Where is...?

[Ayla]

Merika? Since I've been back I kept thinking someone was missing and just realized i haven't seen any post from her.

[Duke]

Merika had family issues to tend to a few years back. I know there was a lot going on in her life so she needed to take the time she was spending on line and put it toward other elements of her life.

As with most people I thought this would be a temporary thing but it looks as if it's a lot more than temporary. I've contacted her via e-mail a few times but it sounds as if she has no interests in returning; not just here but in general.

I miss her a lot too; maybe it's time I contact her again and see if I can peer pressure her into dropping by (I doubt it though).

[PepsiChic]

maybe its best she was left to the real world if she has already stated that she cant come back?

sometimes asking her lots will only make her feel guilty and more withdrawn. if shes had an ultimatum or something from family/friends then she just cant come back to a risk of loosing something else very important.

i never got to meet her, and now probably wont be able to, but everyones said great things about her, so everyone should be glad for the time they got to spend with such a wonderful person but sometimes we just have to let go and move on as they have done.

[Ayla]

I lost contact with her, but we used to email a lot. i knew she was having a rough time with some things going on with her daughter...

I miss her being on here tho!

I think I'm going to email her just to see how she is, if nothing else.

[Duke]

Originally Posted by Ayla

I lost contact with her, but we used to email a lot. i knew she was having a rough time with some things going on with her daughter...

I miss her being on here tho!

I think I'm going to email her just to see how she is, if nothing else.

If you do would you mind passing on the message that I miss her terribly as well?

[TKDLady]

Originally Posted by Ayla

I lost contact with her, but we used to email a lot. i knew she was having a rough time with some things going on with her daughter...

I miss her being on here tho!

I think I'm going to email her just to see how she is, if nothing else.

That goes for me too. She said she would send me her new e-mail address but I never heard from her again. I miss her.

[Luba]

Originally Posted by Duke

If you do would you mind passing on the message that I miss her terribly as well?

Originally Posted by TKDLady

That goes for me too. She said she would send me her new e-mail address but I never heard from her again. I miss her.

Me, too! BIG Time!

[Meanon]

I think there's some truth behind the cliche of letting someone go if you love them. Then missing them is no longer a sad thing, but a fond, happy memory of good times.

I'm reading a book that talks about the most important people in your life sometimes coming into your life to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leaving. Merika had that gift, that ability to connect with people and the warmth and wisdom to help them admit painful truths to themselves. At times when we are struggling to cope with the changes life brings, I think we find people like this, to help us along the journey.

This is the way I see my friendship with Merika, who helped me when I needed it most, just as I helped her. I am blessed to have known her and wish her well on her journey.

[Weiser]

I miss her too

[Duke]

Originally Posted by Meanon

I think there's some truth behind the cliche of letting someone go if you love them. Then missing them is no longer a sad thing, but a fond, happy memory of good times.

Oh go hug a tree or something.

It's easy to accept when people come in and out of your life because that's just the way it goes. Unfortunately (at least in my case), I find it very difficult to let go of personalities that have affected change in myself and Merika was one such person.

I'm not going to stalk her or guilt her back but I will miss her, actively.

[Meanon]

Originally Posted by Duke

Oh go hug a tree or something.

I'm sappy enough already

Unfortunately (at least in my case), I find it very difficult to let go of personalities that have affected change in myself and Merika was one such person.

I'm not going to stalk her or guilt her back but I will miss her, actively

I think everyone feels like this about such people. I used to find it very difficult, especially as most of my close friendships are life long. As I've got older I find letting go much easier. Perhaps because I've had to do it several times, or maybe it's because of my work where others become very attached to me and we need to deal with that at the end of the relationship. I still miss people, but it doesn't feel bad the way it used to. I'm not sure whether that's because of the way I look at it, or because my life has changed so much - a bit of both, probably.