Holy shiza!

Weiser · 09-14-2005, 08:33 PM

Wow....so you guys know I am seeing someone right now. Well I just got off the phone with her and dang, she told me something I definately was not expecting to hear. She was married! *blink* She got married when she was 18 and living in the states.

I don't think any less of her at all (to her relief, she thought I would freak out) but I'm just shocked. I so did not see that coming. My next question was did she have any kids. No she doesn't. This is good.

I do have one slight problem though, her friends were asking her what our status is. I haven't asked her out yet, I was waiting for me to get on my feet completely before I did. She said she didn't want to put a label on us, didn't want to fall in love (yeah me neither), that she was sorry and she was damaged goods (what does that mean?) and just wants us to stay how we are right now - which is basically going out w/o the label. She said she's not seeing or sleeping with anyone else and won't either. I believe her, I'm not either when I easily could (not tooting my own horn, it's just really easy for me). She just got her life back in order and just started college, so I can see where she is coming from relationship wise. I guess I should be glad she's taking hairstyling and every guy in there is gay.

Now, I don't necessarily have a problem with this, EXCEPT for the fact that my last girlfriend Sara (same name) said the exact same thing and I ended up catching her cheating on me at the bar. This kind of irks me.

I know she's not the same as the other girl or anything, but now it's got me thinking.

Blah, I'm going to go watch Smallville and wish I was Lex Luthor (surprised I didn't say Superman?)

Merika · 09-14-2005, 10:25 PM

Well....atleast she told you. I dated someone seriously in the military for a couple of friggin years who was supposingly going thru a divorce. I believed it because they didn't live in the same state and I knew the state they did live in required a 2 year separation wait.

Be careful in those situations....sometimes they don't turn out like you think they will.

Why doesn't she get a divorce?

Weiser · 09-14-2005, 10:36 PM

She WAS married. Not any more. And it was to a military dude in the US army too lol. Made sure to ask if she's divorced and she assured me she was.

Merika · 09-14-2005, 10:47 PM

Oh gee....I thought you meant she was married NOW!

Hmmm..... Army guy.... I see she has good taste in men!

darkangelism · 09-14-2005, 11:01 PM

was married isnt a big deal, i went on a date with someone this summer who was currently married...sepeted, living in different states.

Weiser · 09-14-2005, 11:15 PM

That's not the big deal here, I don't care one bit.

My issue is in paragraph 4.

darkangelism · 09-14-2005, 11:19 PM

i dont think u can judge a current person on the actions of a past. and do you ike lex luther cause u are both bald?

Weiser · 09-14-2005, 11:28 PM

Yeah I know I can't judge based on a past relationships, it just strikes me as odd as they have the same name and said the same thing.

And I am not bald, I shave my head

I do like him for that reason though. Also for the fact that he holds extreme power, is rich and has extremely good fashion sense.

Sure Superman has super powers, but he's way to good for me. What's the fun in that when all he does is save people and hide his identity from everyone he cares about?

darkangelism · 09-14-2005, 11:30 PM

i know you shave your head...but its still lack of hair, i agree on the power and money thing.

Animal · 09-15-2005, 02:27 PM

i like bald men hahaha thats my only input sorry

Merika · 09-15-2005, 10:48 PM

Animal.... shaved isn't the same as old man bald.

Weiser....you know what...I see your point. It's like a Karma thing. I repeated the same d*mn mistake two times in a row also. I kid you not. And when the second one stated that the first one was so bad for doing that...I was kind of naively thinking...he wasn't doing the same thing.

I don't know. Love is like alcohol. Sometimes it's cold....sometimes it's hot and sometimes you just drink it because it's there. Then...you have to deal with either a great buzz or a terrible hangover. Comes with the territory. 8)

Weiser · 09-15-2005, 11:58 PM

All I know is that I'm not going to repeat the same mistake again. Emotional attachment is now shut off

I love how I can do that.

Merika · 09-16-2005, 12:03 AM

Like I said in the previous post...treat love like alcohol. Drink it slow, make it last and spend the least amount of investment.

Weiser · 09-16-2005, 12:07 AM

Oh I know all about that

When drinking a hard alcohol (love), I take it a lot slower than when I drink beer (casual hookups) - Which I can drink copious amounts real quick.

Merika · 09-16-2005, 12:20 AM

See...there ya go! If you can equate stuff to your dinking habits....it makes them less personal and easier to designate. LOL!

Ofcourse, I'm now single and CAN'T even imagine a marriage situation...so maybe I'm not a good person to give advice on this stuff.