The Company Christmas Party....OH NO!

Ayla · 12-09-2005, 03:20 PM

Okay, here's the deal. Our company Christmas party is next weekend. No big deal right? WRONG. They're having it at this exremely fancy resturaunt that is like formal dress. It's one of those places that the men have to have jackets on or they won't let them in.

Yeah, one of those.

The thing is...that's not my kind of place. My husband and I don't go in for that stuff. He doesn't OWN a pair of dress pants let alone a suit jacket. I don't have anything other than a couple of denim dresses I wear to the occasional church service. I don't have the extra money to go out and buy a formal type of dress and him a pair of dress slacks and a suit jacket.

At this point I'm think of calling my boss that night and making up some story about someone getting sick.

I don't know what to do.

darkangelism · 12-09-2005, 03:51 PM

Yeah you shouldnt go buy that stuff just for the party...though i would say that you might want to invest in that kinda stuff eventually. A nice suit is easily a few hundred dollars, so yeah call in sick, or some other small emergency.

Duke · 12-09-2005, 07:19 PM

Our company party is next weekend as well but I won't be going. After close to 18 years of the same thing, I've decided staying home is a much better plan.

Luba · 12-10-2005, 08:48 AM

Ayla, do you feel pressured to go to the Party? I don't think a Company should be doing that, if that is the case. As long as you do your job that should be enough...

I just go to ours when I feel like it, and as much as I LOVE the Company I work for, I don't feel pressured at all to go to the Party...and they put on a HUGE spread...I feel that my time off is my own...

Ayla · 12-10-2005, 01:44 PM

They aren't really pressuring me to be there. This is my first year with this company so they kind of expect me to be there though. I've been there for around 4 months now and nobody bothered to mention to me that the Christmas parties are always held at places like this and are almost always black tie.

Had I known this I would have made sure I had something to wear instead of waiting until the Christmas season to find something. It's a large company nationwide, but locally the party is going to be a small affair. Around 20-30 people.

I love the company I work for. I love my bosses. (How odd.) I just don't think they should have black tie parties when we don't make THAT much money there!

Anyway, I talked to my husband last night and we've decided not to go. It will actually hurt my bosses feelings if we don't go so that's why I"m going to wait until that day and call and make up some kind of story

Stupid and kind of high-schoolish but...what else am I gonna do?

Weiser · 12-10-2005, 02:40 PM

Tell them the truth?

Ayla · 12-13-2005, 12:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Weiser

Tell them the truth?

Nah can't do that. Got to much of something called PRIDE.

"Um...hey boss...I can't come to the party cause I'm broke and can't buy anything to wear to it."

Yeah that's not happening because then they'd try to advance me the money and frankly I don't want them to advance me anything.

Yeah. It's called Pride.

Go ahead... :roll:

darkangelism · 12-13-2005, 01:19 PM

yeah i understand the pride thing, though sometimes you have to let it go, though i think i would have a hard time saying the truth in this situation.

Luba · 12-13-2005, 07:13 PM

So the Party is this coming Saturday? Let us know how it went and if you and your husband did have a good time...

Luba · 12-13-2005, 07:14 PM

My last post makes no sense...the first sentence is about the future..the next one is about the past...must be the drop of Carolans in my coffee :oops:

darkangelism · 12-13-2005, 07:52 PM

and the fact that she isnt going.

Duke · 12-13-2005, 11:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Ayla

Quote:

Originally Posted by Weiser

Tell them the truth?

Nah can't do that. Got to much of something called PRIDE.

"Um...hey boss...I can't come to the party cause I'm broke and can't buy anything to wear to it."

Yeah that's not happening because then they'd try to advance me the money and frankly I don't want them to advance me anything.

Yeah. It's called Pride.

Go ahead... :roll:

You can come to my place and wear no clothes.

Vautrin · 12-14-2005, 01:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Duke

You can come to my place and wear no clothes.

And how, if broke? Travel expenses?

Or are you suddenly stepping up with some financial backing?

darkangelism · 12-14-2005, 02:41 AM

well airfare is cheap, though im not so sure her husband will like that.

twinkle · 12-14-2005, 06:59 AM

I don't really buy that "I don't have enough money for a dress and a suit".

You don't feel like spending that money on a dress and a suit and that's understandale. However you are working for a large multinational, therefore beside the paycheck, some other obligations are involved. "Moral obligations" I call them. And you don't have to comply with them.

But I honestely think you should. Because there will be other occasions, other celebrations, other things and I think it's a shame to be missing out on them.

Don't buy a dress, buy a skirt, a pair of trousers and 2 or 3 blouses that you can switch and you're off the hook for at least one year - (feel free to change the quantities, btw :oops: ).

Try to get a likin' to the idea, fancy restaurants are so not that dreadful. You'd be fitting in the crowd and meeting your collegues and their spouses and guess what... there's a chance you might actually like it.

Hugs,

Twinkles[/b]