girlfriend issue

[Fireblade]

Why do you even bother posting here if all you ever do is completely ignore the advice of the very same people you, from the start, appeared to be seeking advice from?

[darkangelism]

what is wrong with being single? i obviously am not ready for a relationship

[IvyRose]

DA, the only reason why we're upset is because we don't want to see you hurt over again and again.

No, this girl isn't 'the devil' and will probably grow up to be a nice women in the future. I don't have a crystal ball.

Whatever her reasons for breaking it off with you, it doesn't matter. I've heard a lot of excuses in my day.

"I had a slight moment of insanity."
"I love you, but I'm not 'in love' with you."
"My parents don't approve of our relationship."
"I was drunk and had a lapse in judgment."

Just for the record, none of those relationships ever worked out after I gave them 2nd, 3rd or even 4th chances.

Doesn't matter the reason, what's done is done. What I fear most is that you're going to guilt her into keeping some kind of relationship with you.

That won't be great for either one of you. You want her to be by your side at her own free will, not because it makes you feel good.

Whatever her reasons are for wanting to keep you in her life. Just remember this quote:
"The road to Hell is paved with good intentions." - Dr. Samuel Johnson

I can't control what decision you make about her or what is going to happen. Another words, I can't protect you how I'd like to. I feel pretty helpless with your problem and that's where part of my anger comes from. Just know, I'll be here to listen, regardless.

Good luck and take care.

I'm off to Las Vegas. Bye everyone...

[PepsiChic]

i think what fireblade means da is that despite all the advice given, you still choose to ignore it and date your ex. and he doesnt understand why you would ignore the help we are trying to give you.

infact i think theres a few of us thinking the same thing (tell me if im wrong here guys)

da, we've tried to helpy ou with this problem numerous times, just go back and read all the threads you've got on this. we give you advice and you ignore it everytime, and everytime ends the same way.

you need to re-read and rethink what your doing, and then maybe when the right girl does come along things will be smoother.

i honest give up giving any more advice on this subject for you, because what i and most have been saying has gone in one ear and out the other!

just have a long think about whats right for you, and do some reading and take in what we have all said here time and time again

[TKDLady]

No, Pepsi, you and FB and Ivy and everyone else has said all I have said either here or in my head when I didn't want to hurt DA's feelings in anyway. Don't ask for advice if you aren't going to even try. If you have to vent that is something else. I will listen with a friendly ear all day long. Good luck DA. If you continue to stay with her you will need it.

[darkangelism]

no i understand where you are coming from, and yeah i do kinda ignore the advice, really i guess i am more looking for a sounding board. The funny thing is a lot of the things you said is a lot of reasons she gave me for our issues. yeah i probably would be better off with somebody else, and right now i want no one, i just want to go to work, eat, sleep and work out.

[Luba]

Originally Posted by darkangelism

no i understand where you are coming from, and yeah i do kinda ignore the advice, really i guess i am more looking for a sounding board. The funny thing is a lot of the things you said is a lot of reasons she gave me for our issues. yeah i probably would be better off with somebody else, and right now i want no one, i just want to go to work, eat, sleep and work out.

DA, I've always had a special place in my heart for you, but, I must admit, I just want to shake you...gently, however!

IMHO, you must first really take care of yourself, and find your own happiness within yourself first and foremost. Please don't 'give up' and just 'work, eat, sleep and work out'. There is way more to life than that!

There are many more mermaids in the sea!