What do you call unstable?

[twinkle]

I was thinking about the definiton one has when they call someone "unstable".

Women are more emotionally unstable then men. Yet what's that thin barrier one crosses when the others are calling that person "unstable"?

Is it if they cry at commercials? Is it if they argue all the time? Is it if they cry out of anything? Is it if they get emotional over small things?

Do circumstances matter or not...?

I'm curious about your approach on this subject.

[Vautrin]

Is it if they cry at commercials?

No. Nor is shouting and cursing at the idiocy displayed at times a sign of instability. More a sign of low tolerance for idiocy.

Is it if they argue all the time?

No. It is when they cannot make up their minds, and if they do change it whimsically. That also applies to men.
I think men and women are roughly as unstable as the other sex. But what differs is how men and women show the instability. Men are more likely to develop a narcissistic personality disorder, and women are more likely to develop a borderline personality disorder for instance.

Is it if they cry out of anything?

That would suggest more than instability, I fear. More or less a mood disorder.

Is it if they get emotional over small things?

What may appear small to you is not necessary small to another person. For some people the particular smell of a particular flower may bring back the memories of an ex, their native village. Their youth. Just as certain behaviors of yourself can remind the other person of the ex.

Do circumstances matter or not...?

Yes, they absolutely do matter. The problem is of course, if we are rushed, and tired, we are not on our best to understand other people. And their needs. Often circumstances like that only worsen the effects of the onset of emotionality. Because we tend to get more and more angry, frustrated at each other, not understanding of each other.

It is not easy to approach it. But I try (and seem to succeed reasonably well) to understand people, and try to withhold my judgement on people for emotional / non-emotional behavior. Especially if I know that something might be up.
And I avoid discussions when we are both worn out, or one of us is. Because the slightest of inaccuracies in words can have a big effect. That is also something to consider if you do not have the same first language.

[Merika]

HAHA...notice Vautrin was the only one who answered....because the rest of us are too unstable to know what it means.

[darkangelism]

i would see unstable as unable to control emotions, either constantly crying to being violent angry.

[Weiser]

You wanna see unstable? Go watch part 2 of Wifeswap next wednesday.

Now there is one crazy b*tch.

[Stone]

LOL I Love that show..

unstable to me is someone that, has no life direction, has no job/ pr bounces from job to job, emotions are out of control, relationships are back and forth, no or little responsibility..

I consider my self unstable in my relationship :?

[Merika]

Originally Posted by Stone

I consider my self unstable in my relationship :?

I consider myself unstable in every area.....with the fun part being that I no longer care. I enjoy the unstability of my life....it keeps stuff interesting.