something is weird about my roomates behavior

darkangelism · 02-19-2005, 11:52 AM

My roomate never came home last night and he wouldnt tell me where he was when i messaged him at work. I think he is having a secret relationship or something strange like that.

Stone · 02-19-2005, 11:56 AM

Does he feel like he has to AWANSER to you?...... just a thought

Maby he was in a grumpy mood.

Star · 02-19-2005, 11:57 AM

he was probably with a girl

darkangelism · 02-19-2005, 12:06 PM

no he doesnt have to answer me, but i would expect it.

yeah i think he was, i even think i know which one, there is this one girl that he is always talking to, but he tells everybody nothing is going on, i think they are together but people cant find out cause their parents wouldnt like it cause they are not the same religion.

Star · 02-19-2005, 12:11 PM

out of curiosity, why would you expect him to tell you where he's been?

I don't even expect that from my husband most times. I never expected that from my roomates or friends. If they wanted to tell me or talk about it, then i'd be there to listen.

Merika · 02-19-2005, 12:12 PM

Personally....I think it would be WEIRDER for him feeling like he owed you an explanation than feeling like he didn't. You are only the roommate....not his wife. HAHA!

darkangelism · 02-19-2005, 12:14 PM

i guess your right, though he does ask me, when i come back.

Merika · 02-19-2005, 01:38 PM

You guys should do what my oldest son did when he was in college and I would question what he had been doing. He got some paper and made two signs "Sharing" and "Not Sharing". Then, when he would come home to visit....he would pick up one of them in the foyer and show it to me....so I would know where my limitations were. HAHA! (Yeah...I'm a typical Mom and would be ALL IN HIS BUSINESS....had he not stopped me!!!)

twinkle · 02-19-2005, 04:09 PM

DA, I think it's important not to pressure him. If indeed he has a secret relationship, especially since the girl does not share his religion, it may be a big thing to him.

So give him some time to accomodate with the new situation. Don't ask anything. These type of things are like a clock bomb, sooner rather than later they explode. And he'll need you there to confide in.

So give him space and respect his privacy. He'll come to you, I guarantee you.

Duke · 02-19-2005, 05:27 PM

DA, he doesn't have to tell you a think d00d. Just because you open up with people it doesn't mean that they are required to do the same with you. We all have our bounderies on privacy and you may be crossing his.