drinking

darkangelism · 02-04-2005, 04:01 AM

i know a lot of you have been impacted by drinking....i am becoming an alcoholic, i know this, i was drinking tonight and all my friends left and i stayed to drink more, i made new friends but i realize that i am going to end up bad if i dont control myself.

Merika · 02-04-2005, 07:45 AM

Drinking for a longer amount of time than your friends doesn't make you an alcoholic. Drinking often, as a college age young man, doesn't make you an alcoholic. However, if you think you are drinking too much and it is interfering with your life.....then take a break from it.

Unlike other people, I don't consider it a disease. It's about will power and keeping a focus on what is more important to you..........your life and family.......or getting a buzz.

If you want to do well in college and find a mate for life.....generally drowning yourself in alcohol will not get you either.

You are almost 21. You are an adult and need to make adult choices for yourself and your future.

Star · 02-04-2005, 08:03 AM

You're at an age where drinking is a big part of your life. I don't know anyone who didn't party at the age you're at and party big time, including myself. That doesn't make you an alcoholic at all. It is quite normal for a guy your age to party. As long as you keep your priorities straight and focus on what's important for your future, then I don't think there is any problem.

Fayebelle · 02-04-2005, 09:28 AM

Unlike Merika I think alcoholism IS a disease

That doesn't mean you have it though :wink:

college and drinking often go hand and hand

BUT if your drinking is having negative effects on your life or YOU just aren't comfortable w/it - I DEFINATELY recommend stopping by an AA meeting, listening to the stories, and deciding if you feel you can control it on your own

Often it is easier to go to AA before the drinking spirals out of control and it is easier to return than to go the 1st time so I would recommend stopping by one time just to get a feel for it in case it's a resource you ever need

Sorta like taking a tour of the library BEFORE your term paper is 2 weeks late

darkangelism · 02-04-2005, 11:10 AM

i think im fine, im not really sure why i posted that, i think that if i dont go overboard with it, it will be fine.

twinkle · 02-04-2005, 01:16 PM

I think some people are mone genetically prone to drinking than others. So look it up in your family...

I cannot say I hate the drinking, it's violence when drinking that scares the **** out of me! I think that drinking is like smoking: you think you can quit at anytime... but you eventually don't.

I was reading this post of an alcoholic girl: she was saying that the worst part was when going out with her friends, as she didn't drink a drop of alcohol. The frustration, the people around not understanding, the pressure.

Try not to get there even if it's for the only reason that you'll have to give it all up after that

!

darkangelism · 02-04-2005, 02:49 PM

i am adopted so i dont know if i am genetically prone to it. Right now my drinking isnt that bad and i took "are you an alcoholic" quizzes and i wasnt, im just worried that i might become one and more then likely im causeing myself needless stress.

twinkle · 02-04-2005, 03:32 PM

My dad had an alcohol problem when I was a kid. HE got it in control ver the years, but I was old enough to remember the worst part.

And he didn't even realise what he was doing to us, with the endless shouting and fights and tension... This is why I ask you to forgive me if I come real hard on you at times.

I've felt it's potential to damage everyone. DA, if ever alcohol gets a hold of you, itwon't ruin your life alone. But that of your parents, closest friends, probably the person you love most too. You hurt everyone.

Think about that before opening the third beer.

I'm glad to hear that you're getting help. As MErika said, although I don't minimise the role of the institutions and counseling, the key element is you. Use everything you can to keep control. The fact that you've alreaady taken steps to prevent this is more than encouraging...

I find working out the toughest thing in the world

. I have a huge motivation problem here. I wish I had your will.

Duke · 02-04-2005, 08:22 PM

I don't think your an alcoholic da, maybe a hypochondriac though

jk

Your young, you should be drinking your face off till your mid to late 20's unless you meet a girl and shack up, then you'll prolly drink like a fish the rest of your life.