top dog - problems at work

[PepsiChic]

Everyday i go to work and i dread it, really really dread it, i hate my boss, i hate his assistant too. I go in and the atmosphere could be cut with a knife, the entire night team are struggling to get along with the manager, and they hate the assistant. so from the moment we all walk inside at 10pm and rush out again at 7am, we are so tense and stressed.

now i even get stressed and upset before i even get into the building walking to work i get slower and slower and im sure one day i'll just stop and turn back. tell them where to stick their job and leave. but its the only place possible to get a job in this town, and untill i have enough money to move and can maybe get a transfer im stuck in that store.

if you wonder what my job is btw, i work in a supermarket filling shelfs at night when the store is closed to the public, its not the most exciting job in the world but i get about $16 an hour.

as for what my manager and his assistant does thats so bad...nothing! thats the problem! they sit and watch us work, now the managers role is to do so much time in the office and a bit on the floor, but they never do anything on the floor, the staff end up picking up his work and doing more then we should, and we dont get a thanks or anything for it. then the manager tells us he expects us to do such and such in a certain amount of time and this and that in another set amount of time so we can go do what he was suppose to be doing, and then we get penalized for not finishing it.

The assistant is worse, he came into the role as a trainee manager with a born arrogance, being the assistant has made that grow into a full blow "im in charge and the rest of you mean sh1t" so hes happy to walk around barking orders at people and then threatening disciplinary action if we dont seem to be doing it his way, which changes every day and no matter what you can NEVER do anything right for this guy.

big example last night, i went outside on my lunch break, to sit and chill out the smokers go out too and they'd be there in about 10mins, once they got their coffees from the canteen, i dont drink coffee so i went straight outside. seconds later the assistant came out, yelling and telling me to go back inside because A. i shouldnt be outside at 3am by myself and B i dont smoke so i shouldnt be out there anyway.

now people sit out there by themselves alone all the time on break, but this guy HATES me and really really puts down everything i do, its always not good enough no matter how hard i try i could break my back for this guy and he'd still spit on me.theres a camera trained on the spot outside a guy watching it, lights blinding the place you could see someone coming a mile away, so being alone is fine. and does it matter if i smoke or not? i like to sit outside and relax, i do it to get away from him in the canteen! i was so upset by this point i yelled back told him to just leave me alone i was here doing my job before he started as assistant manager. NOW i might be facing an informal discussion and a disciplinary which could ruin it for me if i want to aim for a promotion.

*sigh* im not looking for answers with this post, im not after ways to solve it, ive given up well past that point, i guess i should of said all this sooner, its been going on for months, but ive just shut it all away because i keep thinking "maybe hes right maybe i can do better should do better" and i push myself till i end up ill, i take a few days off work to try and get myself together to go back, just because of this nightmare.

im so very sorry for this huge rant, im so very tempted to hit the backspace key and just delete it all, but im far to distress, upset, and depressed i dont know what to do anymore. i cant quit but i just dont think i can fight it.

ah sh1t, i dont even know why or what i want from posting this,

im sorry

[darkangelism]

aww, *hugs* yeah i would say that you really should start looking for a job elsewhere then.

[Vautrin]

Sorry to hear you have such an awful time, GG. Perhaps you should make a sound recording of their behavior (if such a thing is feasible, and lawful) - such proof of their appaling behavior never hurts. As for company guide lines, they apparently don't do their job properly...

[Weiser]

Oh man oh man...We had a boss like that before - he didn't last too long after what we put him through hehe.

Let's see, stuck a fish under his car seat in the summer, covered his car in toilet paper on one occassion, seran wrapped it and then duct taped it on another occasion, filled his locker with flour, refused to do work, ignored him for an entire shift. Oh man those were the days! Like I said he didn't stay a dick for too long after that!

[PepsiChic]

well as much as id love to do that id be the only one doing it and therefore id loose my job, im by far the youngest person in my work place, the assistant is 25, and then everyone else is 40+ i have nothing against them i love them all, very nice bunch of people to work with, but not the kind to go wrapping up someones car.

so today i missed 2 lunch breaks because i was told that i wasnt allowed to sit outside with the smokers and i had to go when the assistant decided was best. so i stayed working on the floor instead, by the 3rd break i had enough and went outside and just sat and cried for what seemed ages, i just wanna give up but i dont wanna be defeated and i need the job the money to live. he is just a bully and i know that, but i just let him get awy with it because hes in charge and hes intimidating nd i just know if i do say anything i'll end up fired. and he'd love that. *sigh* another stressful night at work.

