What do i do?

[Luba]

Thanks for posting that, Kathy; I have been on pins and needles wondering how you were and if you were okay! Please keep us posted on how your husband is doing, and how you and your daughter are keeping safe!

[kathy]

Well i am going to be staying with my husband cause he can't be left his own for obvious reasons, and now he is on medication i have sent my daughter to my parents i miss her already.

I'm going to stay with my husband on this he needs my help, no matter what he does to me i will still be there for him and thats the sacrafice im willing to take.

[Vautrin]

Originally Posted by kathy

So they have put on him benzodiazepines and lithium to keep him calm and relaxed. I did ask him if this will effect his memory or his mind and he said they shouldn't but its only tempory to see how it effects him, but i guess now its just a waiting game. I just hope this works.

Benzodiapines are an anti-anxiety medicine, but also can act as depressants. I hope they have taken your husband's driving license else he might cause an accident, because the medicine affect reaction times quite a bit.

However lithium, while it does have anti-depressive properties is used for people who suffer from bipolar disorder (manic depressive disorder). I know because I do.

Now, the two different explanations (anxiety and depression) are both part of the bi-polar syndrome. In that sense, the diagnosis makes sense, but the question is, if it is the correct diagnosis.

This means your husband probably qualifies for (paid for) psychotherapy. How is he feeling on the medicine?

[Vautrin]

Originally Posted by kathy

Well i am going to be staying with my husband cause he can't be left his own for obvious reasons, and now he is on medication i have sent my daughter to my parents i miss her already.

Hopefully it should not be too long, before the meds kick in.

I'm going to stay with my husband on this he needs my help, no matter what he does to me i will still be there for him and thats the sacrafice im willing to take.

But please, do not neglect yourself in the process. It is easy to do.

[kathy]

Don't worry Vautrin i won't neglect myself. Hes on his third day of medication now and it is slowly improving him. He is becoming more calm, there is less rage, he hasn't been violent yet. So i think all in all this medication is doing him some good but its still early days, i just hope this is what he needs to recover better

(I hope they have taken your husband's driving license else he might cause an accident, because the medicine affect reaction times quite a bit.) The answer for that Vautrin is i don't allow him to drive.

[Vautrin]

Glad there seems to be an improvement in the situation Kathy. Hope it will continue to improve.

[TKDLady]

Keep us posted on his and your progress Kathy. We are here for you.

[IvyRose]

Don't feel guilty leaving your daughter somewhere safe. Don't put that extra worry on your shoulders right now. You did the best thing for her and your husband. She doesn't need to see him like this and he would probably have been embarressed letting his daughter see him like this too.

Part of his anger may be embarrassment as well. When you lose abilities that you once had and know you need to be taken care of, you feel like a burden to your family.

I'm glad he's improving.

[Duke]

I too am glad he's improving but I still worry for your safety as well kathy. I sincerely hope that you have some sort of backup plan should your husband become violent in the future. I do believe what your doing is extremely noble however I don't think it should be at the risk of your own safety.

[kathy]

Thankyou for all your kind support, its just nice to have people to talk to i am so glad i have found this website, it is such a great website and there are some really great people on here.

The meds are working wonders for my husband at the moment, he has been really calma and relaxed, cheerful and more talkative, but the best thing is he hasn't been violent or negative the past few days which is really great. If it carries on like this for the next few weeks and the physians think he has improved greatly, then i can bring my daughter back home. I am so happy at the moment

[Vautrin]

That is wonderful! I hope the progress will continue. Is he going to get into a "talk"-therapy in the process as well?

[kathy]

We have decided for him to go counciling sessions next week, which i hope we make him better, and to be honest i think counciling is much more better and relaxing than psychiatrists but only time will tell how he will do

[Vautrin]

In general, combined therapy plus meds work best.

Hope it works out for the three of you.