Curious thats all........

BattleaxE · 08-16-2006, 08:29 PM

I was reading an article today and it got me kinda curious on what everyone here thinks about the subject of waiting til your married to live together or living together without being married. This article was comparing how (back in the day) people never lived together unless they were married and nowadays people just live together without even thinking about being married. Would love to read everyones comments on the subject..........

Paul · 08-16-2006, 08:43 PM

I think it may have worked in the past but now it really doesn't matter that much. I've lived with 2 women who I was dating and may end up doing the same again in the next month, which happens because of cost and convenience.

Star · 08-16-2006, 09:30 PM

i think living with soemone before marriage is the way to go. at least you get to know if they can be lived with or not before marriage and risk a divorce.

i lived with 4 different guys. i married the 4th after living with him for 6 years. if i wouldn't of lived with them, i would have been divorced 3 times already.

Duke · 08-16-2006, 10:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Star

i think living with soemone before marriage is the way to go. at least you get to know if they can be lived with or not before marriage and risk a divorce.

i lived with 4 different guys. i married the 4th after living with him for 6 years. if i wouldn't of lived with them, i would have been divorced 3 times already.

I couldn't have said it better, or even half as good for that matter.

Paul · 08-16-2006, 10:39 PM

Very true star, I've learnt some extremely valuable lessons by living with women. :P

darkangelism · 08-16-2006, 10:58 PM

people used to also not sleep together b4 they were married, but that doesnt happen anymore.

Weiser · 08-17-2006, 12:45 AM

Sure it does DA, it's just a rarity now.

Living together before marriage is like test driving a car. You don't buy a car without test driving it (unless you are a woman.....haha)

twinkle · 08-17-2006, 04:20 AM

If you marry before living together, you may have very high expectation about the other person. But the most important inconvenient is that you don't know the other person. And you've got the rest of your life to pay for that, hahaha!

Merika · 08-17-2006, 09:27 AM

I'm not going to take the risk of washing someone's socks without knowing they are going to have to split assets with me when it's over.

I've never lived with anyone before marriage.

twinkle · 08-17-2006, 12:33 PM

O, please, Barb, that's only because you're extremely possesive and don't allow anyone to share anything that's yours

!!! Am I right???

Star · 08-17-2006, 03:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Merika

I'm not going to take the risk of washing someone's socks without knowing they are going to have to split assets with me when it's over.

but they do split assets now. it happens here anyways. here, you're considered common-law after i think 2 years of living together. might be even less then that now. this means that everything can be shared if one of the two decide to take the other to court.

DA, not sleeping with a person before marriage is very noble and pure BUT, why wait to find out after marriage that you might not be compadible in the bedroom? Can you imagine how much that would suck to find out after you married the person that they do nothing for you in the "fireworks" department?

darkangelism · 08-17-2006, 08:40 PM

i wasnt saying that it was good or bad, just different from ealier generations.

TKDLady · 08-17-2006, 09:31 PM

I lived with my husband first and things aren't so great right now so it isn't a guarntee. It is just convenient.

Star · 08-18-2006, 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by darkangelism

i wasnt saying that it was good or bad, just different from ealier generations.

i know da. i was just stating my opinion that's all.

Merika · 08-18-2006, 06:56 AM

Well, theoretically, if you love someone then performance isn't really the issue. You should be able to tell in the other things you do if there is chemistry or not. And if the chemistry is there, then everything else can be worked out due to personal preference later.

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Twinks, I'm more controlling than possesive. It's not a pretty site. Of a guy wants to be real miserable in a relationship, I'm the one to work it right out for him. I'm no peach to live with at all!