Do You Tell Your Partner You Love Him/Her Everyday

[Luba]

Is it in words or deeds? Do you think it's corny or over-the-top? How would you feel if you didn't say it, and it was the last time you saw him/her? Does your partner tell you in word or deed? Doesn't it make you feel better, so warm inside, when you do? Or hearing it from them?

[wolvesjr34]

When I was dating Bron, I told her every day. Well, I guess it doesn't really count if it's an ocean away right?

Well regardless, I loved her very much. I told her every day. I would also do whatever I could to make her feel good. She had low self esteem and so I would just highlight to her all the little things that added up to make the great person she is.

She never felt like she deserved it, but even to this day when we think about the past I make sure she knows what a difference she can make in a person's life. The difference she made in mine.

We were thwarted by circumstance and distance. Never quite able to get ourselves in the same country. I would have kept fighting forever, if she had only asked. But alas, she needed the physicality and I can understand that. She's happy now, so that's something positive I take from that.

My love helped her rediscover her self worth.

[Scott]

Originally Posted by Luba

Is it in words or deeds? Do you think it's corny or over-the-top? How would you feel if you didn't say it, and it was the last time you saw him/her? Does your partner tell you in word or deed? Doesn't it make you feel better, so warm inside, when you do? Or hearing it from them?

Words: no, in fact hardly ever, either way

Deeds: hey, I'm still here after almost 18 years.

[PepsiChic]

Originally Posted by wolvesjr34

When I was dating Bron, I told her every day. Well, I guess it doesn't really count if it's an ocean away right?

wrong - Keith makes sure he tells me every single day, numerous times a day that he loves me, and i love hearing it every time. it may be said with 3500 miles between us, but the feeling in it is just as strong as when im stood next to him.

Even love that was lost, still counted for when it was said, if it was said with true meaning behind it.

[wolvesjr34]

You really are lucky Pepsi.

What I wouldn't give, to hear someone say they love me.

[PepsiChic]

i know im lucky. extremely lucky

and AJ we ALL love you!

[wolvesjr34]

Originally Posted by PepsiChic

i know im lucky. extremely lucky

and AJ we ALL love you!

How did I know that was coming?

I feel so horrid that that just doens't make me feel better anymore.

[Luba]

Originally Posted by wolvesjr34

How did I know that was coming?

I feel so horrid that that just doens't make me feel better anymore.

AJ, I SO want to find a way to help you feel better...because I feel we deserve to be the happiest we can be in this life. I don't want to say anything that would hurt you in any way when you are feeling badly.

I will say, however, what makes you happy within yourself, what do you like to do, what is your passion? Is there any way you can start within yourself to make your days special, or at least start with moments that when you go to bed at night you can say to yourself, "hey, AJ, I really enjoyed doing that! Wow!" Anything, no matter how small, is a positive start. Even rewarding yourself for giving a happy moment, hour, or day to yourself! Trust me, once that happens, you will be looking for that more and more!

Some scenarios to try: If you like to read, take a book and sit in your favorite cafe with your best coffee or tea, and just read, oblivious to other people if you are somewhat shy. If not, just have a coffee and look at the passers-by through the window, a very enjoyable pastime. Take a few hours in a Library just looking at books or magazines. Take yourself on a picnic in your favorite park under a tree with the sun streaming down, birds singing, either reading or laying down looking at the clouds streaming by! Talk to people when grocery shopping or waiting in lineups, one of my favorite places to laugh, joke and have fun with people. Listen to your favorite music and dance around the room with a teddy bear (as I said before, I'm a grandmother and I LOVE to do this)! Look at yourself in the mirror, and see your beauty and don't look for flaws; after all, YOU are one of a kind and therefore, very, very special! Smiling at yourself in the mirror first thing, even though your hair is awry and hanging in your face; just that one little thing will change the course of your day if you let it! Buy yourself some flowers, your favorite ones, and sign a card to yourself, "To AJ, with LOVE from AJ"...that is SO fun!

[PepsiChic]

Originally Posted by Luba

Buy yourself some flowers, your favorite ones, and sign a card to yourself, "To AJ, with LOVE from AJ"...that is SO fun!

i am SO going to try that tomorrow! luba you come up with some great ideas your such a star

[Luba]

Originally Posted by PepsiChic

i am SO going to try that tomorrow! luba you come up with some great ideas your such a star

Thank you, PC! People tell me I'm 'out there' sometimes, but I LOVE to think of happy things for people to do!

[wolvesjr34]

Thanks for the ideas Luba. Usually my happy hour is watching One Tree Hill. And while I enjoy it still, it makes me cry. Sometimes I don't even know why.

I had a couple happy hours last night playing games too. I've got the fire going atm, just enjoying the peace and quiet, although I do still feel lonely.

Perhaps I need to just get away from this computer for a while. That might help.

[Luba]

I'm glad you found things to make you happy today, AJ! I sense your melancholy at the end of the post. Just keep on keeping on, and each day look for more and more happiness; little things that take you away from thinking about sad things! But it's also okay to have a good cry when you need one, nothing wrong with that! I LOVE a good cry; clears things up for a while! Just be good to yourself, our new friend! I, for one, am very, very glad you're here!

Love and Support from Luba

[wolvesjr34]

Originally Posted by Luba

I'm glad you found things to make you happy today, AJ! I sense your melancholy at the end of the post. Just keep on keeping on, and each day look for more and more happiness; little things that take you away from thinking about sad things! But it's also okay to have a good cry when you need one, nothing wrong with that! I LOVE a good cry; clears things up for a while! Just be good to yourself, our new friend! I, for one, am very, very glad you're here!

Love and Support from Luba

I've always been good at doing what makes me feel good, first and foremost. But I was often told I was being selfish, etcetera. Even my Grandmother didn't understand to begin with, she understands now as her own life cycle has taught her many things. She understands why I would always put myself first. Sometimes (especially as a teen) that would border on petulance, but we all take time to learn the right way to go about things.

The problem is, as I grow older, I think more about what I want from life, and the things that made me happy, don't make me so happy anymore. But for the sake of a list these are the things that have once or do make me happy (when I'm not being too philosphical about objects as a source of happiness).

1. Trading cards (I have a huge collection of American basketball cards - with my focus being on the Minnesota Timberwolves). I have collected them since I was 12 and I still do to this day, and this is probably the one that makes me the happiest, but the saddest too on occasions. It's a reminder of simpler times, as a child.

My favourite player that I collect with a passion is Isaiah Rider (he's a bad role model), but if I analysed why I collect him it's beacuse I traded some football cards for some basketball cards and one of my mothers friend's boyfriend pointed out a Rider rookie card and said he was going to be a great player. So as a kid I decided to collect him. I'm a loyal person, so I keep collecting him, despite his character flaws and the fact he isn't in the NBA anymore. I lament how better he would have been if he hadn't wasted his talent.

It makes me sad, when I realise it's just cardboard, and it's a really pointless hobby, that will never return the money spent on it. But then I don't collect to one day sell, either.


2. Writing, I've created some characters that are remarkable flawed human beings. I've been writing since I was 10 and in 2004 I wrote my first novel (not published, needs a lot of rewriting) and since I finished that I've struggled to write much else.

But it makes me happy when I can get lost in the plot, when the characters take over the story and I just follow what they demand. Just doesn't happen much anymore.

Reading a good book still makes me happy. I just don't read very often anymore.

and this post is SO off topic it's not funny. I'm sorry.