Cheating.. Who has time for this?

Stone · 03-24-2008, 10:04 PM

So I've been dating for the last 2 years or so and have kissed quite a few frogs and no prince. lol Anyways the last guy I dated I found out was dating 4 other girls... I'm a big girl and can handle it, I'm sad but that's not the point..

Who has the energy to keep up with this? For God's sake I couldn't keep track of that, it doesn't seem like it's worth the effort? In my "dating" life I have found that this is the "norm"... sad but true, to date several people, my head hurts just thinking about it, now that's time management!

Has anyone here ever juggled dates, girlfriends, boyfriends ect...? Seems to me it's more trouble than it's worth.

Luba · 03-24-2008, 10:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Stone

Seems to me it's more trouble than it's worth.

I believe that is exactly the point!

Vautrin · 03-25-2008, 04:42 AM

No, and I don't intend to. At the moment my memory is already faltering and to confuse two people with each other would be quite painful (for instance, in terms of interests or such).

Did you not mean to make the thread title: "Dating ... Who has time for this?"

caitlynnb · 03-25-2008, 08:05 AM

I went through and it was 6 years ago.I dated a guy that was dating 2 other women and I was very angry at him,told him to hit the road.My father was angry at him after I told him about it and confronted him,asked him if he wanted to be turned into hamburger.The guy ran away and never came backSame as the other 2 women,told him to hit the road and both told him some news: They were pregnant by him.Last time I heard he is paying the price,pays 300.00 in child support for both kids.I am glad I got out of this one and finally have someone that loves me,my husband Aaron whom loves me and is 100% faithful to me.My husband says if a man that cheats on his girlfriend or wife is a big coward with cold feet.I totally agree with him on this.

darkangelism · 03-25-2008, 01:05 PM

the rule that i follow is that once you sleep with someone they should be exclusive, but up until then dating more then one person is ok.

Stone · 03-25-2008, 03:38 PM

I like that rule DA

IR_Efrem · 03-26-2008, 02:03 AM

My rule when dating, 1 (ONE) at a time. Never once in my life have I dated more than 1 gal at a time. I am totally with you Stone, my brain can get mixed up bad enough without this kind of help. Not to mention the time involved.

I must say that I am in it for the long haul regardless of anything else. I don't want sew my oats (never have), play the field, etc etc etc

My interests have always been a serious relationship, I put that right out front so there is never a mistake, if she said well I'm dating more than one, I move on. If at any point in my life I wanted to be single, I did not date at all. I used "downtime" as a moment to remember who I am and what I want, clear the cobwebs and hurt feelings out, and then I went back to finding the one...

I am totally head of heels in love with the woman I am with now and seriously could not think of anyone else I would want to be with.

Weiser · 03-27-2008, 07:50 AM

I dated 3 at once. That was rough, and a pain in the ass - especially this one time they were all at the same place at the same time. Did I ever leave in a hurry! But that was dating though, not exclusive.

Vautrin · 03-27-2008, 02:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Weiser

I dated 3 at once. That was rough, and a pain in the ass - especially this one time they were all at the same place at the same time. Did I ever leave in a hurry!

Yes, and hopefully with enough dignity so the three of them would not realize what was happening.

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But that was dating though, not exclusive.

But in the case of dating that should be okay. In case of being exclusive, matters would (if discovered) have turned out much uglier.

TKDLady · 03-27-2008, 09:34 PM

As long as everyone is aware that it isn't exclusive I don't have a problem with it. If you don't come clean up front and the girl or guy isn't sure, then you could lose a good thing.