Lifesupporters discussion

Vautrin · 03-13-2008, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Zil

I haven't checked it in months and I have no reason to.

I love myspace. If a friend of mine wants to stay connected with me on a site like this it all, they'll use myspace. lol I'm not going to have a myspace, facebook, hi5, cherrytap, etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. etc. -- wtf is the point in having them all? I say a big: No thanks! lol There's just way too many sites that are similar in their nature in this regard and I prefer myspace so I'm sticking with it, and only it. =P

Meh. Whatever. It is highly inefficient if you have just a few people contacting you, more or less at totally random times, especially when they do it not too often.

I would not even bother checking anything other than my email. Furthermore I run webmessengers constantly (even when I am away). That is more than enough for me.

Same with bloody cell phones. Those I hate even more.

/ Start rant
I think it is a sign of importance if you don't have one, as abut 98.4% of all conversations are totally irrelevant (what do we eat today for dinner, mommy?), and more often than not the conversations are obliterating the peace, as everybody is forced to the inane rambling. Try to read a good book, when someone is talking about his / her latest dating disaster. And you cannot help but listen. And because you do, the conversation gives more than half a dozen clues why the disaster occured.

/ End rant

TKDLady · 03-13-2008, 08:35 PM

Good rant Vautrin!!!

Duke · 03-13-2008, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Vautrin

/ Start rant
I think it is a sign of importance if you don't have one, as abut 98.4% of all conversations are totally irrelevant (what do we eat today for dinner, mommy?), and more often than not the conversations are obliterating the peace, as everybody is forced to the inane rambling. Try to read a good book, when someone is talking about his / her latest dating disaster. And you cannot help but listen. And because you do, the conversation gives more than half a dozen clues why the disaster occured.

/ End rant

The same can be said for our discussion forums and that's a scary thought indeed.

TKDLady · 03-13-2008, 09:21 PM

I guess maybe we need a bit more meat on our bones, so to speak. But to be honest, I come here to get away from it all for the most part. There are times I need help with things but I like the friendship and easy banter we all share. I hope that never changes.

Luba · 03-14-2008, 06:23 AM

In TOTAL agreement with TKDLady and Vautrin!

Duke · 03-14-2008, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by TKDLady

I guess maybe we need a bit more meat on our bones, so to speak. But to be honest, I come here to get away from it all for the most part. There are times I need help with things but I like the friendship and easy banter we all share. I hope that never changes.

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Originally Posted by Vautrin

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Originally Posted by Duke

The same can be said for our discussion forums and that's a scary thought indeed.

As long as you don't come up with a module here that reads all the posts out loud, I think we are not like that.

Openness and banter are important aspects. Makes people feel at home, and also helps to distract them from the everyday conundrum. But, when a topic pops up for support, we need to remain dedicated to the TC, and remain on topic as much as possible. The odd off-topic post in such a thread is no biggie (sometimes laughter is a good medicine).

Personally I'm starting to think all the open banter is sewing the seeds of our downfall. We're simply not attracting our target audience and we're not even close to what I visioned when I put us online almost 4 years ago. Instead of becoming a self help resource we've turned into a Funny Farm and to be completely honest, I'm nearing my wits end with it.

Don't get me wrong, the banter, lightheartedness and fun is all necessary but it really shouldn't be throughout our forums. If someone is really hurting what possible reason could they have for coming here and bearing their soul to a goof forum?

Regardless of whether or not any of what I've said is accurate I can definitely state one thing for a fact; I setup Lifesupporters.com as a vehicle to deal with my own personal issues and to give others a similar vehicle to do the same. Today, if I were searching for a fun community with a great bunch of caring, supportive and fun loving people I'd register in a heartbeat but if I were looking for a place to understand depression, abuse, addiction, recovery, infidelity, rape, self esteem/self image, etc., I'd definitely continue my search.

The past 4 months has been the busiest here in site history with an average of over 10,000 unique IP's/month and we only attract an average of one member/day with this month trailing off to .5 members/day.

Regardless of what anyone thinks we are not going forward, we've stalled and the signs are all pointing to a downhill slide. The worst part of this is that it's 110% all my fault but I'm tiring of this place and coming back is becoming a chore instead of fulfilling as it once was.

Sorry to hijack the thread folks but in all honesty this site is a full 180 from where I thought we'd be heading and it's wearing me down.

Please don't PM me about this because I'm working on a post to explain all the above but it's a novel so it's taking longer than expected. I hope to have everything available to you all sometime this weekend but I'll warn you now, its open, honest and very much to the point.

The point is this, if we can't segregate our forums so fun stuff is in one area and issues are in others, properly titled and indexed, we will die a slow and painful death. If this growth trend is indeed stalling and continues to fall off I won't be able to watch it happen, not again. I've simply sunk in wayyyy too much time, money and passion into getting us here so I can't bear to watch whats happening now.

Again, I'm not blaming anyone here other than myself so there's no reason for anyone to take anything personally.

Zil · 03-14-2008, 09:48 PM

Um... yeah, I'll just wait for your post you mentioned.

Duke · 03-15-2008, 12:21 AM

I didn't mean it as an insult Zil.

darkangelism · 03-15-2008, 02:02 AM

im all anxious now waiting for it, as the oldest active member besides duke, im sure ill have an opinion

TKDLady · 03-15-2008, 07:03 AM

I am sorry you feel that way Duke. I think this is a wonderful site for people to come and share their burdens.

Zil · 03-15-2008, 10:57 AM

I know that... but it did really rub me the wrong way, I think.

I'm still waiting on the official post, I guess, before I share my thoughts.

Luba · 03-15-2008, 11:01 AM

I'm also waiting for the Official Post, checking in quite consistently. Whatever Duke's decision, I will do what it takes to help if I can.

Duke · 03-15-2008, 02:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Zil

I know that... but it did really rub me the wrong way, I think.

I'm still waiting on the official post, I guess, before I share my thoughts.

Well I'm very sorry it rubbed you the wrong way Zil but it's been rubbing me the wrong way for some time now. If I'm not open and honest about it and don't deal with it now I'll be faced with an even tougher decision in the future.

The other thing about this is that this site should afford me the vehicle to be honest about my feelings as well. If I can't honestly communicate my thoughts about the site then having it in the first place represents a colossal waste of time.