Bridging Gender Differences.

[Duke]

I wonder if there's a way to bridge the differences in our two genders and increase understanding of your fellow man, or woman.

Women and men are born with much different traits and even have key differences in the brain that determine how we interact with the world around us. Women are born more in touch with their emotions and have been scientifically proven to develop sooner than boys when it comes to early speech, vocabulary and understanding emotions. Boys on the other hand are born much more in touch with the physical and problem solving skills which is why most people who have a son notice everything either broken or purposely dismantled around the house.

Is there a way to bridge these gaps or to maybe better understand each other? I wonder that if we actually worked on our core understanding of the opposite sex at a young age, maybe we'd have a chance at success in a relationship or possibly long term commitments. Just a thought.

[darkangelism]

nature made us different for a reason, and our interactions at young ages has mental implications, so changing it would change society a lot, i think it is changing and thats why kids have having sex so young

[Star]

kids have always had sex young. kids are just more so sex educated then we were when we were kids which makes them more open to sex which is why I think there are more kids having sex these days then in the past years. Most of my friends when I was young weren't virgins anymore at the age of 13-14.

I don't know that I would want a man to be totally in tune with me as a woman. Our differences may be frustrating at times but the differences we do have are sacred to both genders. The differences, I feel, are the things that do balance a relationship. If we were too much alike, it would be disasterous.

I don't think i'd like a man being too emotional with me. I think that would drive me nuts in the end. Know what I mean?

[Merika]

Oh....you want me to try to figure out why men don't become mature until they've exhausted all other possibilities? HAHA!

Personally, I think men should stay men and women should stay women. When they try to merge and blend....it messes up the spark and pizazz. Trying to figure out the opposite sex is what makes the world go round.

[Duke]

I'm not talking about merging our understanding so much as gaining understanding. Our divorce rate is rediculous and doesn't look like happily ever after is a believable concept for many. I just thought that better understanding could one day help people stay together longer.

[darkangelism]

But is it really a lack of understanding that causes divorce?

[Duke]

Prolly that and communication.

[Star]

that and too many people marrying the wrong people. not getting to really know the person before marrying them. not taking vows seriously, there are several reasons why people divorce. everyone has their own story.

I know that hubby does try to be sentitive with my emotions. If I'm crying he will hold me and tell me it will al work out, if I'm sad, he'll console me... that's all the understanding that I need. Men do have a nice way to show that they love their women (most men do anyways) and vise versa.

It would be nice if divorce went down statistacally but unfortunately there are people that will make mistakes in choosing their partners for life. Some are more excited about having their big day where all the attention is on them instead of really thinking "if he/she is really the right one to be marrying" others will settle out of loneliness.

I think it's more about understanding ourselves better then understanding the other gender. what do you think?

[darkangelism]

I agree, knowing ones self helps in choosing the right partner.

[Duke]

The thing is star that not all men respond to their wives emotional needs as well as your husband does. I know that when I was younger I'd rather leave the room than actually stay and console my partner. I'm much different than that now but it only came from making mistakes over and over again. The problem is that I did eventually gain the understanding but I feel that I hurt some nice gals unnecessarily in the process of my learning.

[Star]

Maybe my husband learned as well through trial and error, I don't know. I didn't know him long before we got together. Maybe that's all it is is learning through ones mistakes.

We've all hurt people in our lives in the past. I know I did. I broke many hearts that didn't deserve it and learned something through that. It's really good that you know you've learned from these mistakes duke. In making those mistakes, you've also taught the girls something as well at the same time. Life is a huge learning experience from beginning to the end.

Maybe poeple are getting married too soon; before they've made these kinds of mistakes and learned from them. I don't know.

I just feel really lucky that I am in a good marriage. We do have our rough edges like everyone else does but we handle it in a way that works for us. I just wish that everyone could be happy too.

I really do believe that one has to be happy with themselves and love themselves before they can be happy or love another. Those things reflect on a relationship and helps to make it grow. The rest all falls into place.

[Duke]

I guess that I'm curious that if I had known how my inadequacies would affect my partners that I may not have hurt so many, maybe even saved a relationship (I've blown my share of good ones).

I also believe that a better understanding of the opposite sex or, at least, your partner would save and/or stop more marriages from either breaking up or happening in the first place. I'm a real believer in knowledge is power and know for a fact that I had no idea what was going on in my first dozen or so relationships.

[darkangelism]

another way to get a better understanding is this site, i know that i have learned plenty

[Star]

then the answer would be to truly get to know your partner deep down inside. that way you can't fail right? Keep yourself open for her to get to know your inner-self and you get to know hers.