life priorities

[darkangelism]

My life priorities are all messed up. I hate school, i have a final tomorrow morning, im not not sure im gonna pass. Im pretty worried. But im like oh well its just school. I put my friends and potential gf in front of studying.

I just want school to end forever, have a job, get a wife and start having her pop out babies...or adopting(though im against that unless its necesscary)

[dogula]

You're against providing a home to a kid that does not have one?

[Duke]

da, has there ever been a time in your life when you've been truly happy?

I hope the question doesn't come across wrong but I'm curious.

[darkangelism]

Yeah when i was five years old. In high school i was a lot mor depressed then now. Im not really that bad now, it just seems lik it because i dont talk about good things in my life...maybe after my test ill post about some of those and not seem so depressed.

Dogula- No im not against adoption, it just isnt for me, unless i had to have no kids otherwise. I am adopted, and yes i benefited a lot, but i have deep down insecurities from it. Love is one of those, its the real reason why i want a gf not for sex or anything like that. I mean yeah on the other hand i wouldnt be alive now if i wasnt adopted. Really i just parents to take care of their kids.

[Merika]

Adoption is usually a decision you don't think too much about until you are in the position where it becomes something you want to do or perhaps have to do in order to build your family. I think adoptive parents ofen times appreciate their children more so than those who give birth to their own. I always wanted to adpot an orphan from another country....just to give them a chance....but never was able to get far in the process. It's VERY expensive.

DA....I think you are spending more time looking at the end result....rather than counting the cost of getting there. The trick is....to find joy and fun within the cost counting time.

Everyone has tough times in their life. In reading the posts, Stoneheather and Star are both facing tremendous challenges. I raise two kids alone and have just about went broke waiting on the settlement amount to be dispursed. There are other people on here who also are going thru valley's in their life.

I'm not minimizing any problem or depression you may be feeling.....I'm only suggesting that you put them in persepctive and realize how many GOOD THINGS you have going for you. You are young, intelligent, have a career choice and the means to accomplish that choice. A wife and babies can come way later. Enjoy the NOW! Because trust me....it won't get much better along the way in terms of responsibilities and life problems.

[Stone]

A wife and kids should be the FARTHIEST thing from you mind right now dear, I am only 24 and I'm one number 2, although I love my kids dearly. I wish I would have waited untill I was in my 30's. Your young you have the opportunity to get a career, travel the country or the world, buy yourself nice things, nice cars a nice home, whatever you want can be yours... with children it is nearly impossible.

At 24 years old I am dreaming of retirement already, in my youth, so I can travel.... you have the world by the balls kido use it, be sucessful, love yourself, spend quality time with your faimly, Travel, find new hobbies, get into politics do whatever because once the responsibility of a faimly comes along you are nolonger anyones 1st priority... I'll trade places with you anyday.

[Fayebelle]

It is human nature to want what you don't have. Trust me- plenty of people who are married w/kids would love to go to college, be single, and have the hugest stressor be final exams. (not that I'm making light of exams- they are stressful)

Try to take a few moments every day to focus on where you are now- not where you want to be- and think about how you can make THIS day the best you possibly can.

When you were 5 you only wanted to be happy and make others happy- to get thru the day w/out sadness or injury while learning new things- try to make that your goal now and see if you don't feel a bit lighter. There is a pure beauty in simplicity that can have a positive effect on us all

[Merika]

Great post Fayebelle! I've never thought how we close out our own momentary happiness due to making everything so complicated....while missing the simple pleasures.

I'm guilty of doing that all the time. :oops:

[Star]

I couldn't of said all that better myself stonehather and merika.

As troublesome life is, I always try to look at the brighter side of things. Life isn't all bad, there are a lot of good too. So you don't like school. So what? who really does anyways? You're very lucky to have that opportunity to be educated. Have fun with it!

I never finished my education. I always inteneded on going back but my kids took priority over my own wants. I was going to go back in january but yet again, it's on hold awhile longer because we have erika here now. So, you are very lucky that you have nothing holding you back. that's a brighter side.

you're carefree, young and have a whole future ahead of you. A family will come later in life when it's the right time for you. No need to want to rush into that one!

[Fayebelle]

It's why we love pets- they are role models in simplicity. Watching a puppy chase its tail will relax you b/c it forces you to enjoy the simple moments of life. You can't make a mental To Do list when you are riding off on a horse. You just have to BE- and there is happiness in every moment of life b/c all we have to do is BE. Everything else is static and complications we create.

[Merika]

Tell you what I'll do DA....we can trade places.

I'll give you my two kids and all those headaches, all my bills, my house and the dog and cat. You can hang out here on the beach and find you a nice Navy girl to marry.....there are plently around.

I'll go to NYC.....go to college in your place....and party all the time!

HAHAHA!

[Star]

Originally Posted by Merika

Tell you what I'll do DA....we can trade places.

I'll give you my two kids and all those headaches, all my bills, my house and the dog and cat. You can hang out here on the beach and find you a nice Navy girl to marry.....there are plently around.

I'll go to NYC.....go to college in your place....and party all the time!

HAHAHA!

When does the bus leave? I'm going to! LOL!

[Merika]

LOL Star!

This reminds me of when I first graduated from High School and my Dad was going to charge me something like $125 a month for room and board and pay my way thru college as opposed to me getting married. I told him 'NO WAY'....I'm going to get married and have a REAL life. He advised me I was in the best years of my life and too stupid to even know it.

He was right. I wish they would take that $125 NOW.....I would live in my old room FOREVER and be very happy! If I knew then what I know now....they would've NEVER gotten rid of me.

[darkangelism]

Yeah i kno i have a lot because of it, but sometimes i question it thats all.

i dont want kids quite yet, i wasnt saying not have school and start having a family, but id like to start sooner rather then later. I will be done with school in a year, have a chance to do stuff. Im a business major, i will have lots of money... otherwise id quit school and be a computer tech, im already certified.


We can switch for aweek if you want,lol. Or maybe just come to NYCand party,lol.

[Star]

I'd love to be 16 again and know what i know now. I would have done things differently! I would've stayed at home and got my education and become what i wanted to become in life. then i would've married and had a family. Do it right! I'd love to have my parents suport me too! to have no worries about paying the bills, rent, etc... sounds like a dream place to be!

[darkangelism]

My parents only buy me food...i owe them my tuition after i graduate. about $120,000