[darkangelism]

go complain to somebody above them. You should not cry at work.

[PepsiChic]

i dont see the point, ive considered it many a times, but both their words (manager and assistant) vs mine (a GA) might not go down so well, and if they find out ive tried i may get fired. i need to think very carefully about what i do, i got this weekend off actually makes a nice change saturday sunday and monday, a break i really need!

[Duke]

Look on the bright side gg, at least your figuring out how crappy your work is before you've put in too much time there. I've worked at my job for half my life (19.3 years) and I hate it with a passion yet I'm pretty much stuck there because I was too stupid to go elsewhere.

[Luba]

GG, who am I to try and make you feel better at this time when I'm at the lowest point myself about something entirely different...but because I love you I will try...

I got to THE lowest point at my last job, even to constanty complaining to anyone that would listen....I just hated what it was doing to my peace of mind but was unable to stop...once it starts it's like poison working inside you. BTW, please don't feel you have to apologize for posting what you are going through, that is precisely why I believe Duke started Lifesupporters, it's not just about the good, it's about helping to clear up what's poisoning us inside and be able to carry on....

Anyway, back to my last job. It got to the point that I would get a stomach ache and want to throw up every time I inserted the key in the door (I had to open up in the mornings). The ONLY peace I had was the one hour where I balanced the tills and the figures before others showed up...I literally started to hate our Assistant Manager and I'm not a hateful person...there was no way I could talk to the Manager about it because there was some gossip going around the two of them that I won't go into...

I knew I just had to do something; this situation was changing me into someone I started disliking immensely, I started to dislike being in my own skin and, of course, how does one shed that?

I grabbed on to the ONLY bit of sense of humour I had left, and believe me, it was just a tiny bit. I decided I would apply to this huge Company that I work for now...I just knew I couldn't go on indefinitely where I was. So I said to myself I would take a Resume or letter to this Company every two weeks for however long it would take...either they would get sick of all my Resumes/letters and hire me; or I would just keep going until I got too old to move...just with that decision alone I felt somewhat better. I HAD MADE A DECISION! Well, within two weeks and my second letter I got a call from the Owner/Boss and I literally cried at the interview because I was SO grateful to be out of the hell I was in before. I don't know if anyone has sobbed at an interview, but I just am who I am. He offered me Kleenex along with the job. The rest is history...I love him, his Company, and my peace of mind.

Sometimes what seems blackest comes the dawn when you just KNOW you have to do something, anything....I should heed my own advice at this difficult time. (Incidentally I did finally break down and have two small glasses of wine during a particularly difficult moment in these two weeks).

People were telling me that there were no jobs to be had when I was complaining and that I should just stay where I was. Since I don't believe in buying into that; even starting at a lower wage and adjusting one's life accordingly brings a certain peace. I now make more than I ever did with my other dead-end job even though I had started at a lower wage that I was getting previously. I just had to bite the bullet and move on...sometimes, GG, life has a way of saying you have to get out of the comfort zone, even if comfort definitely doesn't apply at these types of jobs, and be willing to bring Resumes to Companies/places that don't seem to be hiring at the moment.

Walking in and dropping off a Resume with a bright, sunshiny smile and a great attitude (even though you are crying inside) leaves a good impression with the person taking the Resume. Saying some kind words sincerely about why you are applying also helps.

Wishing you good fortune in whatever you decide to do, you wonderful girl, and we're always here for you!

[PepsiChic]

i wish i could give you a big hug and we could just sit and cry together with a big box of chocolates and an even bigger box of kleenex

your the most amazing person to post and try and help me while being in such a down situation already, i cant thank you enough for helping me and supporting me luba i only hope i can do the same for you, you are amazing never forget that, i love you too!

[Luba]

Originally Posted by GamerGal

i wish i could give you a big hug and we could just sit and cry together with a big box of chocolates and an even bigger box of kleenex

your the most amazing person to post and try and help me while being in such a down situation already, i cant thank you enough for helping me and supporting me luba i only hope i can do the same for you, you are amazing never forget that, i love you too!

Your beautiful post brought tears to my eyes and lately, they've just been waiting on the corners to water my face! I think you are an AMAZING young lady and I love you very much!

[Duke]

Actually to correct one thing, Lifesupporters.com was never about the good, that's just a side effect of having great members. Lifesupporters.com was founded on the principles of facing the crap in your lives and trying to deal/heal. Of course we love to hear good news as well but that was never a part of the sites focus originally.

Just thought I'd share that tidbit.

[PepsiChic]

its ok duke we love you too! me and luba are full of love to share