somebody else's -- makes us feel like you're attaching our worth to our wallets. And we know there's always going to be someone out there with deeper pockets than ours.
Turnoff Topic 4
How Beautiful The Scenery Is.
When confronted by natural beauty, men prefer to contemplate it in silence. Women, for some reason, feel compelled to talk at just the moment when we most want quiet. I spent a week on a Mediterranean island with a group that included four women who never met a sunset they couldn't ruin. ("That pink is so deep. I think it's, like, the deepest pink I've ever seen.") They failed to get the joke when my friends and I tried to give them a taste of their own medicine: "Look at that water! It's just, like, so wet."
Turnoff Topic 5
Who Your Favorite Celebrities Are Dating.
Demi and Bruce break up/make up; Oprah gains/loses 20 pounds. We don't care. Pamela Lee opens her mouth real wide and accommodates all of Tommy's manhood? Okay, we care. As a rule of thumb, unless they're naked, we don't want to know. Men have far too hard a time keeping up with their own relationships; the last thing we want is the responsibility of keeping up with the lives of people we'll never meet.
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11-03-2004, 07:28 PM
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They forgot baby talk
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11-03-2004, 07:57 PM
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i think if i was on a date with a hot girl and she could say 7 words and i would leve such as
I need to take my crabs medicine
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11-03-2004, 08:15 PM
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at least she's taking medication.
If I was on a date and had to hear all about you, and how that made you feel, and how your friends are losers, and this and that and yakkity yak yak, there won't be a second date. Part of a relationship are listening skills so stfu for a minute, k?
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11-03-2004, 10:36 PM
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I have a tendency of talking a lot too....especially if I'm drinking beer. I guess this is why I gravitate toward more quiet guys.
I don't know Stoneheather.....some guys actually like some baby talk.

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11-03-2004, 10:55 PM
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Only if their feeling low. The rest of the time it's pretty annoying.
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11-05-2004, 09:37 AM
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Do you think the rest of the points apply?
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11-05-2004, 08:12 PM
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Prolly, I don't mind the scenery one though because if it's a beautiful sunset, there's nothing better than talking about it face to face. The light makes a beautiful woman even more beautiful and irresistable in my eyes. Usually your playing tonsil hockey within 5 minutes.
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06-15-2005, 01:04 PM
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I've had some weird dates that turned me off in the past. The one that stands out the most was a guy that I had this massive crush on for a couple years and finally he wasnted to take me out on a date! I was soooo excited and couldn't wait for this date cause this guy was HOT!
well, we go to the bar, have a few drinks, dance a little, laugh then we hop on his motorcycle and he takes me to his place. We put music on, started making out a little then he starts to poke my arms with his finger.
that was just a little too weird for me! I asked him why he was poking me like that because i had to ask! He said because that's how he gets the feel of a woman?!? 8O so, needless to say, that was the last date with this guy and i didn't think he was so hot anymore. LMAO!
another guy took me to this dancing club. we had dinner and the whole time all he did was stare at me. it's like he wasn't even listening to what i was saying, just stared and stared and stared and said nothing. that made me feel soooo unconfortable, I hated it! didn't go on a second date with that one either. he was a strange one for sure.
I would usually let the guy i was out on a date with lead the conversation and go with it as it evolved. I think the less you say about yourself, the better on a first date.
I've been with the same guy now for almost 16 years. i wouldn't change that to be single again. Although I had a lot of fun when i was unattached, I wouldn't want the stress of that first date again. but then again, nothing beats that first kiss. :wink:
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06-15-2005, 01:11 PM
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I love baby talk, especially the topic of making babies...
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I guess this is why I gravitate toward more quiet guys.
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Even though I'm sometimes verbose on this forum, in real life I can be very quiet....Unless we're drinking beer and talking about babies.
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11-03-2005, 01:11 PM
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hehe
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in their first year out of school they make $119,000!"
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OMG, LOL, sounds like some women i have dated in the past.
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11-10-2005, 07:42 AM
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Re: hehe
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Originally Posted by sweetbilly
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in their first year out of school they make $119,000!"
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OMG, LOL, sounds like some women i have dated in the past.
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Hey..what's wrong with that?? Be a stay-at-home kinda guy and let your other half pay the bills. It would work for me!!!
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11-10-2005, 08:26 AM
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How to turn off a guy?
Do not press the button. Turn it.
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11-10-2005, 06:59 PM
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I have no idea what that means :?
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