dating friends that broke up with their SO

darkangelism · 06-09-2007, 12:05 AM

So there is this girl that i know from the bar and her and her ex bf go there a lot, and i like her and i want to ask her out, but he is there too, and i am "bar friends" with both of them, so its kinda weird, but they are not together anymore.

PepsiChic · 06-09-2007, 03:01 AM

never miss an opportunity to try and be with someone you like!

TKDLady · 06-09-2007, 10:52 AM

Go for it. If they are broken up then he shouldn't have a problem with it. Do they still hang out together while at the bar? If so, that could make it a bit awkward. I'd still go for it. The worst that could happen is that she tells you no.

Vautrin · 06-09-2007, 11:43 AM

Have to agree with the ladies.

darkangelism · 06-09-2007, 11:45 AM

yeah they still hang out together at the bar, they are still friends, he might move away now that he graduated college and thats why they broke up.

All that i really need to do is get her number and spend time with her away from the bar. She is the first girl that i have met in 2 years that i feel is worth the risk of rejection.

Star · 06-10-2007, 05:34 PM

DA, go for it. it's not like her boyfriend is one of your best buddies, he's just a bar buddy that you interact with at that bar. if she says yes, then just don't go to that bar for awhile, go to another until she feels comfortable enough to do that.

Never miss an opportunity DA. you never know what might come out of that.

darkangelism · 06-10-2007, 08:42 PM

actually i think it will be fine at that bar, they are both mature and are handling not being together well, they just didnt have similar life goals.

But yeah im gonna go for it, even though i have a bad feeling about it, but i have to try even if nothing happens, she is the smartest girl i have met in a long time and thats why i like her, though she is nice and good looking also. But yeah im gonna go to the bar every week until i see her again, which means friday probably and talk to her some more, this is the first time in a long time that i have looked forward to talking to a girl that i dont feel like i blew my chance with.

darkangelism · 06-16-2007, 01:11 AM

well i hung out with them tonight, i spent, a few hours talking to her and i think she likes me...but im not sure she is really broken up with her "ex" as they still showed up together in the same car. so i am even more reluctant to even try because i think im just gonna get hurt in the end, she is my perfect girl, smart, hot, nice, but taking the risk is tough, i am trying to not put myself down enough to talk myself out of trying.

Vautrin · 06-16-2007, 02:30 AM

They may still be friends, and taken the other for a ride.
Plus if you don't ask, you will certainly not get what you are asking for.

darkangelism · 06-16-2007, 03:21 AM

yeah, its hard to read there is a lot of physical contact between them, but then there is a decent amount between me and them also, so i cant read it at all, on one hand i feel like she is worth getting hurt over, and the other is like, nobody is worth getting hurt over and im better off alone. some of it is im rarely gonna have a clear head with it, as most of when i see them involves alcohol, and that means im extra emotional.

Vautrin · 06-16-2007, 09:53 AM

Just don't drink alcohol one night you go there. That will give you hopefully the clearer reading of what is going on.

And ask! Even if she says no, you will not punish yourself for not trying.

darkangelism · 06-16-2007, 12:18 PM

yeah if i dont ask i wont know, and then i try and figure out what she thinks which will be wrong probably.

Luba · 06-16-2007, 12:33 PM

IMO, if you think too much about it all, you might not ask her! I agree with everyone else, just go for it!

TKDLady · 06-16-2007, 12:51 PM

Do you have her phone number? Call her so you know you can talk to her. Quit worrying about it and just ask her.