Fighting fair

Luba · 07-29-2006, 07:56 AM

http://www.babycenter.com/refcap/bab...=59&submit.y=8

There is a good way to fight to keep a good marriage.

Agree on how you'll disagree. Make rules on how to do it.

Fight nice. No belittling your spouse, no name-calling, blaming, or dragging children into the argument.

Don't digress. Try not to bring up every--or any--past grievances when you argue.

Take time out. When things heat up, take a break.

Make up loudly. Or at least in front of the kids. Nothing benefits children more as seeing their parents resolve a conflict in a loving and caring way.

Read more on each rule from the link above.

darkangelism · 07-29-2006, 11:16 PM

i think the making up part is the most important.

Star · 07-29-2006, 11:57 PM

the making up part is the fun part actually. people can go days until it's the making up part.

hubby and i used to fight extremely unfair. we don't do that too much anymore. seems we both "grew up" as the years went by. we sometimes call eachother nasty names when we fight but for the most part, we don't fight. we'll say what we need to say, leave it alone then a couple hours or so later, we talk about something else and it's forgotten. over and done with.

i think it's a matter of picking your battles. some things are worth fighting about and other things just aren't. why fight about the unimportant things? what a waste of energy and time that is.

as the relationship grows, usually everything falls into place. some things just aren't as important as they used to be before.