Getting in touch with a stranger

[Rock]

Hi. A friend of our family was visiting us this week and he said that I should try this so here I am. The reason he said I should join was becauses I was talking about my issues etc., and he thought this would be a good place for me to "vent." Maybe he was just trying to shut me up, I don't know. Guess I will give it a try though.

My lastest problem happened this past weekend on Saturday night. I do not go tho clubs much because I feel more lonely there than if i just stay at home. Some friends insisted I go. I also don't really like to dance. A girl asked me to dance and since it was a slow dance I said yes. Before I left I spoke to her and found out that her name is Jennifer and that she is a Petroleum Engineering Major at University of Houston where I am also an Engineering Major (Chemical). I really enjoyed meeting her and want to see her again.

My problem is stupid me didn't get her phone number.

How can I meet her again?

[twinkle]

Hit the same bar next week? Have coffee at the university cafeteria in hope you'll bump into her?

ok, it may be a bit stockerish - see where she has classes and if it's in the campus, just "happen" to be in the hall when she finishes the classes...

There are a lot of things you can do... just be nice and friendly .

[Duke]

Welcome to Lifesupporters.com, I created an official welcome thread for you here thanking you for joining.

Secondly, I hope you don't mind, but I split this post from the Welcome to our Newest Members post just because I thought it would fit in this category better and also get much more targeted responses to your query.

Now on to your issues:

First off, we'll never tire of you "venting", it's extremely important to talk about things that affect you (either positive or negative) and we're all too glad to be here for you. You'll find that we're a decent bunch of people that care about each other, try and help each other through issues, and have a few laughs while we do so. I ask you to never feel anything other than relief while posting freely on this site.

As far as contacting the girl again, don't feel bad, I've done the same thing and kicked myself in the arse for being so stupid. The problem in this situation is that you’re usually so overwhelmed with joy that you can forget the obvious, in this case, her phone number. Personally, I'd try to frequent the place that you met her and even take a walk (or drive) around the area when you have some spare time. It's not certain, but lots of people tend to frequent establishments that are close by. Bars and clubs are no exception as most of us want to be close to home if we tilt a few too many.

The chances are really 50/50 that you'll ever see her again though; butt there is no harm in you trying.

Good luck and thanks for posting.

Sincerely,

Ken

[Rock]

No problem "splitting the post." I'm not to familiar with protocols for these things.

I appreciated the advise. I spoke to my roomate, Andrea about the problem. After discussing how stupid I am, she said that I have a lot to learn. I am not sure about taking her advise since before we became roomates I had a crush on her. We have some things in common (we both do some modeling work) but that's about all. She barely works, or goes to class, and spends most of her time meeting with her support groups about battling anorexia.

Here is her advise. Make up a "Wanted Poster" that says:

Wanted
Pet. E.
Name: Jennifer
Call Rock ###-###-####

She says that I ought to post this in the Pet. E building, and that since there are almost no females there Jennifer is sure to either see it or here about it from someone.

Is this a good idea?

[Vautrin]

I think the poster idea is a bit on the strong side, and would not recommend it as a first course of action. Depending on Jennifer's personality, it can completely backfire. And then you would have lost out on her, for sure.

I would stick with the not so coincidental meeting at first. If you can't find her that way, you can always use the more drastic approaches.

[Duke]

lmao, that's hilarious, thanks for posting that.

You'll prolly get a lot of desperate women, and maybe a few transexuals, spamming your phone number. Classic.

I would definately say no to hanging a wanted poster over a woman you just met and don't know anything about. As stupid and corney as it's likely to sound, if it's meant to be, then you'll meet up.

You never know, you may bump into the woman of your dreams as your scanning the horizon for the one you let get away.

[Rock]

I was also concerned about just posting my number, but Andrea didn't think it would be a problem. She said that it wouldn't be like I was putting it up in the men's room. In her opinion the forum of the Pet. E. (Petroleum Engineering) building is so overrun with Tiawanese and other foreign students that few will even understand the poster.

There are so many people here that the chances of just running into her again are slim to none. I want to make something happen and I have almost no time to spend doing it. This is why Andrea thinks it is a good idea. I have nothing to loose?

[Duke]

I guess there's no harm in trying. I am curious though, if you have no time to dedicate to pounding the pavement to look for her, how is it you feel you have any time for a relationship should you find her?

[Rock]

Good question Mr. Duke.

I will have to deal with the time problem if it becomes a problem. Right now I am not even sure Jennifer would like me enough to spend more than a hour with me!

[Duke]

Don't be so hard on yourself d00d, you seem like a good guy to me. Believe in yourself and others will follow, I guarantee it.

[darkangelism]

i think a poster would be too strong, as you just met her. Also never post your number on a college campus, the number of pranks you will get will be crazy.

You may see her around, i met a girl at a bar a few months ago and since then i have seen her around a lot even though i never used to see her.

[Rock]

One reason I want to meet her again is that i really do not have opportunities to meet very many girls. There are almost none in any of my engineering classes (except for my friend, Connie), and I work nights as a hotel auditor.

Are there any girls here that have an opinion about Andrea's Poster idea?

I'd like to get their opinions before I do it. I have almost made up my mind to do it anyway. Maybe they can think of some reason I should not that I have not considered yet?

[Duke]

The gals will be around shortly I'm sure. I find it odd that Merika and Star haven't been online spamming up the forums this morning yet. Usually you can set your watch to them

[Vautrin]

Don't be too hard on yourself. We all have fears when it comes to dealings with the opposite sex. Just because you have been a model does not erase that magically. Nor does that mean, that you are dumb or boring, as the stereotype is, that goes with that profession.

You are a major in Engineering. It's not exactly the easiest subject, and she knows that as her field is a bit related to yours. And you have had some conversation with her, and she will have formed an impression of you too. If you express yourself with her anyway near as well as you do on this messageboard, I highly doubt that she has the impression that you are boring.

So meet her!