Advantages of Marriage

[Merika]

Sometimes I think facing problems together is what makes a marriage strong. It's also important to work financially as a 'unit'. When one is doing all the working and the other is doing all the demanding....that's a major marriage killer.

I see so much of that in young marriages. I have no idea where those sort of values even come from. It's only a TEAM EFFORT if both people are playing fair.

Also, I think a man is happy when you bake him a pie or pour his coffee....I'm not sure why lots of women seem to find no joy in 'doing for' the man in their life. I was around a lot of younger women in the Navy....who simply thought doing those simple things as a wife were somewhat demeaning.

[Star]

I don't think doing those things are demeaning at all. When hubby goes to work, I make him his lunch. I cook dinner and serve it to him. He works hard all day so that he can pay the bills, put a roof over our heads and feed our faces. The least I can do is make him feel comfortable and pamper him a little when he comes home tired.

Hubby pampers me as well. He will clean up and do dishes if I'm sick or sees that I'm exausted from taking care of everyone. Right now I'm not working because i have a full time job with my kids and grand-child so he is helping me some because i am so tired. We take care of eachother.

When we had our business, I did the books and payroll and he did the hard labour work and hiring. We hardly seen eachother because he used to work such long hours. We worked as a team and always have. I also believe a marriage is a team and you must work as a team.

There is nothing wrong with keeping the "Old fashioned values" in a relationship. Most marriages didn't end up in divorce in those days.

[Merika]

My Dad used to tell me that according to the Bible....a woman should be a 'well of refreshing' for her husband. Now, if she is b*thcy and demanding.....the water becomes murky. Yes, he will come and drink....but only because he's REALLY REALLY thirsty.....not because she's refreshing. HAHA!

[Star]

LOL! That's a real good way of putting it! I like that! LOL!

[Duke]

Yes, I still believe in the sanctity of marriage and truly believe that a couple can spend a lifetime together primarily happy. I have yet to put anything together that even is closely related to a successful, mutually beneficial relationship and may never actually have one, however, I do know others who have. Sure they have their share of ups and downs but it's the effective communicators that seem to get through it.